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to like having grey / white hair : its proves I have lived a good life

100 replies

Ta1kinPeace · 20/12/2015 21:01

I'm not fat, I'm very fit, I'm not a slob
I just do not see why people think that lying about their hair colour makes them look "better"

my hair is salt and pepper but glossy and thick and fits my skin tone

why do so many people (mainly women) feel scared to admit that grey is natural and can / does look fab?

how can women moan about ageism while dyeing their hair every month?
(men too, Obama excepted)

OP posts:
Bearbehind · 20/12/2015 21:03

I'm pretty sure how you've lived your life has no bearing on your hair colour Hmm

southeastastra · 20/12/2015 21:04

my hair hasn't been natural since i was 21. you like what you like.

i am not scared of grey but think it looks crap, same as i thought my mousy hair looked crap.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 20/12/2015 21:04

So it's only OK to be grey if you are not fat?

Bit like saying you aren't shallow about physical appearance..while being shallow about physical appearance, sorry.

TheFirstNoelHeadbands · 20/12/2015 21:05

How on earth does grey hair prove how you've lived your life Confused

ImperialBlether · 20/12/2015 21:06

Hate to tell you this, OP, but you'd have the same colour hair even if you'd spent 30 years in prison for murder!

kslatts · 20/12/2015 21:06

If you hadn't lived a good life, your hair would still go grey.

ArmchairTraveller · 20/12/2015 21:07

Red hair is supposed to be the rarest type, but I reckon I'm as exotic as a red head round my way.
I'm comfortable with silver and black hair, but a number of KS1 children can't resist stroking it and asking me if it's really that colour. Or if I'm wearing a wig...Grin

SummerNights1986 · 20/12/2015 21:07

My mum is 60, with natural brunette hair and not a grey in sight (I shit you not - very unusual).

I'll have to tell her she's obviously lived a shit life then.

SurferJet · 20/12/2015 21:08

White hair proves you've lived a good life?
what????? hahaha, nah, it just proves you're getting old. ( & it doesn't suit anyone under 70, Just makes you look old.)
Op: cover that grey. Xmas Grin

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 20/12/2015 21:08

It proves nothing of the sort. I'm rather fat. Are you suggesting I'm a bad person?

Fairylea · 20/12/2015 21:08

I don't think it says anything more than you have grey hair.

But I do like grey hair. I am 35 and going more grey by the day and I love it, I used to constantly dye my hair all kinds of different colours and one day I got fed up with the regrowth and just stopped and it's very nice to not bother to dye it anymore. I do keep it in good condition however and get it cut regularly.

ArmchairTraveller · 20/12/2015 21:08

Oh, I'd probably count as a slob in the OP's vocabulary, I don't care enough about the judgement of others to dye my hair every few weeks. I'd rather buy books or chocolate with the cash.

Bearbehind · 20/12/2015 21:10

I too don't understand the correlation between the very strange thread title and the being not fat/ very fit.

Is there some link between fitness, body mass and hair colour?

TheHouseOnTheLane · 20/12/2015 21:11

As others have said, grey hair's genetic. I had my first grey aged 10 and by 17 I had full white streaks either side of my head. My Dad was white by 24 and I have dyed mine since the age of 18. YABU it's all about personal preference. I don't think my grey at 17 proved anything other than my Irish heritage!

BackInTheRealWorld · 20/12/2015 21:11

I don't have grey hair....but I think the fact I'm overweight shows what a great life I've been living! Grin

PacificDogwod · 20/12/2015 21:11

YANBU to like your hair.

YABU to judge other people's choices about what they are doing with their appearance.

YANBU to mention that we live in a society in which youth and youthful appearance are valued unreasonably highly, and age isn't.

YABU to apparently suggest this should not influence how people deal with their own sigs of getting older.

ArmchairTraveller · 20/12/2015 21:11

'Just makes you look old.'

I am old though.

PacificDogwod · 20/12/2015 21:12

Summernights, my mum's 74 and does not have a single grey hair - it is genetic and not a sign of anything.

SurferJet, I disagree rather a lot.

GloriaSmellens · 20/12/2015 21:13

Wow, good for you. Try having been grey since you were 17. And every time you go to the hairdressers or are a bit slack on keepingup with the dye, hearing a shocked/disgusted voice saying 'oh my god you have got so much grey!!!

I am not giving up the dye any time soon, but thanks for showing how much more enlightened you are than me.

ArmchairTraveller · 20/12/2015 21:17

Yes, I had a Mallan streak from being about 19 or so. Went through a red/purple/green/peacock phase and then stopped when I got a job at 22.
DD colours her hair a lot, despite having no grey at all.It's just a personal choice.

EBearhug · 20/12/2015 21:18

I like having silvery streaks. I had my hair trimmed yesterday, and the hairdresser had the sense not to make any comments about having it dyed.

defineme · 20/12/2015 21:21

I had a lot of pure white hairs, as well my natural brunette, age 21...just genes not actually much life lived at that point! I have been blonde, red, striped and started with purple at age 16.
Was I fake at 16, or just now I am 41?
I know of 3 age 40+ men who dye... are they fake? What about the receding men who shave entirely?
I am probably just about pure white now, masquerading as very dark brown at the moment.
Do you remove any body hair? Are you faking it as a bare under armer?
What about my black chin hair? Am I being fake when I tweeze that?

Eigg · 20/12/2015 21:22

OP you are completely entitle to have your hair any way you like.

As am I.

No everyone's hat goes grey the same way. Some grey hair looks ace - some doesn't.

ArmchairTraveller · 20/12/2015 21:22

Yes, it does tend to be other women who get arsey and offer their unwanted Glamour tips. My hairdresser called my white hairs 'natural highlights' which I thought was lovely. Nor did she brandish dyes at me.
She'd have lost a customer if she'd been that much of a PITA.

WanderingTrolley1 · 20/12/2015 21:25

What's the correlation between fat/fit and grey hair?!