To have told my niece I'm not mad on her choice of name feel a bitch

[Everythingwillbeok]

My niece has a little boy, 6 with a "normal name" popular and nice.
She's due in about 7 weeks I think with a baby girl. She lives about an hour away so don't see her loads, we've just chatted on the phone and she's mentioned her choice of name. I really wish I'd have said oh that's cute or something and as we were on the phone could probably have got away with it.

But I think I went quiet and said "oh right....Mmmmm I'm not mad" argh I feel like a cow, it's nothing to do with me.

My sister(her mother) has just text me saying I believe you don't like daughters choice of name, she's offended.

How can I put this right, we aren't particularly close but I really don't want to make anyone feel bad,especially when pregnant.

It's just a silly name, sorry but it is.

You won't be the only person to react to that name. WTF is she thinking?

Candy is fine. At a push.

Raine is fine. At a push.

Kandy-Rain is very, very bad. I'd rather be called Biblical-Flood.

Bollocks. Stick to your guns.

Poor child.

She's got no internet access yet Come up with that name!?

Sounds like a stripper name

My default comment in situations like this is "oh, that's unusual".

My personal opinion is that name is hideous!

I think you have done the poor child a favour by reacting like that.

Oh dear
What Squoosh said.
I don't think I could have managed to look enthusiastic either.

Kinda sounds like 'canderel'

YADNBU. That's an awful name- at least she's had an honest reaction from someone. You've done her a favour!

You still need to call her and apologise OP.

It's not what I would have chosen either understatement but it's her baby's name and it's none of your business. Try to be supportive.

(I would also have been hard pushed not to have reacted badly. But you'd better make amends.)

Not my cup of tea, but then some of the suggestions for names on this site are as rediculous, only posher.

Hahaha!

I suppose YWBU to say you weren't keen but it IS a stupid name

I'd have probably assumed she was joking, laughed and said "Haha! Yeah right! Haha! No but seriously, what are you planning to call her?"

Apologise and forget. It is an awful name, but it is up to her!

Ah. I was coming on to suggest that you pretend there was an awful girl at school with that name, but you're sure that soon it will remind you instead of your little great-niece and everything will be OK... well, that probably won't work.

(I just Googled Kandy Rain, and it's the name of a girl band that went on X-Factor or similar in 2011.)

I've just had a horrible thought, I hope no MNers have DD called this, I'm sorry if you do. (Or similar)

Ah.

You were doing the child a favour.

I'm not sure I could have been as reserved as you were.

Is your niece a Prince fan with a twist (which Is different to the squiggle that is)?

Erm, how do I put this? It sounds like a failed porn star...

Perhaps she'll change it and you will have done that kid a huge favour.

I'm sorry but I laughed out loud. Your rudeness was allowed in this case, you may have made her rethink the fucking awful name.

But still, y'know, the point is, even if she plans to call her child Princess-Pickle the Third, the kind thing would be to ring up and apologise.

"Gosh that's an interesting pairing of nouns DN. I notice you've subverted the traditional rules of spelling too."

I'm wondering if there's a polite way of being honest.

You do need to apologise I think but I wouldn't worry too much. It is an interesting choice, isn't it? People will do a double take I'm sure.

I would have to do an non-apology apology.
'I'm sorry I upset you but of course there are no names that everyone likes. If you like it what I think is beside the point. I shouldn't have said anything. You should ignore my views - I'm sure it's lovely'