I'm going to be spending more on my DC this year than I have in previous years. We're a 2 income house since I've gone back to work so we have more disposable income than since we've had the DC.
I'll probably be spending about £80 on each child, plus little bits like new pj's and choc selection boxes and that sort of thing, they are 5 and 7.
Old friend (went to uni together) said I'm spoiling them. She is crocheting and knitting a hat and scarf for her DC and getting them one book and one toy each, spending less than £20 each.
The thing is that she has a massive, well off family. Her DC get an embarrassment of gifts each year from GPs, aunts, uncles. We used to spend Boxing lunch together so I have a good idea of what their family Xmas looks like, its basically ToysRUs in her living room and her DC have a blast.
On the other hand, my DC have my parents and no one else, so they receive far fewer gifts. I don't feel too bad buying them a few toys rather than just one thing because I know they'll love them, know they'll be well treated and know they'll be thankful for them. Plus we can afford it, tbh we could afford more now I'm working but don't want to go OTT and might as well keep it relatively small before the expensive teenage years!
Anyway, to cut a long story short I politely pointed this out to her and she said I was jealous and spoiling the DC to make up it. The conversation didn't go well.
So AIBU?