Friend wanting to be picked up from airport late at night

[BeadyEyes]

A good friend of ours is coming back from a trip and his flight was supposed to land at 10:30pm. DH very kindly agreed to go and pick him up from the airport (10 miles away). Now it transpires that the plane is over an hour late and will be getting in close to midnight. We have two young kids one of whom is very unsettled at night. The reason a friend doesn't want to get a taxi is the cost (not huge). DH is too nice to refuse!

By way of background, both us and our friend and his wife (one child) earn about the same amount of money ( not much) but they also own (no mortgage) two impressively expensive houses while we are paying off a mortgage on a cramped little house...in other words, I'd just pay for a cab and wouldn't expect a lift!

AIBU to be pissed off at my friend for having the cheek to ask, and still expect to be picked up even when the flight is delayed?

Well you've offered now, so you should go. Why are you pissed off he asked. You could have just said no.
Perhaps in future you just say no, or agree that should a flight be delayed, he needs to find his own way back.

Sounds like an arrangement between 2 friends (your DH & his friend). What difference does it make to you if your husband is out late?

Mind, Costs me £25-£35 to take the taxi 15 miles. Pennies compared to cost of flight so I wouldn't have asked either.

Gosh. How mean. Of you .

Well your DH agreed to do it for whatever reason, so it's probably him you should be annoyed at (if you want to be annoyed at all).

There's always a real possibility that a flight won't land on time, which your DH obviously knew when he agreed.

So this friend, who's quite well off, wants your husband, who isn't well off, to drive around picking him up, just to save some money?

If I were your DH I'd send a message saying sorry, it's too late, get a taxi.

Well, he can't help that his flight is delayed! Not sure why having young kids is a problem in your DH picking up a friend from the airport. I wouldn't think twice about picking up a friend from the airport of DH was home to look after the dc, regardless of how money the friend earned or how many houses they had. But then I am of the mind that friends do nice things to help each other.

YABU

It's what friends do.

Surely your two DC would have been settled in bed by the original time of 10.30pm, so an hour later won't make any difference?

Your friend is allowed to ask for a lift.
You are allowed to say no.

Once you've said yes YABU to bitch about it. Flights are often delayed. Just be glad it's only an hour.

YABVU. Friends do favours for friends.

What do your children have to do with it?

Friend cant help plane being delayed can he? If DH didnt/ doesnt want to give him a lift he should say no. It isnt difficult. Cant see what friend has done wrong here.

Well don't you sound like a peach

Their housing and money situation has precisely nada to do with your husband doing a friend a favour.

YABU.

Yabu surely you can deal with your dc yourself if they are unsettled.

Flights can be delayed everyone knows that.

YABU

I also think it's unreasonable to talk about other peoples finances, that's just me though.

YABU. Your DH made the arrangement with the friend, presumably without the caveat that if the flight was delayed the friend would need to make other arrangements. That's either an oversight on your DH's part, or he genuinely doesn't mind picking the friend up regardless of the time the flight lands. Because, you know, that's what friends do.

I don't see the relevance of how many unmortgaged houses your friend owns

Your unsettled DC would be unsettled whether your DH was leaving the house at 10pm or 11.30pm.

When you agreed you must gave realised the flight could be delayed.

Perhaps they have no mortgage because they don't waste money on taxis when they have friends who kindly offer lifts? Definitely sounds like there is something else going on here OP. You sound resentful.

I live near an airport. Approx 10 mins from my house.

10 minute taxi fares around us are approx £3-4

However, a 10 minute taxi fare from the airport is at least £20 if not more as they add on all the additional charges the airport costs. Everyone gets lifts to and from the airport from friends regardless of how wealthy they may or may not be as it's such a bloody rip off to get a taxi.

So, YABU!

This sounds like a case of "they earn/have more than us so how dare they ever ask us for anything"

What have the children got to do with anything? Were you going to make it a fairly trip?

DH is too nice to refuse!

No, your Dh is a normal decent human being who is honouring his offer of help.

How do you know this at 11.05 am? Are you not in UK? But he asked, DH said yes and now DH either texts him back saying ' sorry mate that's far too late for em, you'll have to get a cab' or goes anyway. Don't see what your earnings/ housing matter - I hate getting taxis late at night at airport - big queues and kerfuffal but it's up to your DH. I think YABU

YABU.

Unless the friend is the reason the flight is delayed, which I'm sure it's not.

You sound bitter about their housing situation. Plus surely the favour can be returned in future.

Unless your husband is picking him up by helicopter and has to land in your garden by your children's windows I have no idea what their sleeping patterns have to do with this.

I think the time to have refused was when your DH was asked. The plane is only an hour late which isn't that much. You sound very envious of your 'friends'. There will always be folk richer than you.