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AIBU wave of light for baby loss.

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 16:42

Ok I might be a tad U to post here, but there was another lovely thread from a lovely poster that didn't get much traffic.
Just a little reminder to anyone who would like to take part. To remember all of the precious and beautiful babies that have sadly been lost there is a wave of light this evening. Everyone is invited to light a candle at 7pm in all time zones (apologies if this is late for anyone) to participate in a worldwide wave of light in observance of baby loss awareness day.
I will be lighting mine for my beautiful angel girl born sleeping in March this year. I miss you so very much my darling but the pain of missing you is a badge I will wear with pride because it means I got to hold you if only for a little while.
Flowers to all of the other families who are lighting candles tonight instead of tucking their babies up for the night.

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britespark1 · 15/10/2015 16:48

I'll be taking part and lighting my candle too. I'm now very lucky to have my three monkeys but will never forget the miscarriage I had with our first pregnancy. The anniversary of my original EDD is very very soon so feeling it very heavily at the moment.

sparechange · 15/10/2015 16:51

Thanks for the reminder, OP.

My little boy was also born sleeping in March. I think about him every day and will for the rest of my days. The last line of your post has brought a tear to my eye Flowers

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 16:51

Britespark I'll be thinking of you and your tiny angel as I light my candle x

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 16:52

Sparechange and your tiny boy will be in my thoughts too Flowers

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HappyBeet · 15/10/2015 16:54

I've got eight candles lined up and ready.

One for my little boy and seven for babies lost too early to know which they are.

Currently 12 weeks pregnant and quite emotional tonight. I know people who have just said it's a silly attention grab on Facebook. But actually it genuinely helps me to have a day when we sit together and remember what we've been through and our babies that never quite made it.

Will be clutching dd (2) extra tight tonight.

chelle792 · 15/10/2015 16:54

I shall light my candle as soon as I get home from work. For my baby girl and all other babies lost Flowers

slithytove · 15/10/2015 16:55

I will be lighting my candle for my still born baby daughter Gabrielle, and all of the angel baby's who have been taken too soon.

escorpion · 15/10/2015 16:55

Will be lighting for my two losses. Will be thinking of all the other women who have gone and who are going through pregnancy loss. Flowers

G1veMeStrength · 15/10/2015 16:56

Star So sorry for all your losses. Much love Star

sparechange · 15/10/2015 16:56

Badgers
And your angel will be in mine.
And I am sure that somewhere, our little March hares are thinking of us and thanking us for being their mummies, even if it wasn't for long enough

HappyBeet · 15/10/2015 16:58

It's quite nice really isn't it?

Pregnancy loss can be such a lonely thing, but tonight we know there are women everywhere who are sadly suffering exactly the same pain and anguish.

britespark1 · 15/10/2015 16:59

Thank you OP, and thank you for writing this post.

Orrla · 15/10/2015 17:04

I'll have my three candles ready to go.

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 17:04

Happy, Chelle, slithy, escorpion Flowers

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Hangingbasket14 · 15/10/2015 17:06

I am very grateful to have never suffered the loss of a baby but I will be lighting my candle in memory of a very dear friends baby girl who passed away shortly after her birth.

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 17:08

Happy, as much as I wish that no one else was going through the sadness of empty arms, I am honoured to stand shoulder to shoulder with you ladies and remember our precious children. I am sure they will be smiling down on us too tiny shoulder to tiny shoulder, knowing that no matter how we may seem to the outside world, we will never forget that they are ours and they are so very loved.

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WizardOfToss · 15/10/2015 17:08

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 17:10

Wizard I think it would be lovely Smile

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Sighing · 15/10/2015 17:12

That's fine by me wizard. I wont be able to light candles for my three this year, though i will disengage from the activity i need to attend. I'm choked up already today as I'm pregnabt at the moment there are many emotions.

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 17:13

If anyone has any poems or words that helped them when they lost their baby it might be nice to share them here, it might bring help to others going through this and might just be nice to read for the rest of us to remember.

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HappyBeet · 15/10/2015 17:14

That's lovely Wizard Flowers

3littlebadgers now you're just making me tear up Grin

In all seriousness, yes it sucks there are so many of us.

HappyBeet · 15/10/2015 17:15

Oh dear, that wasn't meant to be a grin emoticon! Flowers

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 17:15

Sighing your little one will be remembered by us here too, and as we light our candles we will think of you both, and wish you well for your pregnancy. I am pregnant too and the fear and emotions are sometimes too much to bare

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eastegg · 15/10/2015 17:18

The other thread's got some more traffic now if it's the same one you're thinking of OP.

I'm making a bit of a crazy journey to my hospital chapel to mark this; should really be home by now, meant to do this earlier in day but bloody work got in the way. Lost our baby at 16 weeks 9 weeks ago. Will also light a candle at home.

So sorry for everyone's losses.