To say men playing video games is childish?

[PampersNotPampered]

My DP is the most wonderful person, and the video games don't annoy me to an extent of anger, but they do raise my eyebrow a lot.

DP is only 22 but I think this is still too old to be playing games, although I understand men more than twice his age do. I once asked DP ''aren't you a little old for those?" And his reply was a very calm 'no, it's a stress reliever and my boss plays it too' (his boss is 44 with a wife and 2 DCs).

What cringes me out the most is him swearing and talking to other players over the zombie games etc, who are mores often that not less than half his age or not much older than half his age! Yes, really.

I understand that I'm lucky he's the type to ask 'do you want me to come off this?' And often I just say no darling. This is because I can get on with other things. Even I ask him to come off, he will and you wouldn't have known he even liked playing because he acts so normal once he's off.

My DP is a 'normal' bloke in all aspects apart from the silly video games. I just wish he'd stick to fishing instead lol.

AIBU to say grown men playing video games is a little bit eye brow raising worthy? I understand it is a stress buster, and perhaps I'm just a moody cow and need to be put in my place by fellow MNetters.

there's a world of difference between calming colouring with your pencils and all encompassing video games that absorb you and make you only able to grunt as you concentrate on your virtual world.

Both were originally aimed at children. Most games are now produced for adults. I have never actually seen a colouring book aimed at adults, so I think it's fair to say most are still produced for children. Yet there are never any threads about what a waste of time colouring in is, or how childish it is.

Your objection to playing video games could apply to any hobby. It isn't the only hobby that people could be over-absorbed in to the detriment of family life.

Must admit, I don't find this hobby very attractive. A bit immature for my personal taste.

I obviously wouldn't get together with a 'gamer' and expect him not to do it, though. Each to their own.

I'm 42 & play minecraft.

I just wish he'd stick to fishing Do you have ANY idea how time consuming fishing is?

I go with dh & our kids (7 & 10) and we could easily spend from 10am til 4pm standing around, catching things (or mostly not ) and eating/drinking.

It's great, it's outdoors, it gets us all together, but it is way more time consuming than a game that your dh is happy to put down/turn when he is needed to. He is at home, ready to get stuck into household/baby stuff when if needed. Fishing would take him out of the house for hours on end, with no way of chipping in on chores if need be.

My BIL does night fishing, which takes him out all day, overnight & all the next day...imagine that with a baby in the house op...I bet you would be here moaning about THAT in no time.

Yes, it is childish. But there's nothing wrong with that. Why should people stop doing things they enjoy just because they have become adults?

I'm not a gamer but I love playing board games - just as childish. As long as it doesn't take over your life why not have a bit of child-like fun?

Football is a kids' game, really, nothing adult about kicking a ball around.

Life is short.

I find watching bad acted and written soaps, most reality TV a waste of time. But if people like that stuff, I'm not going judge them for watching it. All to their own.

I know a guy who was in a group who would really dress up as wizards elves etc and go into the woods to play essentially. Harmless but quite bonkers - I see gaming as similar to that really only doing it on a computer.

I (35) love gaming so much I named myself after one of my faves

DH's (38) graphic novel collection is epic.

DS (17 weeks) is currently wearing a comic themed babygro.

Clearly, we are very childish.

KERALA1

I worked with a guy who did LARPing at weekends. Now, I'm a massive nerd with a love of sci fi, anime/manga and gaming but even I have to draw a line there

Ive not read the whole thread but really.......
How is playing video games any diffrent to sittimg reading a book or watching a film or a god awful soap??
If anything its a lot better for your brain. If you read a book or watch a film and the lead person iant doing to well then there is nothing you can do about but just sit there and hope it gets better, where as in a game its on you to up your game and do better. In what world is that a bad thing?

I really hope one day games are accepted alongside reading and other activitys that parents push onto their kids.

YANBU, I think gaming is childish. Nothing wrong with it for kids, but something you should just grow out of and wise up eventually. I think it's a bit pathetic in an adult, same as those who obsess about football teams or dick about on skateboards.

