to have shouted at the knobhead who parked in a parent and child space?!

[SparklyTinselTits]

(pre-thread warning: I'm a bit of a grumpy arsehole most of the time)

So, about two hours ago, myself, DH and DD (6 months) went to tescos. Headed for the parent and child spaces, but they were all full. I saw a couple, probably in their mid-30's loading their shopping into their car - not a child or car seat in sight. So DH pulled into a space just across the way from them. I made a big show of struggling to get DD out of her car seat in the normal sized space, and as we walked past I said "nice to see you struggling to get all your kids into your car in that massive space"

The man didn't know what to say, and the woman just put her head down and pretended not to have heard me.
Was I BU? Or does everyone else get The Rage when childless people park in parent and child spaces?!

Honking your son is a child anyway so even without disability no one would moan.

If patrolling car parks and issuing warnings is your 'thing' apply to be a traffic warden.

It's bad enough having to go to the hellhole that is Tesco to shop without the added stress of patrolling the car park too and being some sort of unofficial parking space monitor.

squoosh I'm not going to hang around till they come out. If I get the chance I'll tell them face to face

You're like a Charles Bronson parking vigilante

Yeah I patrol the spaces, scouring for rapscallions and scoundrels who dare use the wrong space.

How many notes have you left in your time as parking warden?

That must take ages Tali.

Not a parking warden. Why is it on here parent and child spaces are so hated? I genuinely don't get it.

It was sarcasm Sparkling.

They're not hated. They're parking spaces.

Some people hate the ott possesiveness that some people have towards them though.

The spaces aren't hated at all. What is disliked is the helplessness they seem to encourage in people, and the selfishness at not being able to understand that sometimes other people also have a need for that space.

It's simple, if a space is free use it if not then park somewhere else.

One day he will be an adult but will still have little understanding.

See now this is where someonecl could really make a difference, selling pre printed post it notes - it would really help all those lone car park heroes.

Oh right Tali.

I don't hate P&C spaces. As I said our town doesn't have any, but the yelling at people and the scribbling of notes and general sticky beaking that goes on surrounding them baffles me.
Get your shopping done and go home.

I don't hate them, they are a nice convenience. I just can't get my knickers in a twist about them, and find the righteous anger people get over their apparent 'misuse', overblown and bizarre.

I prefer the individuality of making my own, allows me to be creative

In all seriousness I highly doubt the instances I have done it in (2, as it doesn't happen often) were disabled people. However if they were, I profusely apologise as I have no issue with that.

I have an issue with lazy pricks using them meaning I can't get my son out the car without fucking up my back however.

Sparkling sometimes I can't even lift my son due to my back problem. I'm a single parent so you can understand how hard that makes it. Without the extra space I almost always hurt my back getting him. Which means the next few days will be hell. I can't take my pain meds because they knock me out and then can't look after DS.

So that's why I get so annoyed about people using them who shouldnt.

I don't hate them either. I just hate how people try and out rank eachother in the entitlement to use them.

I never use them. my kids are fit and healthy and can walk across the car park. o don't need to faff about with a buggy or car seats. I also have a reasonably small car ergo I don't need them.

my father in the other hand will use them if he has picked my children up and still gaolers to hage the cat seats in the car.

and yes I have called him.out on that.

if people who don't need them and could manage easily without tehm then why not just leave them for others.

truth is we dint know anytbing about why teh person parked there and it's nine of our business anyway

still happens. .

bloody typos sorry

Tali Given that, I'm not sure why you think it's OK to make judgments on other people using the spaces. I'm equally not sure how you can tell someone didn't have a genuine need for using the P&C space without a child either.

There's being annoyed and there's leaving notes and shouting at people Tali.

One day as you are applying the note the person may return to the vehicle and not be best pleased, therefore you are putting yourself at risk, because there are some strange/violent people about who don't like their cars being touched.. Report it to the store maybe.

To be told in no uncertain terms that the baby 'enjoyed' going shopping so that wasn't acceptable.

My two both enjoy shopping too. They seem entirely oblivious to the fact that I would rather chew my own head off than voluntarily go shopping with both of them in tow.

I made loads of helpful suggestions kungfu, like using the drop off Zone and the DP coming back to pick them up etc but none of it was possible strangely. It was a weird thread. The tiny baby loved it's shopping apparently.

saucenoy as I've said I've never done it to blue badge holders, people with older children, elderly relatives, obviously disabled relatives, or anyone who looks like they may need it. However if I have ever made a mistake, I deeply apologise.

Sparkling reporting it would probably be better

So really tali you don't use it because you have a baby but more because it helps you and your disability. A disability nobody else can see. Yet you judge people who use a space to help their disability?

This is the problem with judging when you don't know what you are judging.