To put deodorant on my DD while she sleeps?

[TheColourMyrtle]

I've never had this with my other DC.
Dd has only just turned 8.
She is a very active child and does many hours of physical activity and is coached 15 hours plus.
I've already noticed hips and breast buds appearing and a feint bit of public hair
About a month ago we were snuggling and I caught a whiff of her armpits and the smell was really pungent. She showers reluctantly every day and I bought her a deodorant of her own just thinking it was earlier than the others but she'd get on with it like they did .

She was so upset and said I had humiliated her, called her smelly (I hadn't )
I left it a week then Dh (who notices NOTHING) said her body odour was bad.

I gently persuaded her to give the deodorant a go after her next shower and she went into meltdown again. I'm starting to wonder if I should just apply t whilst she sleeps.
I've very aware of school and how nasty children can be and Is be so devastated for her if she had a hard time for this reason at school which is so easy(?) to fix.

Oh, that is so lovely. Well done myrtle

I'd get her to pick her own, maybe she doesn't like the ones you've bought her?
I've always hated the natural stick ones never got on with them!
Biosen are quite good.
Dove roll on cucumber is nice, very fresh.
She maybe would be better with a spray?
The dove at night ones i didn't find brilliant tbh, nor nivea.

What did you get Myrtle? I LOVE Lush

sowhite- I've avoided it for years, you can smell it down the street but I'm a convert now and dad got a selection of solid slivers of soap, some powdered deodorant some curly widely shampoo and conditioner that smells of coconuts and some strange stuff in a black tub called Dreamweaver (good for dey skins apparently- more importantly it was pink ) and some lip balm.

DD not dad

The more you buy her and sneak around leaving it in her room etc, the more she will bristle and feel annoyed and refuse.

At the top of the thread was the suggestion to go and choose some. Why not spray? I absolutely hate roll ons and the sticky slimy feel. I use spray on unscented Mitchum. Cold dry and fresh - perfect. Let her choose a few (3?) and try out which she thinks is best. That will involve her in the quality control of them, make her decide what she likes best etc. Then your conversation can be about which she likes most (the subtext being that she will wear it) rather than the nagging chore of reminding her. Why not try it out with toothpaste as well. Say you're thinking of trying out a new one, could she be the quality controller etc. It needs to be something she engages with and buys into. Kids like trying stuff out and giving their verdict.

Ah sorry, just read you went to Lush - excellent!!

Sounds fab OP. I agree, the smell is overwhelming from the outside but it is the sheer volume of products that creates that smell. Its not reflective of the actual products.

I'm actually named on here after a Lush bath bomb. A lovely, subtle appley scent.

Oh gosh the OP really flags up the difference between girls and boys.

My boys are 10 and 12 and are delighted if you tell them they smell rank and need to both wash and use deodorant. My 10 year old has been smellier than his older brother for two years. They see it as proof of how manly they are

I think she's maybe resisting growing up. I hated the thought of wearing a bra, felt weird about it and tried to hide my boobs under a big sweater and I was 12!
I think she needs reassurance that she'll always be your little girl (because she is still a little girl). Yes, go for the shopping trip but the maybe do an activity with her that reminds her she doesn't have to grow up just yet! Eg cinema, roller skating, soft play, eating ice cream etc

Wipes aren't very effective BTW. Soap and water on a flannel or sponge is much bettet

Thank you. I felt shit this morning and I'm really very grateful you took to time to offer your own experiences and brilliant advice.
I've just tucked her in and had a lovely cuddle and she smells GORGOEUS and has asked if she can have a shower tomorrow morning and....sit down everyone....use her deodorant and new hairbrush and hair bands {hearty face}

{pours huge glass of red}

Awww both happier, perfect end to the weekend

Hooray!!!

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:)

Great result and what a lovely Lush assistant, I'm sure it would make her day if you sung her praises to head office

Another lurker popping out to say well done

Oh good. I'm glad this worked out. :)

I think my parents bought me my favorite smelly lotions and stuff when I hit puberty.

How sweet. Wanted to thank you for you messages I've only just seen-
We are washing, showering daily in this house- someone has a pamper basket in the bathroom and in her bedroom- fully stocked and used with great pride.
The only problem we have now is the few tut-tuts I've had from some fellow parents who don't want their children using products they've noticed the fragrance from DD (school are happy with it all, I warned her teacher about it)
I'm sure it'll blow over.

The same parents would probably be tuting if your child smelt dirty. Can't please some people! Your dd is sorted and happy with her new smellies and that's what matters

Surely the fact school are fine with it says it all. If they say anything to you just give them this look and tell them if it bothers them so much to take it to the teacher. Who will hopefully also give them the look and tell them to mind their own.

oh yay! So happy to read these updates! Definitely contact lush they would love to hear your experience.