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To ask Nursery to pay for new shoes

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CottonSock · 17/12/2015 18:50

One of my DD shoes vanished at Nursery. She's two so she didn't loose it herself, its a private type of Nursery. Shoes were Clark's and a few weeks old. If its not offered I feel like it should be taken off my (considerable) monthly bill. Aibu?

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Witchend · 17/12/2015 18:52

I obviously had an advanced dd. She was losing shoes by 9 months.

MissFitt68 · 17/12/2015 18:52

Yabu

It happens! Ask them to have a look.... Could be in a toy box/truck/dolls pram etc

MrsBalustradeLanyard · 17/12/2015 18:53

Jeez if everyone did that the nursery would close down in weeks! Shit just happens, I'm afraid.

HappyTalking · 17/12/2015 18:54

Yes I would tell them I was buying new shoes and would give them the receipt. I work in a nursery and we would refund if the shoe couldn't be located, we would have a really good look for it first though. ( The bin is always a good place to start ).

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 17/12/2015 18:54

what did she wear home then? just one shoe?

HappyTalking · 17/12/2015 18:57

It all my years of nursery work we have never had a shoe go missing and not been able to find it. You have to think like a 2 year old and look in every toy box and home area cupboard.

elliejjtiny · 17/12/2015 18:59

Sorry but YABU. Children lose shoes. It's frustrating but not the nursery's fault. I sympathise though. DS2 lost one of a £60 pair of shoes at that age, thankfully we found it before I had to replace them.

Disclaimer: they were special nhs boots paid for by the nhs if grown out of or by parents if lost. I'm not in the habit of buying £60 shoes for the dc!

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 17/12/2015 19:07

No ynbu. Its all very well people saying it happens but I'm sure if they went to collect their child and found one shoe missing they wouldn't be best pleased.

Tamponlady · 17/12/2015 19:07

Sorry op you really have no clue I used to child mind I had a child kick his foot forcefully when the doors open on the bus the timerland went flying before I could do anything the bus was on its way

I also had one child who was being potty trained wee in his shoe because he really needed a wee and another child was on the potty I was in the kitchen

Children in general hate shoes and they take them off throw them other children remove them ect

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CottonSock · 17/12/2015 19:10

She went home in borrowed wellies. When I say she didn't loose it, I put it in her shelf in morning and by break time it was not there. My old Nursery always offered to replace lost items. I never insisted becuase it wasn't a new shoe.

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VoldysGoneMouldy · 17/12/2015 19:10

How has it got lost? Have you asked them to check everywhere? You're being rather precious saying she didn't lose it herself... That's what toddlers do. They lose things.

Just wait till she starts school...

YABU.

caitlinohara · 17/12/2015 19:11

YANBU. I would expect them to be replaced, yes.

MissFitt68 · 17/12/2015 19:14

So at collection time did you help the staff look?

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CottonSock · 17/12/2015 19:14

She didn't loose it! The kids don't even have access to the room where bags and shoes go and they don't wear shoes whilst there unless outside. They have looked everywhere, I don't think they will find it unless another parent has it by mistake (unlikely as it went in morning)

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CottonSock · 17/12/2015 19:16

And yes, I helped search for quite some time, and so did they on several occasions.

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Pepperpot99 · 17/12/2015 19:16

Sorry to be pedantic but it's LOSE and not LOOSE. LOOSE means the opposite of tight. LOSE is a verb which means to mislay.

As you were.

goodnightdarthvader1 · 17/12/2015 19:18

Soo - what? You think a member of staff stole it?

VoldysGoneMouldy · 17/12/2015 19:21

It has probably been knocked into the bag / box / whatever of another child, and will reappear at some point.

You seem so insistent it wasn't her - do you think a member of staff or parent stole one shoe? Hmm

Motto of the story - £5 shoes from George @ asda for nursery.

Laquila · 17/12/2015 19:23

I sympathise OP - I'd be very annoyed. Not sure whether I could justify asking the nursery to pay for a new pair though.

And for what it's worth, my toddler's never even attempted to take off his shoes, let alone kicked them off a bus/at other kids etc. I wouldn't call that standard! Maybe I just tie his laces too tight ;)

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CottonSock · 17/12/2015 19:23

No I don't think they stole it! Apologies I cannot spell.

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CottonSock · 17/12/2015 19:27

How can my DD have lost it, being locked in another room.... She's two years old, locked inside a building with no access to her bag or shoes. That's why I am insistent it was not her and I won't be persuaded it was. I accept when she does lose things, yes it happens

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 17/12/2015 19:28

Voldy. Why would Cotton. Think they'd Stole a shoe. WTAF would anyone want with one shoe. Hmm

Floggingmolly · 17/12/2015 19:28

So who do you think nicked it, then? Do the other parents have access?

anotherbusymum14 · 17/12/2015 19:32

Oh this happened to my first child. I was annoyed too as they were brand new. My daughter thought they were last seen near the sand pit (it was massive) I dug for ages and it never showed up. I never knew where it went, so was pretty annoyed. Sent her off in cheaper shoes in the end. I learnt my lesson. So annoying tho. Wish I'd thought to charge the preschool but then again I suppose it must happen a lot.

VoldysGoneMouldy · 17/12/2015 19:38

Ghost - that was kind of my point...

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