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stalked by school!

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Brioche201 · 29/11/2015 22:10

Last Friday DD was off sick. I start work at 9.30 so got her up and dressed and dropped her round at my parents.When I got to work there was an email on my work email address (which I have NOT given out to them as a contact address), an emaul on my personal email, messages on my mobile and home number and DH's mobile! All before 9.15 wanting to enquire as to DDs whereabouts!! Now DD gets a lift to school every day with another child from the same village (we are 4 miles away from school) so pretty obvious that she hasn't befallen an accident on the way.Infact the secretary would have asked the other child if DD was coming
I am thinking of complaining to the school, as I think it was pretty rude to try to contact me by so many different means especially my work email wanting to know her 'whereabouts'.WTF !!

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NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 02/12/2015 16:30

No brioche your the funny chick! Your the only one that thinks there being stalked and are ungrateful to the school for taking their safeguarding seriously.

You seem to think for some reason you are except from this policy and your school is exempt from the law.

Wether or not Sarah knows your little sweetheart who is some how never going to be in a car crash, be bullied, abducted or have a stroke or heart attach and just be magically ok because you say so and you can see in to the future. with governors child, she was doing her job, thing is the message that she wasn't going to be in didn't egen come from the adult parent (yes aren't most parents adults? thanks for clarifying) governor. It came from little 11 year old that probably when asked if brioche jr came in with her said no sorry miss Sarah she didn't!

PrettyBrightFireflies · 02/12/2015 18:24

It's incredibly disrespectful to the staff at the school to assume that because the school is a small, close community, they just disregard their responsibilities and rely on their personal relationships and knowledge of the school - slightly reminiscent of rural villages in the 1970's.

I'm not sure what the answer is for you, OP, other than to move to a different country which doesn't place any corporate responsiblity on the Local Authority or schools for DC's safeguarding.

You've obviously lived a charmed life if you have no knowledge or understanding of why these regulations and requirements are in place. Can I make a suggestion? Look up the website of your Local Childrens Safeguarding Board, and read the Serious Case Reviews that they have published there.

I hope that once you have a better understanding of how many times opportunitites to save childrens lives are missed every day, you'll be grateful that your DC, and all her friends, are protected by a safeguarding framework that everyone in their lives plays a part in.

AmIAmntI · 02/12/2015 19:39

It doesn't matter whether they know or not OP they have to speak to YOU! You are the guardian of the child.

Just because Mr X is a governor makes no difference. Mr X is not a guardian to your child. In fact Mr X didn't inform the school. His child did. Under no circumstances would I take the word of a child because legally I am not allowed to.

You go ahead and make a complaint about being stalked by the school. It will give the office staff a laugh. I know I'd personally find it hilarious as would my head.

Sirzy · 02/12/2015 19:45

How she normally gets to school is irrelevant.

Child isn't in class, parents haven't contacted school by a reasonable time (9am) then school have to try to contact family to find out why.

I don't see what the problem is

Egosumquisum · 02/12/2015 19:46

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Enjolrass · 02/12/2015 19:52

Depends on the circumstance, in regarding the illness.

If the kids have been vomiting. I say when they were last sick and tell them that they will be back after 48 hours. If they continue to be sick I would call the school the morning they were due back.

If it's something and I am not sure how long it will be I would call each morning, if I wasn't giving them an estimated day back.

Not actually sure what the school asks for.

Sirzy · 02/12/2015 19:58

I would always tell them he will be off until at least whatever day and hat I will let them know if he won't be back then.

AmIAmntI · 02/12/2015 20:16

We request a phone call daily at my school. If a certain number of says go by with no contact and we aren't getting a response we escalate it and they would get a home visit to ensure the child's safety.

If they state they will be off for x number of days due to x reason we request it in writing for their PPR and if they are red flagged (child protection register) it is escalated immediately to check on the child's wellbeing.

LuluJakey1 · 02/12/2015 20:32

Certainly would not want you on our Governing Body. Ours are Outstanding. You would definitely be a Special Measures governor and we'd end up with a review of Governance if OFSTED heard some of the tripe you've talked here.

Piratepete1 · 10/12/2015 23:27

As an ex teacher threads like this make my blood boil. If you don't like schools following standard procedure then bloody home educate and do us all a favour. Ditto for parents who won't (for some barmy pretentious reason) give their mobile phone number. Some people are just plain daft.

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