to expect a text after we slept together?

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So I've been seeing a guy for around a month and we had our fifth date and I stayed at his and we slept together.

We both left early as he had work.

He would have finished work by now and I've heard nothing from him.

Am I expecting too much?

I think you're cutting your nose off to spite your face. It's quite stubborn to not text on principle. But youre within your rights to feel that way, I'm totally not judging you. I might feel the same in the situation.

Don't let folk disagreeing with you stop you from updating, most of us do appreciate the update.

Still no text?

OP- maybe the words woo you weren't the correct ones to use, but you definitely expect him to text you, as a man. But you didn't expect him to as a man start contact each day, or pay for dinner or dates.
I just feel it might be confusing for him.... Hope he texts you soon. Interested in watching this unfold. I hope he texts soon

I still don't understand why you haven't texted the man as its causing so much anguish

Just text him. Its not hard.

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nice Thank you for the explanation.

I totally agree with you OP. He normally calls you on his way home, and today OF ALL DAYS, he hasn't. I know a lot of people will give you the impression that they couldn't give a shit if a guy they really liked, didn't contact them after sex, but unless they're made of stone, I just don't buy that. You are just being normal. I would NOT text any man first! Let the man do the running. And to men on here who don't understand the "chase" at the start of a new relationship, you're probably very young, but it used to always be "boy chases girl"

I can only say I would not text until morning and that would just say 'Hi, so sorry been busy, how are you doin on this fine morning?' or something!

Don't text anything that gives away what you feel!!

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oooh well done Binary

I wouldn't text him either.

I love that I learn things on MN. I didn't know sex carried an obligation of a text message to follow.

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Cmon op, we need to know.

It doesn't- but a guy who is too nervous? Or too busy? To get in touch after the first time we've had sex categorically wouldn't be the guy for me.

And also - if he doesn't reply - THAT'S IT it's over he doesn't count anymore, move on, if he gets in touch in the future it's all 'OMG I forgot about you, how the heck ARE you?' Then leave it!

I still don't understand why you haven't texted the man as its causing so much anguish

I get the impression some of you are imagining me sat on the sofa crying on my third glass of wine and listening to Now Thats What I Call Love.

I've had 7am starts at work all week (including yesterday) and I've actually been out with friends and work colleagues most nights this week. I've finally had a lazy day today and I'm going out for dinner tonight.

I suppose I just had more time to think about the situation then I would on an ordinary day.

xpost my vote is dont post till morn then be dead casual as I said above!

this is you OP

Read the thread ILiveAtTheBeach

OP stated in a later post that she sometimes call/texts, he sometimes calls/texts and they go halves on dates etc.

Why should he suddenly do all the running now when things have seemingly been equal previously.

If you've always Texted each other, I don't get why it's so important that he does it this time. You're the one feeling the angst. Put an end to it.

• text not post! Gah!

WHY WON'T YOU TEXT HIM? Arrrgghhhhhhh!

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It's needy and unsexy - and that applies to a man or a woman texting like this in this situation. Leave it for 48 hours and my guess is he will have contacted you.