aibu to think period pain shouldn't be that bad? [title edited by MNHQ]

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My girlfriend has her period today, granted she always says the first day is the worst. I've had to hand wash three cushion covers because she bled through them, now she's just sheepishly taken the bedsheet down with blood on it and is basically crawling back up the stairs!
I sound like a typical man but is it normal to be that bad? Genuinely concerned

Haven't RTFT.

But general advice on when to call a doctor is:

• More than one heavy pad an hour
• Clots the size of a golf ball (or just connect finger to thumb and that size circle.

If she was breast feeding, and this is her first period, it is probably normal. The first after a baby is like the elevator scene in the shining.

Or it could be a normal miscarriage.

It could also be a sign of an infection, endometriosis, or uterine cancer.

See a doctor tomorrow when your local clinic opens.

I second the hot water bottle idea and some fast acting period pain tablets like Feminax.

I feel for you in having to hand wash stained fabric, it's not nice. I have never let anyone wash anything I have stained but my pain is easily controlled by Feminax. Maybe have some old towels handy for your GF to sit/lie on?

Disgusted by this thread, and the same names cropping up. Quelle surprise.

OP sorry nothing useful to add but I hope she's ok. It can be appalling but hope it's nothing more serious than that.

It varies for different people but there are things that can be done about pain and blood flow if there's a problem. She should talk to her GP if she hasn't already.

I really really hope that all the disgusting comments from people who haven't read the thread are left to stand! It says a lot more about those posters than anyone else

Abit shocked at some comments. Op is the pain or bleeding normal for the girlfriend. If not she needs to see someone. If it is hot water bottle, cups of tea and lots of support be it hugs, cooking the tea, looking after dc. You sound a very caring man.

Hope you've managed to take some good advice from this thread OP, ignore the mean comments.

I am currently lying on a towel, after having changed my completely soaked through, industrial sized pad 5 times during the night, and the bed sheets once. Yesterday I changed my trousers twice.

I'm used to this though... it's been happening this way for the last 15 years.

If things are different to the norm for your partner, then it would be wise to get things checked out, OP.

How is gf this morning?

My friend was hospitalised with hers last week. The pain was making her physically sick for 3 days. A&E had to give her morphine. They kept her in for 2 days. She is now waiting for gynae results.

She isn't 'a wimp'. She only used paracetamol for a broken arm (and a cast...) and only had gas and air with her baby ds.

So you have a child, where you there at the birth?

For some women every period is like that. For some women the occasional period is like that. For some women it is never like that.

Heavy flow can also make you anemic and stops you sleeping through the night.

For some women yes periods really are that painful.

Another day, another twerp arrives with their 'helpful' comments Any danger of RTFT? And wtf has being at the birth got to do with it?

Were you there at the birth?

What the fuck? Were you hoping he would say no, so you could slate him or something?

How are you both this morning?x

I don't think MN has an anti-man slant. I think they are some frothy, loud posters who like to rage on these threads and make others think that we are anti-man but most of us are normal.

I'm interested at some of the responses I've had since I changed my username to the title of a song. I am actually a woman but I've has some different responses in certain threads.

OP, hope you and your GF are ok. Don't be afraid to seek medical advice if you are still concerned. NHS 111 can give advice over the phone.

I despair sometimes. No wonder MN has a bad reputation for bitchiness. OP probably won't be back - I wouldn't either if I'd been the subject of such vitriol.

Agree MrEverything. I was briefly MrPorky, after my favourite snack!

I really couldnt do/say anything right

Did you see DadDadDad's entirely innocuous lighthearted thread about what a stereotypical dad he was being yesterday? Nice longterm poster, sweet trivial thread but a couple of posters just laid into him.

TBH an AIBU thread with a title like this one posted by a man got things off to a bad start.
Completely reworded in General Health and the replies would be v different.

I suffer like your partner, it's horrendous. Wipes me out for a week and the pain is awful. It's also embarrassing bleeding through my clothes and ruining bed linen. My partner is really nice about it and makes me feel like it's no big deal, thank god.

Also buscopan helps me, buy her some to try?

It wasnt that long ago we had a female poster who said that PMT and period problems were just a figment of our imaginations, she didnt get half as much flak as the poor OP has. Title was a bit unfortunate but his actual post was fine and certainly doesn't warrant the name calling he has got.

People bang on about the thread police but AIBU is not the place for genuine medical problems IMHO.

I had no idea that my period pains were as bad as being in labour, until I had a baby.

Me too. GP juts dismissed my pain.

I got lucky and post pg and bf they have been so much better.

Pain killers and hot water bottles and if it persists and GF is worried see what out of hours services you have in your area.

Even if it was in AIBU a different title and wording of the OP would have led to sympathetic responses. Something like "I am really worried about my GF, is there anything the GP could do? "