DH thinks im stingy re kids gifts. im hurt.

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I excitedly showed my husband what I've bought our kids last night and he called me stingy. I was really annoyed and hurt as I think I've got enough, and they're nice presents too! I genuinely think he's being an arse.

My five year old is getting a Child's tablet, which I reluctantly bought but know will help with literacy etc. I think this is a massive present?

Roald dahl boxed collection which I KNOW he'll love, plus the usual Lego, annuals, dvds, stationery set, and a chocolate coin maker which he's been nagging me for ages. (Plus a ck jumper from tkmaxx which I love).

DH reckons he got sacks of stuff, but we didn't gets loads although my parents had the money, they just were sensible. I asked for a pair of trainers and more perfume, I don't need or want anything more.

I've told him I'm not buying any more and if he wants to go racing around toysrus or whatever, that's his problem.

So...am I a tightarse?

I suspect he needed an excuse to have a go at her. I also suspect that the car boot is not 'full of gifts' for her. There's probably one or two.

He's willy waving.

Hilarious!

Agadoo my youngest two are 5 & 7 and I have done exactly the same, I've spent around £150 each all in but i think it might look too much so some will be held back.

I think that sounds like loads. So, I take it that he'll be looking after the present buying from now on!

I hope he apologised then!

Word of warning - take back the chocolate maker before it is too late!!

The rest seems fine though!

Maybe he did what he did to go out and buy her stuff, and to be fair the things he got were good interactive things that will give them something to do on the day and boxing day that he can perhaps do with them - I actually think what he bought was quite sweet and well thought through! The rest of you are jealous as he also bought her presents enough to fill a car boot!!! Ha ha ha.

Jealous?

Are you him?

Op hasn't suggested general unhappiness with her dh, everyone has the odd incident in marriage where you get pissed off over something. You can't prepare for every disagreement that will crop up before marriage, it's a bit ott to give chapter and verse on his potential motivations based on this one thing!

The snobbery in here for anyone who spoils their children this one day of the year is horrible

I can appreciate that people have all sorts of emotional reasons for going overboard at Christmas, but I haven't yet heard a logical argument to explain why it is a good idea.

It makes more sense to buy things throughout the year as they are needed.

However, it's all relative and for some people £250 is spoiling and for others £250 is controlled and practical.

Why are pp not into tablets for kids there is nothing wrong with kids using technology its interactive educational and fun

Your husband is a knob, Yes let him watch while the toys get tossed aside and your ds is more interested in the box. Silly twit.

Sound like lovely presents to me. Ignore him.

Sounds great op. I stick pretty religiously to the want/need/wear/read line too and I'm glad I do when I see the massive haul they get from grandparents, aunts and uncles. Seriously, christmas is about creating memories, not landfill. This is what I quote to DPIL every year around October when they start stressing about what to buy the DCs. They think I'm a total killjoy because they're obsessed with material stuff, which doesnt bring them any happiness as far as I can see and can't understand why we're raising our children differently. I also don't buy much else the rest of the year except clothes and educational stuff, because if I did I would be drowning in a sea of toys. My kids love the toys they have and play with them loads and spend the rest of the time outside and that's fine by me.

Children seem to cost a great deal more when they get a bit older...so for a five year old, a couple of hundred seems a huge amount, while for a twelve or thirteen year old who wants or needs a laptop for school work, etc - it's just what you have to do, if you can.

My advice is usually to save any spare cash you have for then..