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AIBU?

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Original poster

To disappointed with this doctor's comments and want to raise the issue with the practice?

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Truckingfaffic · 19/12/2015 14:29

Tool DD to the doctors to tall about getting the pill as sge wants to start having sex with BF.

Doctor's advice was to use extra precautions for first 7 days.

Surely he should be advising condom use AND pill? All the times we've spoken about things I've stressed the need for both. Always. She understands. Wgat if he's giving this advice to all?

AIBU?

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Truckingfaffic · 19/12/2015 15:10

Yeah, everyone reads those little leaflets, sameshit. You've got an axe to grind today, you're just being provocative fir the sake of some aggro I reckon.

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Original poster
Truckingfaffic · 19/12/2015 15:12

Wearing a condom isn't "relationship stuff" it's medical stuff.

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Sameshitdiffname · 19/12/2015 15:12

how am I being provocative?

MytwinisMilaKunis · 19/12/2015 15:14

I think it is obvious to all that the pill does not protect against STDs. I cannot see a girl in her late teens ever imagining that it would.

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Truckingfaffic · 19/12/2015 15:15

Apologies, sameshit, my brain attributed Oyster's post to you. Sorry.

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OurBlanche · 19/12/2015 15:16

Wearing a condom isn't "relationship stuff" it's medical stuff.

Oh, please make it stop

Assuming your were serious, why on earth do you think that? You have a daughter, you are supporting her in her desire to become sexually active. You must have had the contraception chat, how else did you get to the doctors, otherwise?

She is your daughter, raise her to be in control of her own body, ffs.

Blaming someone else cos they didn't do in 5 minutes what you should have been dong for years! Pah!

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Truckingfaffic · 19/12/2015 15:18

OurBlanche, did you read my OP?

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Oysterbabe · 19/12/2015 15:19

Should he also have reminded her to look both ways when crossing the road and keep her fingers out of plug sockets? It's entirely reasonable for a GP to assume that someone over 16 knows that a pill doesn't prevent STIs. He gave her appropriate advice for the reason she was there.

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Truckingfaffic · 19/12/2015 15:19

Because some the the questions you're asking are answered in there. HTH Smile

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caroldecker · 19/12/2015 15:19

A condom is not medical, it is relationship - if it was medical, you would get it from the gp.

R3alxmastr33 · 19/12/2015 15:20

I do not think that this is worthy of a complaint to the surgery !

Most people have access to internet, libraries, friends if they do not wish to speak to their parents about contraception

If someone is going to their doctor to ask for contraception. They should be already aware of all consequences eg pregnancy, side effects, STIs

theycallmemellojello · 19/12/2015 15:20

It's lucky that the only teenagers who have sex are those with caring and well-informed parents who have an STI talk with them at an early age. Saves the rest of society a right old job. And of course, the spread of disease only affects the person who gets that disease. Couldn't possibly have an impact on their children, or on NHS resources.

OurBlanche · 19/12/2015 15:21

Yes dear. Like most other posters that where I start when reading a thread.

Why? Am I being too harsh? Am I only allowed to post if I agree with you?

I seriously think you are being daft. Your GP has done his job, you need to do yours and parent the child instead of looking for ways to blame A N Other for not doing something you should have done as she approached maturity.

If you seriously think she is clueless as to the relative benefits of various contraceptive methods then she is too clueless to have sex. So you need to do what good parents do, teach her!

ElphabaTheGreen · 19/12/2015 15:21

Was there ever the slightest fleeting moment you thought you were being unreasonable, OP? I'm not really getting the sense that you were...

BackforGood · 19/12/2015 15:22

OurBlanche is right - as are virtually all the replies you are getting OP

It's not often everyone agrees with each other on MN - perhaps you should read something in to that?

theycallmemellojello · 19/12/2015 15:22

Caroldecker - good god - of course a condom is medical! Is a prophylactic against numerous diseases not medical? and of course you can get them from the GP! For free no less.

Wolpertinger · 19/12/2015 15:23

How likely is it though that the GP is going to take a proper sexual history and talk about Chlamydia risk and testing, when the patient's mother is in the room?

Part of being an adult is you go to the GP by yourself without your parents anymore.

OurBlanche · 19/12/2015 15:24

Just in case you think I missed it:

Maybe your little talks didn't go in, you said she understands but are now pissed off because a GP didn't explain. You cannot have it both ways... you either parented her well or you did not.

Either way, it is your job and if you feel something was missed that s because you missed it!

HTH Smile

Enjolrass · 19/12/2015 15:25

So he's happily letting her into the world of sexual relationships unlikely to get pregnant, but unprotected against stds.

He isn't letting her do anything. It's not his decision

VocationalGoat · 19/12/2015 15:25

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theycallmemellojello · 19/12/2015 15:25

Wolpertinger - if the GP were too embarrassed to talk about sex in front of someone's mother, that would be rather worrying.

Spilose · 19/12/2015 15:26

This is covered in any sex ed class. Parents should also be telling their children this. She's either an adult and capable of doing her own research or she's a child in which case you need to make sure she is informed. I'm sure the doc would have told her had she asked. YABU.

Jux · 19/12/2015 15:26

As you were with your dd I imagine the gp thought that you might have talked to her about it yourself, so that he only had to give the info needed about the pill. He was right.

If a girl turned up on her own, he'd give all the extra info too, I'm sure. Your dd didn't need that, did she?

theycallmemellojello · 19/12/2015 15:26

I'm amazed at these responses. Do you also think that sex education has no place in schools, because it's a parent's job? Crackers.

VaticanAssassin · 19/12/2015 15:27

He didn't mention the pill doesn't protect against stds, no. So he's happily letting her into the world of sexual relationships unlikely to get pregnant, but unprotected against stds. Unacceptable imo Shock

No, that's on your head, OP.

Perhaps your GP presumes, that once he's fulfilled his duty as a prescribing physician, that you fulfil your duty as a Mum to inform your DD of the risks associated with unprotected sex.

Oh, and YABVU.