aibu to think period pain shouldn't be that bad? [title edited by MNHQ]

[scarredforlife]

My girlfriend has her period today, granted she always says the first day is the worst. I've had to hand wash three cushion covers because she bled through them, now she's just sheepishly taken the bedsheet down with blood on it and is basically crawling back up the stairs!
I sound like a typical man but is it normal to be that bad? Genuinely concerned

Yes, it's quite clear if you actually read the OP as well as the thread title that he's worried that the pain and bleeding she's experiencing is more than "just" period pain. i.e. period pain isn't that bad.

Why are people so quick to flame without even trying to understand the post?

And it is really scary to have that much blood if you don't normally.

OP she hasn't recently given up breastfeeding or anything? I had some incredibly heavy periods after finishing feeding my baby, it worried me even as I had never experienced it like that before. It calmed down after a while.

I am sorry you've copped such abuse here.

I agree, it's a slightly ambiguous first post, but why did so many people just decide to assume the worst, rather than assume the more reasonable option that he's worried. And even if he is a cock, even if he were a troll, for every one poster there's a hundred lurkers looking over our shoulders who'd benefit from some solid facts and advice rather than unedifying abuse.

There are some utter cunts on this thread, who clearly didn't bother reading past the opening post.

Or perhaps they did and still chose to post like an utter cunt.

OP, see if you can encourage her to go to the doctors on Monday.

Especially if she is anaemic.

I have actually reported this thread because I'm fucking sick of the way men are treated here by some.

Grow the fuck up people. Read his post, not the title and you will see he is just a concerned man asking for advice. I hate to think of some of the men some posters here have had in their lives to act this way against a poster just because he has a penis.

I would find it a worry if she is already anaemic(sp?) and has bled heavily enough to go on three cushions and a bedsheet.
Unless she is not using a pad or something. Im hoping she would be.

I would be fairly certain the op will not be coming back to the thread. Why on earth would he?

Hell hath no fury like a woman who read only the thread title

Sorry you've had a load of shit thrown at you op, you don't deserve it, it's clear from your op you're worried about your
Just comfort her, get her what she needs.
If if seems worse than normal do you have any walkins near by you could go to?
Ignore the shitty posters.
Hope your gf feels better soon xx

Yes betrayed you should

U2, I agree...sorry but some have been utter vile bitches on this thread. Who the fuck says "no you sound like a twat"...oh that will be you "hobnobsaremyfave*...charming!

Let alone the rest of them....

Since when was MN anti-men?

Hopefully OP has gone to actually talk to his GF.

Yes u2 im ashamed by some posters on here calling him a knob and a manchild etc when he's clearly asking for help.
No wonder this place gets a bad rep sometimes.

Ask her what you can do for her and I suggest a gp/nurse appt on Monday.

MN has had a lot of anti-men posters for a while it seems.

If a thread is started by a man then he is fair game, because he must be an arse.

Instead of reading this post and his others some just saw male poster, must be an arse.

OP I have awful periods like that. If you are still worried tonight call 111 for advice or ask her to see the GP on Monday. If she is anaemic it isn't something I would want to leave. I bleed loads but it's normal for me so it doesn't worry me, but anything that is abnormal is worth a quick chat to a professional.

OP if you're still reading, you've had loads of good advice. I hope your partner's OK. I can see why you'd be worried.

And to those of you who hurled a load of abuse at the OP, RTFT.

They can definitely be very very painful. I used to throw up with the pain and missed two days of work every month. I still bleed heavily and sometimes bleed through, onto sheets, cushions etc. A visit to the docs is advisable. Just believe her please.

FFS, thickgit, he does believe her.

Since when was MN anti-men?

There have always (in the nearly 5 years that I've been here) been a minority of posters who come across as really anti-men.

It's as though they're positively dribbling venom and can't wait to leap onto a thread to spout their bile, often for very little reason.

But due to name changing, it's hard to keep up with them until they pop up and start flinging their shit.

I also feel sorry for some female OPs who post about a fairly minor problem with their DP, and end up reading some really vile OTT insults that probably wouldn't have been said, had their DP been female.

What ouryve, still? Please RTFT

I think the blood loss sounds too much to be normal and she should see her GP. Assume she is using pads for very heavy flow if the blood is leaking through those it is way too much to be normal. I didn't think you sounded unsympathetic at all just concerned.

OP if this isn't normal for your girlfriend you should seek medical advice.

Some people are just too thick and stupid to read the thread.

Disgusting.

Period pain can be terrible - I used to faint monthly with it and it was a huge relief to lose consciousness and escape the pain. It was every bit as bad as labour pains (although I didn't know anything about that at the time) but without the relief of gas and air etc. It was worse some months than others, so it could be that your GF is just having a particularly bad time this month.

I echo the advice about the hot water bottle on the abdomen - this really helped me, along with paracetamol and plenty of drinks. As a pp said, take immediate action and phone the doctor if your GF has a temperature and passes clots as that may well indicate a far more serious problem. Hopefully, she will feel a lot better tomorrow.