aibu to think period pain shouldn't be that bad? [title edited by MNHQ]

[scarredforlife]

My girlfriend has her period today, granted she always says the first day is the worst. I've had to hand wash three cushion covers because she bled through them, now she's just sheepishly taken the bedsheet down with blood on it and is basically crawling back up the stairs!
I sound like a typical man but is it normal to be that bad? Genuinely concerned

Thinking of you both

At least MNHQ have edited the title now.

Really sorry to hear that op!
Im so sorry you were met with quite frankly cunts on here.
It was obvious from your op you were worried.
It was really ridiculous to post on a mainly woman's forum where women would have knowledge of this wasn't it?
( or actually a really good idea)
If you had a been a woman posting this about herself you would not have gotten these replies.
Not all of us on here are like this.
to you and your family xx

Sorry to hear that.

OP I am so sorry for you and your dp.

I understand why you posted. You wanted some advice. From people who have experienced it.

It doesn't matter why your dp didn't choose to post herself.

Some posters need to get a fucking grip and realise that it's people posting.

so your op was badly worded? Who gives a shit. It was cleared up almost straight away and, to me , it was obvious why you mentioned the amount of washing being done. To try and convey how bad it actually is.

You were right to be concerned.

Please don't pay attention to posters who just love to spout a bit of venom of a man that dares post here. They are twats. It usually the same names as well. It's nothing to do with you, it says more about them.

Glad that MNHQ have altered the thread title, at least that might stop any further bashing from people who feel no need to read more than the title, and possibly the first line of the OP if they can be bothered!

I think your posting name is highly apt, given what happened here, scarred but I do hope that you aren't completely put off, and that your GF does avail herself of the immeasurable support that is found here (just not usually in AIBU!)

So sorry to read your update.

I hope some of the vicious knee jerk posters pause for thought.

I bet some posters only read the title and the first sentence. They should feel ashamed of themselves.

This mindless, ovine style posting is the reason AIBU should be scrapped.

The obvious bandwagon jumpers 'Oh are we being nasty? I can be nasty too!' are so bloody cringe worthy.

So sorry things turned out as they did OP, although I doubt you're still reading and I don't blame you.

I'm so sorry to hear that

And I'm so sorry that some people haven't got enough basic intelligence to read a post properly before they mouth off. If I and a large proportion of the posters on this thread could see what you meant in your OP then there was no excuse for anyone else.

Oh, and he did put 'genuinely concerned' at the end of the OP. It's not hard to spot.

Wishing you and your girlfriend well. Take care of yourselves.

Also want to add, despite the twattery on this thread, I agree that the miscarriage and baby loss board on here is second to none and was a lifeline for me. It's well worth a look if you've not been entirely disgusted by the behaviour of some mumsnetters.

So sorry to hear what has happened

I read the start of this thread yesterday, scarredforlife - up to the point where it became clear that you were worried about your girlfriend. I came back to ask if she was feeling better today, but I see from your update that the sad news that she has miscarried - my sympathies to you both.

I hope that you and she will feel able to come back here, if there is any support or help that Mners can give you in coping with this difficult time. Please believe me that there are a lot of caring and kind people on here, despite the impression that the hard time you have been given on here will have given you.

I read through from the beginning as I ws drawn to the thread as i suffer very heavy periods due to anaemia. It was quite clear from the 1st or at least 2nd post (not long after the first was posted) that OP was concerned. The people who posted mocking, twattery or quite vile posts need to take a good look at themselves. The OP was clearly concerned (he said so himself) and yet he was met with various forms of abuse. And people wonder why mumsnet has it's reputation?

Oh and a little tip for the vile posters on this thread..... Either cowardly name change, go about your business and hope people forget your moment of twattery or apologise. But if you're going to post an apology, just apologise. Trying to apologise but blame the OPs title (because you didn't read the OP properly) just quite frankly, makes you look an even bigger twat. Again to the OP and his girlfriend.

I am so sorry OP, this is terrible news. I was disgusted at the treatment you received last night and said so upthread. I sincerely hope that those who were so rude will apologise

MC is a horrible thing to happen, take care of both of you

I also agree that the miscarriage section on Talk is excellent, if either of you wanted to post

MrsC

I couldnt agree more.

That is a shit apology. I apologise for being nasty, but it was your fault really ...isn't an apology.

Especially when then insult was posted after clarification.

Maybe people should read posts and not just the titles.
It was obvious from the posts op was worried.

OP, I am so sorry to read your update. That is so sad and my thoughts are with you and your girlfriend now.

To some of the bitches upthread who posted vile and insulting remarks, why aren't more of you brave enough to come back, admit you were wrong and apologise? You haven't done yourselves or MN any favours, and you have hurt the feelings of a genuinely worried man whose girlfriend was in the middle of a traumatic miscarriage.

You should be ashamed of yourselves. You should come back and apologise. Some have. Others probably won't because they are too cowardly. I hope they prove me wrong there.

. Sorry to hear about the miscarriage. I hope you are both ok. I hope the hospital has given advice as to whether there will be more bleeding or pain. I was a bit caught out by heavy bleeding and cramps after I thought I'd finished miscarrying.

BTW I thought your original thread title and opening post was perfectly clear. Unfortunately there are a few nasty posters on MN. I've updated my spreadsheet .

So sorry for you both Op

I started reading the thread this morning, and realised that although your thread title was clumsily worded, you were genuinely concerned for her (the last two words genuinely concerned were a giveaway)

It is unbelievable that a few bitches on here chose to rip into you without seemingly reading even your opening post, and then still carry on ripping into you after your updates.

Sorry to hear the update, OP. Hope your DP is OK, and I hope the abuse you received hasn't put you off posting for advice in the future.

I'm sorry to hear your update op
You did the right thing to post here for advice. It's such a shame that some posters reacted so negatively.

Well youre dead right. It shouldn't be. Why should women have to suffer every month because of their gender.
I can relate to everything you tell us about your gf. Blood on the sheets ect. It'd a nightmare.