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AIBU?

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To sometimes feel like a brusque tweedy old lady on MN

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Imogentlasting · 04/11/2015 10:52

I'm not that old, but some of the views on here really astound me. No one touch my child (on a thread I started); Christmas is just for me and my little unit, no relatives allowed; how dare an elderly person park in a P&T space; etc etc etc

AIBU to sometimes think the world is slowly going mad?

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Madeyemoodysmum · 04/11/2015 10:56

Agree!!

Pootles2010 · 04/11/2015 10:57

I think a lot of people are suffering sleep deprivation - this is my only theory!

MorrisZapp · 04/11/2015 10:58

Women have always dreaded doing all the thankless work at Christmas. If they can say no to that then that's progress in my view. My older female relatives lived as family drudges, it was expected. Thank god times change.

Can't help you with the parking bit, I've never seen anybody say that on here.

goodnightdarthvader1 · 04/11/2015 10:59

Agree. I'm particularly disliking how many ordinary words and phrases have suddenly become offensive, rude or "triggering".

BlueJug · 04/11/2015 10:59

Agree. The interesting question is why - as it always is. Who benefits from the attitudes prevalent in today's society? What has changed?

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Imogentlasting · 04/11/2015 11:08

Glad it's not just me. There have been several threads lately where I've felt like bustling in, telling everyone not to be so silly, and sending them out for a run around in some healthy fresh air.

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BlueJug · 04/11/2015 11:12

Agree too about the thankless work at Christmas though - but I don't think that is what is the heart of the OP's observation.

There is an imbalance - a conflict even - between outrage over specific crimes or words and complete lack of the bigger picture. Not able to go in to specifics as have to go to work now but will check back in and see where this goes.

WorraLiberty · 04/11/2015 11:15

There have been several threads lately where I've felt like bustling in, telling everyone not to be so silly, and sending them out for a run around in some healthy fresh air.

Just tell 'em! I do. It's actually quite cathartic

Fortunately, most of the attitudes I see on Mumsnet, in no way represent my experience of real life.

I can't imagine the joyless misery of life, if it actually did.

RB68 · 04/11/2015 11:15

I agree - everyone always off in the deep end of me me me, mine mine mine and everyone is a pervert - sad really and explains why there is so little community today

maybebabybee · 04/11/2015 11:16

I'm only 26 and I agree with you, so if you are an harrumphing old lady then so am I :)

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Imogentlasting · 04/11/2015 11:19

I might send some of them for a term in Malory Towers Worral. Three months of matron clapping her hands and not standing for any nonsense would sort them out

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MyCatIsABiggerBastardThanYours · 04/11/2015 11:23

Oh yes I'm with you. I think most threads can be covered with one of the following phrases:

Belt up!
If you like, only you care
Who gives a shit
Grow up
Grow up
No

I have been having a pleasant foray into classics of late and it reminded me how much less judgemental it was on here previously with a much sharper sense of humour. It's still here but I do find the permanently offended bloody miserable, humourless bastard.'s tiresome and boring!

MissBattleaxe · 04/11/2015 11:24

Imogentlasting- I've been getting very disillusioned lately with Mumsnet lately but you are like a breath of fresh air! I agree and I feel like I'm with my own tribe on this thread.

mateysmum · 04/11/2015 11:25

I know what you mean. Social attitudes have changed dramatically in the last 20 or so years and things that I was brought up to believe were eternal truths/ set in stone social habits have now been swept away. Much of this has been to the good, but it does leave one all at sea sometimes.

Like you I just want to yell " oh for pete's sake, just get over yourself and get on with it"

WorraLiberty · 04/11/2015 11:30

When I see 'No one touch my child', 'Christmas is just for me and my little unit, no relatives allowed'...or (as is sometimes seen) 'I don't want my PILs to see my newborn baby, until it's 2 weeks old' etc...

It makes me think (rightly or wrongly) that the person lacks control in other parts of their lives.

It's like they feel now they've had a baby, they have some sort of 'power' that they never had before.

It's sad really, because they're often pushing away the very people who they would need around them, if something awful were to happen in their lives.

PassiveAgressiveQueen · 04/11/2015 11:32

people seem to have completely lost the knack of forgiveness, and understanding of others point of view.
e.g. "My MIL wanted to see her grandchild before she was a year old how dare she only my mother and I are allowed to see the little precious"
next thread "why won't my MIl babysit?"
responses "selfish bitch, cut her out".

FadedRed · 04/11/2015 11:33

Yay Imogen, spot on! Haven even thinking exactly the same as you have written.
Glad it is not just me.
Currently reading a book about women working during WWII - and imagining the threads on MN if some of the 'misery' posters had to cope with the conditions these women lived and worked in. They wouldn't last five minutes!
As for the Christmas family threads, some are sooo selfish, it makes me sad.
I'd love to spend Christmas with DM and DAunt, but they both died during the past year. So glad we were them last Christmas as usual, despite having had a 'better offer'.
I know some people have a dreadful life and need the support of this website, but there are some who need a slap taste of reality and a bit of compassion and common sense.

wigglesrock · 04/11/2015 11:33

I will admit to muttering the phrase "oh catch yourself on" to more than the majority of threads I've read lately. I thought it was me, I am becoming worse at hiding my minor irritation

LibrariesGaveUsP0wer · 04/11/2015 11:33

I am only in my 30s and I often feel this too.

Maybe we should all start typing "oh get over yourself ".

FadedRed · 04/11/2015 11:35

'Haven' should read 'Have been' . Bliddy autumn-carrot! Bloody auto-correct!

Preminstreltension · 04/11/2015 11:36

YY to all of this.

Brisk no-nonsense with those posters is the way to go. Along with smiling happily at people who try to do nice things like acknowledge your cute baby or offer sweets to your child those effing bastards

GrinAndTonic · 04/11/2015 11:37

Imogen I'm just imagining you walking into a thread a la Darrel Rivers style and giving the Gwendolyn's a good slapping.

ghostyslovesheep · 04/11/2015 11:39

I often think I'm turning into French and Saunders's old women

I want to bristle and shout 'stuff and nonsense stuff and nonsense'

which I often do

I find some of the things people get into a twist about so utterly banal and silly

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Imogentlasting · 04/11/2015 11:39

I think some of them could also do with Alicia speaking her mind, and Belinda sketching their mimsy expressions

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80sWaistcoat · 04/11/2015 11:40

Absolutely agree - lots of po faced nonsense being spouted. When really it should be 'just get over yourself' or 'you know, you are not the centre of the universe - grow up.'

I think I'm just getting old, seen it all before, and there's lots of really immature sounding people on here.

Where have all the funny people/straight talking people gone?

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