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told to leave my 2 year son outside

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caz1987k · 09/11/2015 20:40

My health visitor can out to see me after my 2 year old son have a temperature and rash had a A&E visit over it she was saying you have to put cold water in the bath 1st or he will be burned and drown my son is not left in the bathroom alone she was very ignorant and was basically telling me how to safeguard my son in the bathroom my son has 3 different types of eczema and have had this since birth has been to see a skin specialist about this she was Intent on making me see a different specialist she even made appointments for me to see my GP my GP said my son does not need any skin specialist she left a voicemail on my phone for me to call her when I called her she was telling me I have to safeguard the outside of the property that I'm living in in this she told me I had to get a cage that attaches to my front door so my 2 year old son can go outside and play I was told buy her to leave my son unattended outside in a cage I would never leave my child unattended at any point been outside and is watching when in the bath has anyone got any advice on this matter as I'm not a stupid person that would leave a 2 year old in a cage outside but there are young mums out there that could possibly take notice to what thishealth visitor has told me

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HaydeeofMonteCristo · 09/11/2015 23:18

I have put DS in the Guinea pig run (a big one on the grass) before, but only because he wanted to go in.

Warning- unhelpful.

Warning- possible animal welfare issue due to being in cage with DS.

Lj8893 · 09/11/2015 23:18

This can't be real, surely?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 09/11/2015 23:19

Haydee I just spat my tea out at that! Proper laughing!

Passmethecrisps · 09/11/2015 23:19

caz you don't have to see her at all. If you are happy with how things are and your son is happy and healthy then that is all that needs to be said.

You can call up in the morning and cancel.

Please don't try recording the conversation

DixieNormas · 09/11/2015 23:19

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Original poster
caz1987k · 09/11/2015 23:23

Passmethecrisps she came out once

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DoomGloomAndKaboom · 09/11/2015 23:24

Is English the first language of the health visitor?

Original poster
caz1987k · 09/11/2015 23:24

Thanks

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Passmethecrisps · 09/11/2015 23:25

It still stands that you don't need to see her again.

Or if you feel you need to, do you have a partner or a friend who could go with you?

I wasn't keen on my HV so my DH would occasionally come along to the appointments. It made a huge difference to my confidence

Pobspits · 09/11/2015 23:25

Didn't she leave the message about the cage on a voicemail so you already have a recording???

HarveySchlumpfenburger · 09/11/2015 23:26

Most people are belittling you.

Freudian slip, PaulAnker.

What's really weird Daemon is that if the OP had put paragraphs and punctuation in, this thread would almost certainly have gone very differently. The HV said something batshit threads aren't exactly rare here and usually end up with people telling the OP to ignore an sharing stuff their HV said.

I've a feeling the only reason this hasn't gone that way is because the lack of punctuation seems to have caused people to have made a judgement about the OP, so they're picking her apart instead.

Original poster
caz1987k · 09/11/2015 23:28

No Pobspits it was a voicemail to contact her. And I will bring my partner along passmethecrisps

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Pobspits · 09/11/2015 23:30

Ohhh ok. Well I don't know what to say really? I think I'd ask to see the notes the medical team had passed on to her because that seems to be what's prompted the initial contact?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 09/11/2015 23:30

No, I think that people would still be questioning the OP about whether the HV told her to cage a baby, outside in winter, or whether there had been a miscommunication.

Chippednailvarnish · 09/11/2015 23:33

What's really weird Daemon is that if the OP had put paragraphs and punctuation in, this thread would almost certainly have gone very differently

Completely agree, I for one had no bloody idea what she was on about. What with her mentioning a baby, a dog, a cage, recordings and God being a witness!

ilovesooty · 09/11/2015 23:35

Be fair. I'm sure "As God is my witness" is comprehensible to anyone.

BiscuitMillionaire · 09/11/2015 23:37

caz: please ignore the bitchy sneery comments. I could understand most of your post, even without full stops.

You're not the first person on mumsnet to get bonkers advice from a HV. If your DS is already seeing a skin specialist then she shouldn't interfere. The putting the cold water in the bath first is standard advice, although I'm not sure why she's giving it to you.

The bit about attaching a cage to the outside of your door is bizarre and that's why some people are being silly. If you have to see her tomorrow, I would ask her to write down exactly what she means by this. And come back and post here again and tell us!

I love all the stupid assumptions people make on MN.
English is not your first language - WRONG
She meant a crate for your dog - WRONG
Pointing out someone's grammar and spelling mistakes makes you look clever - WRONG

Original poster
caz1987k · 09/11/2015 23:38

PaulAnkaTheDog your very concerned with what I wrote. I stated a CAGE was the hv very words now unless you tapped in on my call and heard different please don't bother leaving a comment thanks. Chippednailvarnish you the same cheers!

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HarveySchlumpfenburger · 09/11/2015 23:39

I'm not sure your poor comprehension skills are really the fault of the OP though are they Chipping? It really wasn't that difficult.

TheObserverOne · 09/11/2015 23:39

God no I would never put my 2 year old outside in a cage during the winter.

At least bring it inside until spring!!

Original poster
caz1987k · 09/11/2015 23:40

BiscuitMillionaire
I will let ye know tomorrow and thanks very much

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Original poster
caz1987k · 09/11/2015 23:42

And I'm going to ask for it all in writing

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Theodolia · 09/11/2015 23:50

No its bollocks

Notgrumpyjustquiet · 09/11/2015 23:50

???????

Permanentlyexhausted · 09/11/2015 23:51

TBF there are a lot of indicators in the OP's posts that might suggest that English is not her first language (although I understand it is). Spelling and punctuation are the least of them. It is therefore sensible for posters to ask the OP whether English is her first language in a case like this since it might enable them to give better advice. That is not to say there weren't some unnecessary comments about her English.