AIBU to think children aren't that fussed about the size of their house?

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Had an interesting discussion with my BF last night.

He is adamant it's cruel to have children if you aren't able to give them their own room and loads of space etc.

I think you can be poor and live in a small house still be happy.

BF grew up in a large Georgian town house with 6 bedrooms, a library etc.
I grew up in a council house.
BF thinks it's odd that my boys share a bedroom. (He has no DC)
I've said that lots of families live like this, but he thinks overcrowding causes MH issues.

AIBU thinking kids don't mind living in a cosy home, as long as their needs are met?

*Longcovid21

The smaller a property the higher the decline in mental health.

What rubbish!

It's sadly true, a smaller space does impact negatively on a person's mental health.*

Again what is your evidence here? Why the trend for tiny houses then? I live in a small terraced house. I feel much more contented than when I lived in a 4 bedroom plus massive loft conversion house.

Never had this issue myself apart from shared a bedroom with my brother for 2-3 years when younger but friend has 3 daughters and 1 son in a maisonette that originally had 2 bedrooms and he built a bar area. Gradually all the kids have either shared or had their own rooms made and yes it’s been tough. Space can be really important for kids.

We have a biggish house and the kids pester to share a room!

We don't atm because youngest wakes at night and would disturb eldest (trials have not gone well) but will prob have to give in at some point!

I have to agree somewhat with your bf - I would’ve hated sharing a room with my sister. I’m an introvert and I value my space and alone time.

However I think my dd would’ve loved to share a room with a sibling as she thrives off being around people.

I shared with my sister and hated it. No privacy whatsoever!

When I was in my pre teens my counsellor wrote to the council saying I needed my own bedroom and we got priority for a 3 bed house so I got my own room.

When I was in my late teens my mum did a house swap as she hated our neighbours and we ended up back in a 2 bed. So there was one late teen and one early 20s sharing a bedroom. Neither of us could afford a place of our own.

It made relationships really difficult. Children should always have their own room in my opinion.

@Mumsmet - why resurrect a 7 year old thread?!?!?!

I don’t know, my kids 5 cousin’s all live together in a 2bed flat. Means 4 girls sharing one room, and big age gaps of over 10yrs between the oldest 2 and youngest 2. Then the only boy sleeps in the living room. I think that’s quite tough, especially when studying for exams like one is right now. But then they are very happy and their home is always filled with love. My DD is close to the youngest 2 girls and I think sometimes she is jealous that they have each other but also she struggles when staying there as she likes her own space

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