To think SIL shouldn't have sold the baby stuff I gave her?

[CallaLilli]

SIL was pregnant last year so I gave her a stack of DD's clothes that she'd outgrown. As babies grow so fast it was all in good condition and only a few months old. DNiece was born earlier this year and I never saw her in any of the clothes I'd given so when I fell pregnant again I thought I'd ask DSIL if I could have the stuff back as DN has now grown out of it.

But she informs me that she has sold it all on eBay. I can hear you all saying I am BU as I gave it to her but it transpires that she sold it all on eBay soon after I gave it to her and bought other clothes with the money she made! The reason? She doesn't like putting DN in clothes that aren't made from natural fabrics or are dyed bright colours! Now if that were the case why did she accept them in the first place?

Im a bit flabbergasted tbh. I don't think I'd mind so much if she'd used them and then sold them but AIBU to think that if she didn't want the clothes she should've just said no when I offered them?

And what's the time frame?

is six mths too soon?

how about if they have Been sat in the loft unused for 3 years. would u still ask the donor then?

Wow Giles you have made a LOT of assumptions about me. FYI, when I gave the stuff to SIL originally it was because she'd come over when I'd just happened to sort out clothes that DD had grown out of. I offered them to her and she took them - I didn't descend upon her with several bin liners full of clothes! But I didn't exactly think she'd be flogging them on eBay by the following week. And I've hardly demanded the clothes back, all I said was something along the lines of "btw if you've still got any of the stuff I gave you, I wouldn't mind reusing it". I was just taken aback that she'd immediately sold them on. She doesn't live far from me so if she'd said they weren't to her taste she could've returned them and I could've passed them onto another friend.

Anyway as an update, SIL and BIL came around yesterday evening and SIL spotted a wooden duck (one of those ones that you pull along on a string) that my uncle carved for DD. She was glancing covetously at it and dropping heavy hints about how it's just the sort of toy she likes DN to play with. I think she might be expecting it as a hand me down but I don't think so!!

So what's your point?

you have allowed fir a number if assumptions on your SIL.

all the senarios were equally possible u til you cleared yours up. only your SIL isn't on this thread to put her side across. she may or may not be everything you and others have.

we weren't just talking about your SIL but the whole idea in general. and plenty of people have been in precisely the situations I mentioned

Ok, well I think it's been made pretty clear now...

Calla - oh dear! She's bitten the hand that fed her.

Yes it was shabby of her but it's done now, all you can do is control your reaction to what she did. If you call her up on it you will probably wish you never had, it won't be worth it. Just don't bother passing stuff on to her, or look at it in a positive light. If you pass stuff on say to her, if there are things you you don't want why don't you ebay them and we'll go halves? She doesn't think she's been grabby just savvy, cash in too.