aibu to think period pain shouldn't be that bad? [title edited by MNHQ]

[scarredforlife]

My girlfriend has her period today, granted she always says the first day is the worst. I've had to hand wash three cushion covers because she bled through them, now she's just sheepishly taken the bedsheet down with blood on it and is basically crawling back up the stairs!
I sound like a typical man but is it normal to be that bad? Genuinely concerned

Sorry to hear this for both of you. I am glad you didn't see this thread last night! Take care of both of you xx

Yes for some it is like giving birth. When a woman is giving birth, the womb contacts a lot to help push baby out, these are known as contacting and can be extremely painful, same thing happens when a woman has a period, the womb is contracting to push the unused lining out. For some, it can feel like giving birth again.

Just read your update , sorry to hear about your sad news, thoughts with you both

for both of you.
Sorry about the miscarriage but glad you went to the hospital and that your gf will be ok (physically at least).

Also sorry you got such a rough ride for asking a genuine question. Not all MN is like that. There were quite a few posters who stuck up for you but that does not excuse those who were out of order.

Sorry for your loss

'AIBU' at its absolute worst.

I think this board needs a warning attached somewhere - 'This is the home of the viper pit you may have heard about. Phrase your title very carefully, and be prepared to be verbally attacked whatever you post. You may prefer to use the Chat board. You have been warned.'

"So although most of you called me a twat"

Mumsnet at its best, eh? Am on its behalf. So sorry, OP, to hear about your loss.

Also, what would really improve MN Talk in general, is if you'd have to read the thread before commenting. There are always people who just read the title, the rush to the comments box to say whatever they want to say, which can look horrible if things have moved on.

Jeez OP. That's terrible, so sorry for you both for your loss

Very sorry to hear the outcome - but at least your GF is now getting the care she needs. Very scary time for you both.

My periods have never been too bad, but I had a couple awful ones once I'd stopped breastfeeding. Could it be that possibly?

Oh OP I'm very sorry for your loss

There is a miscarriage and pregnancy loss board on here. I found it so helpful when I had my miscarriages. It helped me to talk to other women who knew exactly how I felt because they was going through the exact same thing. It made what was a very lonely and sad time that little less shit and for that I am truly grateful. Now I can completely understand if your girlfriend doesn't want to post here after all the shit you have unnecessarily recieved but please let her know that if she does want to talk there will always be a sympathetic ear ready to listen on those boards.

Best wishes to the both of you and I appologise for all the nastiness on this thread. I'm am disgusted by some of the responses you've had

Op, despite the huge amount of irrational hate you seemed to attract on the strength of an imperfect opening post, mumsnet is a really good place if your wife needs to talk about the miscarriage. Don't write it off. Xx

READ THE FUCKING THREAD

Er, sorry, that last remark was for ShamefulPlaceMarker

Or if you need to talk too, of course.

Soory, just read your last reply.

I had god awful period pain a couple months ago and it turned out to be a miscarriage. Not nice :(

Hope you are both okay x

OP, I'm so sorry. Don't show your DP this thread, it's Mumsnet at its venomous best. However, the Mumsnet pregnancy-loss boards are a wonderful source of support and comfort and you will both find great kindness and empathy there. Be kind to yourselves. Wishing you both peace.

So sorry OP

Thanks puntastic but I got 5 pages in and was getting fucked off by the horrible replies, so I decided to post something mildly helpful.
It was only then, when I read the last page that I'd missed an important post from op. So yeah, fuck you!

bit harsh there Puntastic, i dont think that Shamefuls reply warranted that response

Sorry to hear your news OP, I hope you and GF are ok

I am so sorry op

Genuinely, despite the evidence of this thread, MN can be an amazingly supportive place.

I think deleting this thread might be a good idea just in case the op's DP finds it. It would certainly put her off seeking support.

OP, to you and your wife.