To disappointed with this doctor's comments and want to raise the issue with the practice?

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Tool DD to the doctors to tall about getting the pill as sge wants to start having sex with BF.

Doctor's advice was to use extra precautions for first 7 days.

Surely he should be advising condom use AND pill? All the times we've spoken about things I've stressed the need for both. Always. She understands. Wgat if he's giving this advice to all?

AIBU?

Raising an issue will do nothing the GP done his job maybe you should tell your daughter about protection against STIs etc

I do think that the GP should have mentioned that the pill won't protect against STDs.

I know it's the sort of thing that should be obvious, but even so, it wouldn't hurt to mention it just in case it has somehow passed her by.

Red jellybean RTFOP

I did read it OP and I still think YABU

you said you wanted to raise the issue with the practice, perhaps you do not know that that will be dealt with as a formal complaint, the doctor will have to respond, they will then have to declare it at their annual appraisal ( even if they have done nothing wrong) , they will have to spend time writing a response to you and then writing it up for their appraisal, and reflecting on it and possibly having to demonstrate remediation .
you have no idea how stressful and demoralizing these vexatious complaints/comments are to GPs, most of whom are hard working , conscientious and trying to do their best for patients.

YABU. He's not an adviser.

Thanks jello, that's it. My DD is fine we have great communications.

My concern is other teenagers that go, that dint have parents they can talk to about this, they may NOT have the knowledge. A quick sentence from the doctor isn't going yo be onerous is it? Perhaps a leaflet?

He's speaking medically. Medically, the pill doesn't offer protection for the first 7 days and another method of contraception must be used.

Medically, after that, she could make the decision to rely on the pill if she wanted. It would do it's job - prevent pregnancy. It would not prevent against stis but it never will.

The decision whether to have sti checks or use a barrier method too is for your daughter to make, with your help, not the doctor.

theredjellybean - the OP's concern is perfectly legitimate and not at all vexatious. It's completely ridiculous to suggest that. I'd be highly surprised if it is not standard practice for GPs to remind people coming in with sex-related problems/questions to take the right precautions to ensure protection against disease, in the same way that it's standard practice to tell overweight people that they need to lose weight. This kind of general guidance is as much a part of GPs' job as diagnosing particular problems.

i also read it and still think that you are being very unreasonable.
no contraception is 100% reliable, and 7 days of extra precautions is to allow the pill to start being effective.
if your dd was worried about efficacy and stds why does she want the pill ?

why doesnt she just use condoms ?

the advice for the condom for the first 7 days is standard with most pills.

time is precious for GPs. The point of the visit was to give her the medication and the advice she needs to maximise its chance of working. Unless directly asked, his job is not to give detailed advice on protecting herself. Other people are waiting.

assuming she is a willing participant in sex, part of playing grown-up games is getting informed. She could ask you or use the i-phone doubtless glued to her to look up all the easily accesible information on the subject. She doesn't needd the GP for that.

remind her to keep up the condoms as she doesn't know where BF has been.

That's interesting, jellybean. Tbh I was going to do it with a vague, we went to see a doctor recently, not point any fingers. Be unspecific, but suggest a refresher ti all the practice. Would that not work?

unlikely. you raise an issue and it has to be dealt with in a certain way i am afraid.

Redjelly, they want to use both, being sensible.

If you're that bothered then you shouldn't be so accommodating of her having sex. Old enough to have sex.. Old enough to make her own choices ie not yours or the dr's

OP, if you say you're disappointed and want to raise the issue with the practice, that sounds an awful lot like wanting to make a complaint to me.

Wheretheres. Ffs, this isn't about my daughter! It's about pretty critical advice not being handed out at appropriate time.

Sounds like he was just trying to get her out of the office, next please.

YANBU.

You're inti semantics, there Dipank

GPs really have to put up with some shit don't they.

A GP doesn't have to give the advice though, he gave her information that was required.

Does the leaflet inside warn that it doesn't protect from STDs?

Throughthick, REALLY? Doctors aren't advisors?

Fucking hell!

My GP didn't teach my DD about STIs and sex
Her teacher didn't teach her about safe sex
The Tooth Fairy failed to explain why flossing is so important
The Easter Bunny told her to enjoy her chocolate, he didn't mention the danger of eating disorders
Father Christmas forgot to tell her that he doesn't exist and now she feels silly.

Given that your DD asked you to go with her I would assume the GP thought you, her parent, had all of that covered. He gave medical advice and left the relationship stuff to you.

Now, who do I go to in order to suggest that you get a Parenting Refresher course?

If you 'raise an issue with the practice' it's a complaint and will be dealt with as such, however nicely you word it.

I don't think it is standard practice to advise on barrier methods for a first pill appointment but it would be useful to hear from some GPs. Plus I think the GP might have been thrown by you being there which is pretty unusual for this sort of consultation They only have 10 minutes and there is a lot of info to impart on a first pill appt without throwing in a complete sexual health thing on condoms too.