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told to leave my 2 year son outside

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caz1987k · 09/11/2015 20:40

My health visitor can out to see me after my 2 year old son have a temperature and rash had a A&E visit over it she was saying you have to put cold water in the bath 1st or he will be burned and drown my son is not left in the bathroom alone she was very ignorant and was basically telling me how to safeguard my son in the bathroom my son has 3 different types of eczema and have had this since birth has been to see a skin specialist about this she was Intent on making me see a different specialist she even made appointments for me to see my GP my GP said my son does not need any skin specialist she left a voicemail on my phone for me to call her when I called her she was telling me I have to safeguard the outside of the property that I'm living in in this she told me I had to get a cage that attaches to my front door so my 2 year old son can go outside and play I was told buy her to leave my son unattended outside in a cage I would never leave my child unattended at any point been outside and is watching when in the bath has anyone got any advice on this matter as I'm not a stupid person that would leave a 2 year old in a cage outside but there are young mums out there that could possibly take notice to what thishealth visitor has told me

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Fairenuff · 09/11/2015 22:55

There is a world of difference between a playpen and a cage OP and I think you are being obtuse on that point.

Posters are just trying to understand you and give you the advice that you asked for. Stop being difficult. It's obvious that the HV did not tell you to put your child in a cage, that is your word and you being stubborn about it.

DixieNormas · 09/11/2015 22:57

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caz1987k · 09/11/2015 22:58

Fairenuff her exact words was cage that attaches to front and back door

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Chippednailvarnish · 09/11/2015 22:59

Well this thread has made me lol. Especially Liner Grin

And naughty Paul not being rude to the OP.

I can't believe I got deleted whilst andnow didn't Wink

PaulAnkaTheDog · 09/11/2015 22:59

But even the outside part is Hmm. Are we talking outside the kitchen door, where OP is? So no further away from her than he would be if they were both inside? To get the kid fresh air, while his mother is a couple metres away and constantly supervising.

DaemonPantalaemon · 09/11/2015 23:00

I'm assuming the op doesn't speak English as a first language which is why it's difficult to fully understand?

I am sick to death of this assumption on Mumsnet. It shows up all the time, like foreigners are, by definition, not particularly clued up on basic concepts like oh I don't know punctuation? Show me a language, please, that does not use paragraphs or punctuation. Any language will do. Paragraphs and punctuations are about how words are arranged on a page. They are not unique to the English language.

DixieNormas · 09/11/2015 23:07

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caz1987k · 09/11/2015 23:08

Thanks to the people for their time in kindly helping me. English is my first language and some are here just to intimate and belittle someone that just asked advice!

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Piratepete1 · 09/11/2015 23:09

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 09/11/2015 23:10

Most people are belittling you. They are trying to understand what happened because it doesn't seem to make much sense. Of course people aren't going to blindly just take what you said a face value. You said a HV told you to put a baby in a cage, outside, in winter! It's not intimidation to want the facts clarified in such a bizarre situation.

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caz1987k · 09/11/2015 23:11

No dixie I only seen this hv once and she assumes she knows me all my life, my door is never left open or unlocked as I have two steps out the back door and one step out the front door and wouldn't feel safe leaving my doors open at all.

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AwakeCantSleep · 09/11/2015 23:12

Following Deamon's challenge I have checked the most obscure piece of writing I own, and can confirm that in the Greenlandic language both punctuation and paragraphs are in use. (Random fact)

told to leave my 2 year son outside
Johnny5isAlive · 09/11/2015 23:12

OP, I would just nod and chose to ignore the HV.
And the majority of posters on this thread

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caz1987k · 09/11/2015 23:13

PaulAnkaTheDog as hard as you may or may not believe it but the hv did say a CAGE!

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 09/11/2015 23:13

Clearly I meant to say not belittling you.

DixieNormas · 09/11/2015 23:14

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Lj8893 · 09/11/2015 23:14

What the actual fuck is this thread about?? I don't actually understand it at all.

I kind of understood and sympathised with the op up until she said about going to the press with a recording?! Who even thinks that? All too Jezza Kyle for me.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 09/11/2015 23:15

And like I said, it is such a bizarre thing for a Health Visitor to say, that people will look for confirmation from you about exactly what happened. It would be ridiculous to take that at face value.

DixieNormas · 09/11/2015 23:16

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ilovesooty · 09/11/2015 23:16

Having read the entire thread I still think there must have been a misunderstanding somewhere along the line.

Limer · 09/11/2015 23:16

Is the dog called PaulAnka?

Passmethecrisps · 09/11/2015 23:17

The thing is at the end of the day it doesn't matter.

You know how to care for your child. End of.

if you have never met her and this conversation was on the phone I would chalk it up to some daft advice from someone who has no clue what your personal circumstances are.

If it really does bother you contact the GP to talk about it.

If she calls again thank her for her time and hang up.

BrendaFlange · 09/11/2015 23:17

I had a HV call once, without warning or appointment, when DC1 was newborn, I didn't let her in because I had family round, and I never had a HV call again, ever. How do these HVs come to be in everyone's lives?

As for one saying a child 'might have had a bleed in the brain' WTAF??

PaulAnkaTheDog · 09/11/2015 23:18

Don't even think about putting me in a cage! Angry

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caz1987k · 09/11/2015 23:18

Dixie I'm not sure what it looks like as she was on the phone telling me about it, and I have to go see her tomorrow, I will find out more about the cage tomorrow

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