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To msg a school Mum I don't know

415 replies

Hackedabove · 18/12/2015 06:27

Regarding her posting a video of the school carol service on FB?

She has tagged in one of my friends so it's come up on my news feed. I'm shocked as it shows loads of them. Probably can't see mine but only because they were hidden.

I was thinking a gentle do you know it's totally unacceptable?

Or email the class rep so a blanket email goes out to all classes via the class reps?

Or contact the school and let them deal with it?

OP posts:
Missanneshirley · 18/12/2015 17:36

I'm just imagining the scenario where you have a child with safeguarding issues in your class or even just school... what will you say to your HT when they ask you to abide by the appropriate guidelines?

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 18/12/2015 17:36

I'm not flinging insults
Posters are explaining things to you rationally and sensibly and you are talking bollocks

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 17:38

Obviously I abide by the guidelines. Doesn't mean I don't think it's bollocks

GinIsTheBestChristmasSpirit · 18/12/2015 17:38

I thought majority of schools have a no social media rule?

I mind, a lot. I'm not paranoid. I just know how social media works. I share my photos of my kids my way to people I know. I don't want film or photos of my kids flying round out of my control.

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 17:38

hobnobs no they're talking about a blanket rule because a MINORITY of people have a specific situation

HelloItsMeAgain · 18/12/2015 17:38

Tali No-one in saying don't take photos or videos - just don't put them on the world-wide web for anyone to see if they have other people's children in them.

Because you do not know the background of everyone else.

Or - not - hold on. What we could do is get every school to announce at the beginning of the school play/assembly/recital

"Hey, take whatever photos you like, post them anywhere you like - apart from poor fucked up Philippa in the corner - her dad is an abuser and if he tracks her & her mum down she is likely to witness another rape of her own mother.

Oh and in case you had no idea (why would you it is none of your business) the new boys - Harry and David - they are newly adopted. Their parents are crack addicts - they keep trying to track them down so the boys have had to move 3 times in as many years - so best not put them on FB. Anyone else is fine. So, OK? Click and post away - but just not Phillipa, the abusers/rapist daughter - or Harry/David - the crack addicts sons. Everyone know who they are -. Yep them. I know - look kind of normal, don't they?"

MrsDeVere · 18/12/2015 17:40

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 18/12/2015 17:40

Insults are being flung your way because you have belittled people for being concerned about their children possibly being viewed on social media without consent being given.

You have accused people of being precious and admitted you would laugh if asked to remove material showing children other than yours.

You have no regard or thought for anyone else.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 18/12/2015 17:41

And thank fuck we live in a country that looks after that vulnerable minority and allows people some privacy and the opportunity to rebuild shattered lives and move on
And thank fuck most people are kind and decent

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 17:43

MrsDeVere my son is a baby

SanDiego because in most cases it is precious! there are genuine cases obviously but most of the time it's ridiculous

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 17:44

No ones answered my question of why it's okay to put a photo of an adult on but not children

hollieberrie · 18/12/2015 17:44

But fling insults at me because I disagree that looks really mature

Tali you say this on every single thread. Yawn...

3littlebadgers · 18/12/2015 17:45

But how do you know they are not 'genuine cases'? Looking at my friend you wouldn't think they were going through anything.

Claraoswald36 · 18/12/2015 17:45

Yanbu and I would go mad too. FB is not compulsory

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 17:46

No I don't hollieberrie just the ones where it gets heated because people can't stand someone not sharing their view

MrsDeVere · 18/12/2015 17:47

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 18/12/2015 17:47

Nope you seem to be like this on most threads
Anyone would think you enjoyed goading....,Hmm

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 17:47

3little you wouldn't know. But what I'm saying is it's not enough people to put a blanket rule in place

PhoenixReisling · 18/12/2015 17:47

you accuse people of Flying insults to you?! Shock

You have called people precious, have said you would laugh and have discounted what everyone has said in a very rude entitled way.

WTAF

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 17:50

MrsDeVere no it isn't irrelevant.

hobnobs check my threads on birth, mental health and NICU if you want to see me being supportive. This is AIBU if I think someone is I will say

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 18/12/2015 17:51

Fucking Hell, it's like talking to a Donkey!

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 18/12/2015 17:51

AIBU isn't an excuse to behave like a twat
Just saying

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 17:51

There's a really weird attitude on here Hmm helicopter parenting to the extreme.

3littlebadgers · 18/12/2015 17:51

Tali I am perfectly happy to not take pictures or video my own child if it means there is a slight chance that another child will be spared a living hell. One day that could be a child, dear to you, that this guideline saves.

TaliZorah · 18/12/2015 17:52

I'm not being a twat. Why ask opinions if you're not prepared to hear it