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So embarrassed

222 replies

Notwithoutareason · 23/12/2015 17:39

Got some vouchers for dsis and Bil for Xmas for a restaurant as they like eating out.

Gave them today and they look up the food rating and it was low. Dsis was disgusted and gave them back saying "we can't even re gift that"

I'm so embarrassed :(

Did not occur to me to check first as although we had not eaten there ourselves it had been recommended to us and was local so we thought it was a nice present
I feel mortified

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MrsRobbStark · 23/12/2015 23:12

Please don't be embarrassed OP, it was a lovely thought and your sister is a snobby wanker!

If it makes you feel any better I handed my sister her present yesterday (an expensive bronzer she likes and a make up brush she wanted). She took one look and said 'It's the wrong brush' and stared at me like I was stupid. No thank you, no nothing just a big deal made over the fact I'd bought her the wrong brush. The one she wanted was the same brand but double the price and she never specified.

Madeyemoodysmum · 23/12/2015 23:15

Wouldn't even crossed my mind to check a rating for a gift. What an ungrateful cowbag.

DropYourSword · 23/12/2015 23:32

This should be next years Christmas present!

BitOutOfPractice · 23/12/2015 23:36

When people are this horrible, I always hope that korma will one day bite them on the arse.

Karma. Korma...I'll get my coat

GarlicCake · 23/12/2015 23:37

I liked, it, Bit Grin

Whatsername24 · 23/12/2015 23:47

That is so rude and ungrateful of her! You most definitely should not be feeling embarrassed and that would be the last present I ever bought for her if I were you.

Sonicandknuckles · 23/12/2015 23:47

I would open the gift she got you. Wrap it back up...no matter how much you like it and regift it back to her saying "Though you might like this. Bitch!"

Sonicandknuckles · 23/12/2015 23:48

Thought**

BabyGanoush · 23/12/2015 23:50

So graceless of the sister

Korma will bite them on their arse indeed Grin

bettyberry · 23/12/2015 23:51

DropYourSword oh gawd that's my siblings birthdays sorted 😁

ohtheholidays · 23/12/2015 23:56

OP your sisters response was not normal in anyway what so ever!

£100 your so generous and what a lovely thoughtful gift.Xmas Smile

I'd never buy her a present ever again and your Mum really needs to stop letting her get away with acting like a spoilt child.

FLAMBOLA · 23/12/2015 23:59
Shock
Bogeyface · 24/12/2015 00:02

MrsRobb what did you say/do?

I personally would have said "Oh is it? Let me have it back then" and wait for her to ask if I had exchanged it in order to say "No, I got a refund and spent it on me!"

Rafflesway · 24/12/2015 00:15

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LonestarStateOfMind · 24/12/2015 00:20

Hope you are feeling better now op, it's really not you who ought to be embarrassed. She was rude and ungrateful.

Fwiw the canteen at work is rated 5 and I would never ever eat in there, it is unhygienic.

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ouryve · 24/12/2015 00:25

I'm a little Shock that you gave her a £100 voucher when she gets nothing but a few bits like bubble bath?

Is there a good reason for the unequal gift giving?

AnotherTimeMaybe · 24/12/2015 00:35

What did you say when she gave them back to you?

BoomBoomsCousin · 24/12/2015 00:55

Your dsis was incredibly rude and so I would shelve my embarrassment in your shoes.. Nevertheless it doesn't sound like a great gift. Why would you give vouchers to a particular restaurant without checking if it's any good unless you either know they love it or have tried it yourself and think it's wonderful? It seems kind of lazy and thoughtless.

itsatrap · 24/12/2015 01:04

If someone was lazy and thoughtless enough to spend £100 on me I would be damn well grateful!!

Kryptonite · 24/12/2015 01:04

A HUNDRED POUND VOUCHER for a local restaurant that you thought they might like to go to as a Christmas present and they threw it back in your face with a "you can't even regift that?"
Fuck. ME. (And I never swear.) Honest to God, they'd be getting nothing next year. Or a cheap selection box of chocs of approx £2 in value if they were lucky and I was feeling generous.
I have a dsis and a BIL and bought a restaurant voucher for them last year. If they'd have looked up ratings and then scoffed, they'd have got nothing this year!
They didn't though, as they're decent people. We're brought up to say "if you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" and "be grateful and appreciative of what you do receive."

Kryptonite · 24/12/2015 01:13

Who looks up the food rating anyway!? I get trip advisor, but not the food hygiene rating

I do. I like to know what they've got as I'm nosey! However, there's no way in a million years I'd throw back a restaurant voucher to our local Indian from dsis with the words " you couldn't even regift that."
Plus, I'd still go even with a low rating as I love Indian. Smile
That is breathtakingly rude. You accept gracefully!

Headmelt · 24/12/2015 01:18

Xmas Shock your sister is shockingly rude. Learn from this experience and don't waste your hard earned cash on them next time.

Bogeyface · 24/12/2015 02:23

Nevertheless it doesn't sound like a great gift. Why would you give vouchers to a particular restaurant without checking if it's any good unless you either know they love it or have tried it yourself and think it's wonderful? It seems kind of lazy and thoughtless.

Well of course.

The OP's reaction clearly showed that she didnt give a toss. Hmm