to expect a text after we slept together?

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So I've been seeing a guy for around a month and we had our fifth date and I stayed at his and we slept together.

We both left early as he had work.

He would have finished work by now and I've heard nothing from him.

Am I expecting too much?

HANDKERCHIEF: 0 MOBILE PHONE CASE: 1

Just to confuse this thread further.

Hello. I am an independent electoral observer appointed by the United Nations. I will be scrutinizing the polling stations and the final count at 10pm. The verification procedure will be conducted according to the DeWinter Convention.

It's text. Texted is just weird!

Who will have the swingometer?

Whats the exit poll so far?

TEXT fraeks : 11
DON'T TEXT RIGHTEOUS FEW: 3??

lol at Dewinter - WTF

I can just see this as a chapter in a chick lit novel (mind you hope it all does work out OP )

the clamouring hordes, waiting to vote

I'm fancying Robert Peston on the swingometer.

Exit polls strongly showing gains for Strong Independent Womanhood and the Text That Man parties.

I would probably have been a bit "Hmm" at him not texting me by now, if I'm honest, but I'd also have text him a few hours ago.

I don't really do games, I'm no good at them. He'd be on my mind so I prefer to be open and just push the ball back into his court. If he replies, great. If not, I know where I stand.

I hope he does text you. It's a minefield, balancing other people - I'm one of those annoying people that loves to be around people I like and I miss people as soon as they are gone, I'd be in constant comms with everyone if I could. I understand others like a break and I try to keep that in mind and not take it personally - hard as that can be at times. It could just be that you don't totally match in this regard, and a compromise will need to be made.

Why do people make things so complicated?

You want to hear from him, so text him.

If he doesn't text you back then he is an arsehole. You can either wait for ages to see if he is an arsehole or text him now and see if he's an arsehole.

OP I really want him to text you now.

Just bloody TEXT him.

I can't stand all these games- just be upfront and honest. It makes life so much easier!

texting someone once is not needy or unsexy ffs

It's not "just texting" which is the point. It is texting someone you saw this morning because you haven't heard from them in a ridiculously short time frame PURELY because you had sex the night before and are feeling insecure, vulnerable.

It's a texting only designed to get reassurance. There's nothing wrong with that in the abstract. But in the early stages of a relationship it is needy and it is unsexy - because it shows serious insecurity.

It is utterly transparent - and I would think the same of a man texting in the same way. The purpose is entirely to provoke some sort of response that will (hopefully) show he enjoyed it/is still keen/hasn't forgotten you.

It's not as if it's a text with a purpose saying "I've got a spare ticket for this evening at the last minute". They just saw each other this morning and OP is just wanting reassurance because she's feeling vulnerable.

That will be clear to the recipient. It may make no difference but if you are calling the odds, it's rarely good to appear very insecure at the start of a relationship.

All the 57 lurkers are saying fgs don't text!

Just text him,OP. He may be equally concerned he's not heard from you.

OP, re text vs texted, I was hoping I might make you laugh! I know loads of people who say "text" instead of "texted" in real life, well, my friends in fact!

anyhoo, I can see this isn't a humorous thread in any way, shape or form so I'll jog on now.

Apparently, quite a lot of people fancy Robert Peston.

It's weird he hasn't texted or called you, but it's equally weird you haven't texted or called him either. I get you don't want to if he doesn't want to, but what if he feels the same as you on this?! Someone has to go first. Tbf, if it's this difficult and power trippy at this point in your relationship, and you're both anxious rather than excited about contacting each other then it's not going well.

lorelai I knew you were being lighthearted.

But it is still text

It's weird he hasn't texted or called you but it's equally weird you haven't texted or called him either.

FFS it really isn't weird! It's less than 24 hours. People have lives you know. They only parted this very morning according to the opening post.

What the fuck are the vote numbers at now? Stick me one in the "Text" column, please, whoever is in charge of the voting. Is it Azerberjan? And so ends the vote d the Curlyhairedassassin jury. By the way, your dress looks lovely tonight, and we're all loving the show.

bakeoff you need to vote or your VOICE WONT BE HEARD

wont someone think off the suffragettes and that shit movie?