to have shouted at the knobhead who parked in a parent and child space?!

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(pre-thread warning: I'm a bit of a grumpy arsehole most of the time)

So, about two hours ago, myself, DH and DD (6 months) went to tescos. Headed for the parent and child spaces, but they were all full. I saw a couple, probably in their mid-30's loading their shopping into their car - not a child or car seat in sight. So DH pulled into a space just across the way from them. I made a big show of struggling to get DD out of her car seat in the normal sized space, and as we walked past I said "nice to see you struggling to get all your kids into your car in that massive space"

The man didn't know what to say, and the woman just put her head down and pretended not to have heard me.
Was I BU? Or does everyone else get The Rage when childless people park in parent and child spaces?!

I do understand what you are saying Tali, I just think entering into arguments with strangers is unwise, because people can be scary. thinking about road rage attacks and the like.

The tiny baby loved it's shopping apparently.

Oh dear

DC 3 is due in April. Does this mean I will be depriving him of a vital life experience if I decline to take three children shopping, so that the three o them can bond over the celery hearts?

tali I have seen you argue with so many people recently. I think you just like to disagree, you know you're wrong but won't admit it.

One of the situations I commented in. A young woman got out the car and walked into Tescos. No disabled relative, no obvious disability, no lack of other spaces both disabled and normal.

Oddly enough, I'd dropped my disabled MIL at Tesco last week, nipped to the bank and parked in a parent and child space to collect her. She had her blue badge in her handbag therefore I couldn't park in a disabled space. I was approached by a woman with long dark hair who proceeded to demand to know why I'd parked in a P&C space. I asked her why she wanted to know and she again demanded to know why I'd parked there. No rhyme nor reason to her wanting to know. I shook my head, told her to stop being a dick and went to help MIL to the car. That woman won the dick of the day and Wanky Wednesday award. I left her ranting to herself.

Sirzy it's both, if I don't have my son with me I don't use it because I don't need it. I don't judge people who use it for their disability

I hate these threads because they always descend into the "no obvious disability" shtick.

But you don't know what you are judging so you could easily be judging someone who uses it due to a disability.

Parking in blue badge space NEVER acceptable

Parking in P&C space: meh who cares, if you can't get children out of a car seat in a normal space you need a more sensible car, to lose some weight or get fitter.

I am having no problem with my two DDs (2 and 4 yrs) at 40+ weeks pregnant.

It really is amazing that so many people think they have the right to have a go at people for where they park. It's none of your fucking business! Challenge, leave pretty little notes, be fully prepared to be told to fuck off.

I slipped a disk in my back a few months ago, I needed priority seats, I needed to push my car door all the way open so parked in P&C... I was in agony and if I'd been questioned you would rue the day you opened your mouth!

My DH often parks in the P & C spaces. He was challenged once "where's your child then" and he replied "in the boot". She was

Tali - what will you do if, when your dc is over 5 (which seems to be the cut off that people always mention on these threads), they still struggle to get out of the seat, and need you to help?

Did that sound sarcastic? I just read it back. I meant it genuinely.

I have read it several times and failed to detect any hint of sarcasm!

Hazey I don't have a problem with people with kids of any age using the space.

Oh and for the person who said anyone who can't get their kids out the car needs to lose weight I'm 140lbs and 5"7, so no where near overweight, try again

Hazey I don't have a problem with people with kids of any age using the space

I'll remember that when I have my 26 year old in the car.

Why would someone with an NT child who was too old for a car seat even have any need to park there?

Well, watch out for someone like Enlightened then, if she decides to become a 'note leaver'

it's pathetic that people can't leave the space clear for drivers with children under 5.

Hahaha Rose good point

It would be interesting to see what would happen if the P&C spaces were further away from the entrance, would these parents who need so much space be as keen to park in them or would they manage in an ordinary space.

sooty my mum used them until I was about 14 because I couldn't be trusted to open a door without bashing a car. I'm dyspraxic so don't think I count as NT but we didn't know that then.

If you're arguing anyone with need can use them I don't see why you mind parents with older kids in them? Would you prefer them to bang your car?

I didn't think this was so controversial lol!

So it's ok for a teenager who can't open a door to use it but not an adult?

I really can't follow your logic on this thread!

Agnes I said earlier I'd be happy for them to be further away, I can't speak for everyone but for me it's literally a space issue. I'd actually wager these issues could be solved by putting the spaces at the back of the car park.

Teenager is a child under 18. I don't think I've said anywhere disabled people can't use it, in fact I stated several times I don't have an issue with that. I guess you're arguing that you can't see everyone's disability which I agree with you on, however I think it's unlikely that in the majority of cases those parking there are disabled