to think that for 1 night when staying with friends or family you could bunk up and share a room with your child?

[meganorks]

Every year we go for Christmas at DH's parents. Every year his brother and family um and ah whether they are or not. Last year a few days before christmas they decided they were. We had already said we we would go and stay with our two (3 and 1) and had been talking about it and getting excited. So we said 'great, we will all share 1 bedroom and they can have the other'. But they wouldn't stay unless they could have 1 room for them and 1 for their daughter (1yr). We refused as didn't think it was fair on our girls to change at last minute but also thought it was fucking ridiculous! I should add at this point that we live more locally (about 20 mins away) so I think that is why he thought we should go home. He is about an hour in the motorway.
Anyway, this year they have got the request in early, so we will go home. But I still think its fucking stupid they can't share a room for 1 night. Don't get me wrong - I would rather stick pins in my eyes than share a room with my 2. But for 1 or 2 nights when away visiting you just get on with it don't you?

Stand by what I and numerous others have said they are being v unreasonable! It's one night ffs!

Not surprised how sil is about pil watching her child. She sounds an absolute selfish nightmare!

meganorks I don't think it matters what age the kid is, or whether she's pregnant or not. If they don't want to share with their kid, and they're prepared to not stay over, then they're not being out of order. It sounds like there's no solution you'd be happy with other than they share with their kid.

I had missed the bit where they 'didn't mind' not staying... Was this said in a 'stampyfoot, do what I say or I'm not going to play' kinda way or 'my wife refuses to share and I haven't got the balls to argue with her about how unreasonable she is' KInda way.... Either way, sounds like a result. Your Dpil sound really nice as do you, whereas your sil/bil sound real pitas. I would get your pil to call them on their offer to go home and you and dcs can enjoy lovely Xmas sleepover with your pil/dgp

Ffs, I'm 8 months pregnant and have spent at least a couple of nights this week lying/sleeping on the floor in DD's room, where she's been grotty with a nasty cold! I know all pregnancies are different, and that wouldn't be possible for some people but SIL would still have a bed wouldn't she?? For the sake of 1-2 nights, they are being ridiculously precious. Especially as they demanded the same last year without that excuse! Sadly your PILs need to tell them no however.

We used to get this to a lesser extent with BIL & SIL who would always try to nab the spare room with the double bed rather than the twin ones. Conveniently, they always used the excuse that "they didn't think we'd be staying as we lived so close" (10-15 minute drive). Never mind the fact we might want to have a few drinks on Christmas day . And if they ended up in the twin, they would shift all the furniture around so they could push the beds together. For one night.

well if they don't want to share then they should be the ones driving home

Could their DD sleep in with PIL?

Madness and totally precious.

Visiting our relatives with our four kids has always meant one child sleeping in our room, even as a teen, and others bunking down on the dining room floor in sleeping bags: very happy to do so because it means they get to go and stay at grandparents. Friends visiting us have always shared a room with their younger children - with no grumbles; in fact, they usually wanted the smaller children in with them, so that if they woke in the night (in a relatively strange house) they could tend to them and settle them again, or help them find the bathroom across a strange landing.

Tbh at 8 months pregnant I'd rather drive home myself to my own bed than stay.

Regardless of this they are being precious. Can the DD go in with mil and fil especially as she'll be in her own travel cot.

It'll be interesting once they have two and still try to be so prescriptive about everything. They'll need to unclench or drive themselves batty