Hichnametochoosenext. Do you read books or watch TV?? just wish to know.

Back in my youth, when I was a dice singing dungeon raider and computer gaming was the exclusive province of the socially isolated, I was regularly laughed at, told I would never have a girlfriend and that people like us would be a sad lonely minority.

Look at us now, suckers. Look at us now.

I haven't played any GTA but I adored Red Dead Redemption, one of my all time favourite games - I cried at the end. I tried AC but found it tricky, though I was going through a chemo cycle at the time so my coordination was a bit pants!

I have over 500 games on Steam and about 12 for my Xbox One, I've been gaming since I was a kid and nothing gets in the way of it. I have a professional job and a very good social life, the stereotypical gamer doesn't really exist anymore.

It helps that my wife is a gamer too

WhichName, I'm a grown woman with a child and a job. I dont need to wise up, seems to be happening as I get older. Gaming is my hobby, along with writing, reading and baking cakes with DD.

I find people who obsess over celebrity goings on, handbags, make up etc, really shallow and boring. But if it's what they enjoy, then good for them.

I find people who avidly watch soaps bizarre. But it's no skin off my nose.

If someone enjoys gaming, and they aren't letting it encroach on day to day life, what is the problem?

At least it isn't golf.

Whichname
I have managed to drag up two lovely children to adulthood, have always had a job and married for 24 years, not sure what i need to wize up about I love bashing up bits of lego on a screen, it is very relaxing and not painful to tread on

I must admit, DP is helpful when needed but I DO have to ask him to come off when I'm clearly dishing out dinner etc. We live in a flat so he's always playing in the living room, and it's disturbing having a baby asleep with a grown adult swearing (not to anyone in particular) at a fucking game console. I get its down time but how about my down time?

I don't mind the video game, really. But, the loudness of it does annoy me and as someone said, you can't ask their opinions (unless they're not playing), because all you get is a grunt. I'm not saying it's the same for everyone. If I was reading one of my books, I can still keep contact with my outer surroundings. DP is just so absorbed.

And yes I'm aware how time consuming fishing is, it was a joke, hence the lol next to it.

DH has lots of games. Lots of them are 16 or 18 rated. I certainly hope they aren't just for kids. He plays them on an evening. I dont think at 33 he's too old for that. However I might be a little old for Frozen Freefall, but do you know what? I dont care and funny thing is I think it reflects more on those that do care about it than me or DH who play games.

What people need to realise is that we are changing. Video games (and comics BTW) are no longer just for children. There is a lot of material out there aimed at adults and do very well. GTA anyone?

"What people need to realise is that we are changing. Video games (and comics BTW) are no longer just for children. There is a lot of material out there aimed at adults and do very well. GTA anyone?"

People in their 30s and 40s now were the first to grow up with games so it'll take a while for other people to realise it's not just for kids I guess.

it's disturbing having a baby asleep with a grown adult swearing (not to anyone in particular) at a fucking game console.

Your child really has no idea what he's saying. So I don't see why it matters.

I actually asked on a thread if it was inappropriate to play shooters in front of my baby, the general view was no its fine. I think you're overreacting

Which so we're childish for doing a hobby we enjoy, but you're not for insulting strangers on the Internet? Okay.

Interesting to see how the gamers seem to be quite tolerant and accepting of other people's hobbies even if they're not their cup of tea. But the professed non gamers are resorting to stereotypes and being quite insulting and scathing about gamers.

Just an aside.

I've been gaming since space invaders and pac man! I am female, over 40, a Company Director, have a normal, prosperous life and my own games room. Am eagerly awaiting Assassins Creed Syndicate and the next Uncharted. I am a Sony girl at heart, but am considering getting an xbox one to play the new Tombraider. Life is to be enjoyed, and gaming has always been a large part of mine! Although with a toddler, finding the time is getting a bit challenging!