to breastfeed in public even though DH is uncomfortable with it and thinks I should find somewhere private?

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DS is 7weeks. He often struggles to latch and slips off repeatedly during a feed, so I dislike feeding under a shawl and find it hard to be discreet, as I need to keep reattaching him. I wear wrap dresses so I can just pull dress and bra down at one side. I don't really care if anyone sees my breast and don't feel the need to hide away in a corner or find a baby changing room for privacy. I've BF in the middle of Costa, in restaurants, in clothes shops and in a furniture shop, also in GP waiting room and in the back of a taxi as DS was crying and hungry. However, DH thinks BF should be a private thing and thinks I should either feed under a shawl or take a bottle of expressed milk. He said not to be surprised if shop manager asks me to feed elsewhere. My BF support group all say they feed anywhere and are against shawls as they think it makes BF out to be something obscene.
What do others think? Would you be offended by someone BF a small baby without a shawl? Are there places where its inappropriate to BF?

Today 19:25 Boo00100001

Brilliant video I think I am going to learn it off by heart.

Everyone else can have a drink in Costa. So why not a BF baby?

my dh was uncomfortable with BF in public, never outright said anything (few grumbles), he did get over it but I was a discreet feeder - usual vest top up and top up for coverage which helped. Didn't BF ds1 for long but with ds2 I fed for a year. At weekends he usually wandered off with ds1 if we were out while I had a cuppa and fed ds2, nice bit of peace and quiet tbh.

A friend used to wear low cut tops (large boobs) and just whop them out anywhere, think supermarket checkout was the most bizarre which IMO was a bit ott but kept my opinion to myself as her choice.

OP, your DH is new to this - I'll cut him some slack for now, but he needs to buck his ideas up sharpish. Show him the thread.

I would urge all BF women to feed everywhere and anywhere because it's only through exposure that this will become the norm and the antiquated fuckwits will start to get used to it.

And the shawls exacerbate the problem if you ask me. Hateful things - I found them incredibly stressful and DS abhorred them. I felt very liberated when I chucked mine out.

They don't aid discretion (if in fact that's a desirable aim) they draw far more attention to the act. They're patriarchal society's way of saying 'okay, you can breastfeed, but it can't be entirely on your own terms, I want to maintain a level of control over what you are doing'. The double top approach is infinitely more practical, comfortable and easy.

I have bf 3 dc which adds up to a over 4 yrs bfing. I always covered up with something my top/scarf/muslin/shawl or fed in the sling as I was more comfortable to do so. I personally think bfing covers draw attention (most seen to be brightly floral patterns) rather than detract it. But I wouldnt comment about this in rl anymore than I would about a woman bfing without a cover. If sends a bit unsupportive of a bfing support group to decide that one way is more desirable than another.

Well done on being so confident after only a few weeks and continue to feed how and when you wish.

YA absolutely NBU!!!
What does your dh think that you have breasts for? Him?
Love love love the idea of throwing a blanket over him whilst eating!!!

Love that video!
My DH was like this for about 2 weeks with DS1, until I snapped one day when he said we couldn't go into a restaurant if I needed to feed DS. We didn't go into the restaurant, or any other food establishment all day, and I refused to cook when I got home, after a 15 minute rant in the car about how DS needed to eat as much as he did, blah blah blah...
He never said a word again

My DH used to be uncomfortable. I don't blame him, I blame society and conditioning at large.

But, he knew he was in the wrong, and we got the fuck over it.

I'm thinking a massive king size duvet over his head while he's having his tea.

I mean, typical breastfeeding shawls are two or three times the size of a baby so, for accuracy's sake, a king size duvet cover for your DH would be about right.

If he objects, send him off to have his tea in the loo. That's the discreet option, yes?

"It's hard to look at someone when their boobs are out"

You're not trying hard enough then, Diddly. Try really gawping. Perhaps a disapproving raise of one eyebrow. Practice in a mirror. You'll get the hang.

Whatever you do, don't give in to the pressure to treat a nursing mother like a decent human being, or avert your eyes. Do not, under any circumstances allow The Shameless Feeding of Babies to happen near you. Your personal sensibilities are paramount.

As you were.

What an outrage- breastfeeding in a coffee shop- you must be doing that deliberately to provoke your dh.

Er wtaf?

"It's hard to look at someone when their boobs are out"

My god, I missed this gem. I suggest gouging out your own eyes, Diddly, that might help.

Everyone has said really good stuff so I have nothing to add. Your DH needs to respect your body and your role as a mother.

"It's hard to look at someone when their boobs are out"

If you're confronted with a breastfeeding mother, can I recommend trying to look at their head instead of their boobs? I find that's usually a good solution to this problem.

You can't say anything about breastfeeding without the boob mafia resorting to name-calling and being outraged. This is what I believe and that is my opinion, I won't be bullied into agreeing with you just because you think the world revolves around you and your child.

the video is AMAZING

and should be shared, shared and SHARED

Isn't it past your bedtime, flowers?

Helmet What an odd thing to say... I'm 25

No, it's not possible.

Helmet it's half term

shit physically 25, at least.

Please explain why a woman getting on hey way and breastfeeding her child is assuming the world revolves around her? Surely a woman demanding a private room in which to feed get cold would be classed as more "world revolves around me"?

It's very sad that you've been brainwashed to believe that all breastfeeding mothers are trying to show their boobs in everyone's face when they're simply trying to get on with their day and keep their child well fed. But still, low cut tops and bikinis are cool, right?

• shove their boobs, even.

My god, apologies for the rampant autocorrects, everyone.

*get on with her day
*in which to feed her baby

Shit where do you stand on low cut tops on the high street? Or topless sunbathing? It must send you insane.

And of course if you try and take powers away from a woman's own choice about what she does with her body, because of your ridiculous sensibilities, of course people will be outraged. And thank god we have that outrage otherwise people like you would actually get to make the rules!

flowers Watch the video - I think you'll like it

Here, I'll post it again, just for you

4 Reasons Women Should NEVER Breastfeed in Public
www.youtube.com/watch?v=LURZqBig734

I'm not a member of the "boob mafia" flowersandshit , I ff all of mine. Still think you're ridiculous, though