Deleting this thread to "protect a poster's privacy"

[thelouise]

In a nutshell; poster throws a strop and doesn't like the answers they are getting.

AIBU to think it's a massive cop out?

I wasn't talking particularly about the thread last night. I know it was deleted for different reasons but it got me thinking about other threads. I just think that people need to take responsibility for what they post online. It is not a private safe space.

I appreciate the situations where privacy is generally a risk and can cause harm. Of course, that person needs protection and deletion. I was thinking about past threads and I've thought "but really, that does not make the individual recognisable, it could be anyone." I accept IABU though.

Well the thread was extraordinary Melcombe, and the awful events you were living through don't happen to every single person, so I guess in that sense it could be called 'beyond ordinary'. But only in that sense.

I remember (if I'm thinking of the right thread that is!), that people were taking the OP apart for using the wrong terminology and getting a bit mixed up with occasional medical words. Which I know from personal experience is what tends to happen when events are moving fast and you're in shock, struggling to navigate through a whole new world you never wanted to be in, and you're being flooded with decisions, information and overwhelmed.

I'm not so sure as you are ILS, I think she's probably grief stricken and a little irrational as a result (said kindly melcombe - sorry to speak about you in the third person as it were.) Sparklings contribution is a case in point: I read it as a throwaway remark that she didn't remember the thread but melcombe obviously saw it as doubting her.

Either way, stepping away is best but this can be done compassionately.

Or it was mentioned in a thread by someone as being an example of how ugly MN can be and others said they recalled it. A bit like this one

Ach I cant remember but I know this isnt the first time Ive heard mention if it and Im still of the mind that if its not true MNHQ will say so.

It was July 2014. I rarely refer to it. I just hate the arrogant swagger and piss taking. In not saying it happens ever day but when you get a gang attacking like I did it occasionally comes back up. I am allowed to articulate that just as much as the same old saddos post on each and every thread every day impose their opinion on everyone.

I wasn't doubting Melcombe just to make that clear. I don't remember seeing Melcombe's thread and it has now been deleted so it's difficult to know exactly what went on if you don't remember seeing it.

same old saddos post on each and every thread every day ?

you are making stuff up

I know you weren't sparkling - I just meant that melcombe reacted strongly to your statement as she was upset.

And still you continue to incite discord by referencing posters the same old saddos who of course aren't going to be named.

Sorry whiteswan while I take your point it's goading as far as I'm concerned.

I'm not grief stricken now. My husband is currently at home as far as I know looking after the family and pets. But at the time I was and really didn't need that. Anyway it's over now and I should get over it you are right. But most of the time I enjoy MN and the lovely supportive community.

Ego I meant it being bad for Melcombe rather than anyone else, because they seem to have had a bad time with their thread.

In fairness I wouldn't dream of naming the poster who I would not spit on if she was on fire derailed my thread and turned it into a bunfight

I think you need to be careful not to turn into one of those bullies you so despise, Melcombe, some of your allegations and insults on this thread sound like you are well on your way. I'm sorry you had a rotten experience on here, don't make others have one, too.

Of course not winterswan and I'm not suggesting that people should name names.

It's not goading in my view to say that one person once derailed your thread but it is goading to suggest that five specific unnamed posters behave like that on a daily basis and MNHQ allow it to happen.

Do you want me to make a list of names? Don't be so ridiculous. Just look at the first 5 responses in any thread.
I'm off now. Anyone who has been victim to bullying on here knows how I felt. Most people are absolutely lovely and I have learned more about everything under the sun from them. The nasty dark side is about them and their lives and They have to live with that.

Yes, that's fair enough ils

Melcombe you have been really nasty about housebound people and at the same time you've managed to make yourself sound quite silly on that subject ('people with jobs and cars'). It is extremely hard to know how to seriously to take you after that TBH.

Thanks winterswan

I'm also relieved that I'm not the only poster to find the contributions from Melcombe objectionable.

I can't see what's wrong with them, either!

Well it wouldn't be the first time.

Melcombe seems like a piece of work to me