To wish people wouldn't put 'to bump' on cards?

[Givinguph0pe]

I'm 32 weeks pregnant and I've had a few things with 'To Givingup and Bump' and whilst I know it's meant kindly I wish it wouldn't happen.
It's starting on Christmas cards but I just feel like if my baby doesn't make it I'm going to have 'and bump' all over the cards. I know it is a small thing in the grand scheme of things but I can just imagine coming home and having to see them and sometimes the little things seem the hardest.

Aibu to wish people wouldn't do it?

I do understand. I thought I'd never have a child and when I was pregnant with DS1 I was so anxious (along with the joy, of course).

But remember that people mean this kindly. Honestly, if it truly bothers you just put those cards, notes, whatever straight in the bin. Or have someone put them somewhere you won't see them. Then, when everything turns out wonderfully (and it will statistically speaking) you can take them out for Baby to see in later years.

I completely get it. I've had 3 losses and I'm also 32 weeks - on my 4th attempt.

I'm just scared of jinxing and I'm very anxious.

People mean well but no YANBU. Not long to go now for either of us

I got my first two cards today addressed to 'and bump'. Mine is due Christmas Day so we really have no idea if she'll be here or not. I found it a bit odd, my mum )who was sat next to me) thought it was lovely.
I haven't signed our cards from 'her' but ensured I mention it for anyone lucky enough to have not heard me moaning for the last 8 months.
I think the bit I find strange is that she isn't just classed as being part of me. But someone separate.

It was well meant though

Good luck kxx

People are trying to be nice.
I wish you all the very best.

YANBU. I would find it annoying even if I didn't have a high risk pregnancy. It's one of those annoying things people do.

Oh hell I've just sent a card with bump on it. Have I made some terrible faux pas? I'd hate to upset anyone.

I wouldn't have liked it either and I didn't have high risk pregnancies.

YANBU

I guess it's meant well though so best to try and not let it bug you.

I'm 34 weeks and the first Christmas card has just arrived with 'and bump'. I don't like it personally but I put it in the same box as all the other irritating questions and comments you get when pregnant - it is someone trying to be nice and they mean it well.

it does bug more when it comes after I have already sent a card to them which clearly does not include me signing it off 'Rain and bump' - logic would say if I wanted to include bump I would have done so myself! (that and this baby is never refered to as 'bump' so I don't really associate it with my baby!)

I'm very nervous this time round and can completely understand why it would upset you, I'm high risk too. so YANBU.

I lost a baby late in pregnancy. It was just before Christmas so we had all the and bump cards around. I don't think it made any difference to how we felt. We still have them in a box along with other things to do with that baby. I know you are worried but whether or not people write bump will not jinx anything. Try to relax.

I remember the xmas before DS1 was born. No presents for me from PIL, just for the bump. Bags of cotton wool, white vests, scratch gloves, wipes. It was then I realised I'd stopped being me and was 'the carrier of the grandchild'. And the cards.... No, I didn't enjoy it much !

I'm 33 weeks and while it hasn't bothered me to have 'and bump' on cards written to me and DH, I did find myself not writing 'and bump' on cards I've written to others, with one exception for a friend who's particularly excited for me, as it struck me that if anything were to happen it would taint their Christmas memories. I think from my point of view, I'd have far more on my mind should that happen and wouldn't be reading into what were just well-intentioned messages. I hope you can overcome your anxiety and enjoy the sentiment OP

I know this is a really old comment but it is spot on so I had to sign up to reply!
I am 33 wks pregnant, high risk, previous losses and I am SICK of people taking a successful birth/healthy baby for granted. Even the health visitor did it after I had talked at her about anxiety/baby movements/growth etc she said it’ll all be ok when you’re holding baby in your arms next tome I visit. Ffs I wanted to scream have you not listened to a word I said, what is the f*ing point of you visiting?!