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AIBU wave of light for baby loss.

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 16:42

Ok I might be a tad U to post here, but there was another lovely thread from a lovely poster that didn't get much traffic.
Just a little reminder to anyone who would like to take part. To remember all of the precious and beautiful babies that have sadly been lost there is a wave of light this evening. Everyone is invited to light a candle at 7pm in all time zones (apologies if this is late for anyone) to participate in a worldwide wave of light in observance of baby loss awareness day.
I will be lighting mine for my beautiful angel girl born sleeping in March this year. I miss you so very much my darling but the pain of missing you is a badge I will wear with pride because it means I got to hold you if only for a little while.
Flowers to all of the other families who are lighting candles tonight instead of tucking their babies up for the night.

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Eva50 · 15/10/2015 18:54

My candle is ready to light for Pandora, Oscar and Spud, babies of my heart but not my arms.

omri · 15/10/2015 18:55

Lighting a candle for my little Camille. Take care of yourselves lovely ladies x

RJnomaaaaaargh · 15/10/2015 18:59

I hope this ok as I have been so lucky that despite high risk pregnancies I have two girls and no losses. However my mum lost two babies before me and my auntie lost twin girls just before I was born, they would be in their 40s now all of them, but they're frozen in time. I'm about to light a candle for them and all of your little ones.

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KittyandTeal · 15/10/2015 19:00

I cannot light a candle tonight as I put dd1 to bed but dd2 is never far from my thoughts

Some words that have helped me, I'm sure they've been heard before.

"I still miss those I loved who are no longer with me but I find I am grateful for having loved them. The gratitude has finally conquered the loss.''

Those we love don't go away they walk beside us every day, unseen, unheard, but always near, so loved, so missed and so very dear

Thinking of all of you tonight

wigglesrock · 15/10/2015 19:01

Zoe and Gracie xxxx

3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 19:06

Kitty that is beautiful and something to give us all strength. Thank you.

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 19:08

our candles are lit, they are beautiful. I hope she knows how much we love her still Sad

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MerdeAlor · 15/10/2015 19:09

Lit a candle for my five.

One lovely mumsnetter has made an emotional documentary on miscarriage. It is being shown on TLC tonight at 10pm.

Funinthesun15 · 15/10/2015 19:10

Candles burning brightly for our 3.Sad

Just watching the flames dance.

Flambola · 15/10/2015 19:13

Baby James
25th December 2014
Born without breath, but not without love.

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 19:14

Is tlc on bt does anyone know? I don't watch much TV but I think I would like to watch that

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Oddnoddle · 15/10/2015 19:14

Lit mine for my gorgeous son who died shortly after he was born.

I love you
I miss you every dingle day
I struggle everyday without you
But I do my best
I'm not the person I was in a way better, in a way odder
I know other people seem to forget you edited but we never will
I will always carry you in my heart until we are together again

I've also lit two others for baby's I've miscarried at 9 and 12 weeks
I never got to met you,so Im not going to lie it's not the same as losing your brother, however I won't forget you and I Iove you

Will post a poem later

Trooperslane · 15/10/2015 19:15

Badgers thanks for this - aibu was the way to go.

Hugs for everyone. I know it seems a bit trite and as I said on the other thread, I'm not big on public grief but it's so hard to grieve properly about this because there's no one to talk to.

Apart from here X

3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 19:15

Oh Flambola Sad so beautiful

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Sleepingbunnies · 15/10/2015 19:16

Xxxx

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3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 19:17

Troopers Flowers here we can be a new normal together and talk away because we truly understand the pain

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Flambola · 15/10/2015 19:17

I am thinking of you and your family 3, and your lovely Azra xx

Oddnoddle · 15/10/2015 19:17

Fambola
Lovely photo xxx

AloraRyger · 15/10/2015 19:18

I'm feeling very emotional tonight. 11 years and it still makes me so sad to see so many pictures and posts. Hugs and love to all Flowers

3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 19:19

Thank you my darling. I'm in tears and I can't decide if they are happy or sad. It feels so lovely to do something for her but at the same time I just need to do so much more x

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Fugghetaboutit · 15/10/2015 19:19

Never had a loss but will light a candle for all those who have.

This made me choke up quite a bit x

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HappyBeet · 15/10/2015 19:25

Well that's me in pieces for the night!

Thinking of all of you strong mothers lighting your candles tonight Flowers

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Trooperslane · 15/10/2015 19:26

Flambola xxxxxx

Oddnoddle · 15/10/2015 19:28

Ask My Mum How She Is...

My Mum, she tells a lot of lies,
She never did before.
But from now until she dies,
She'll tell a whole lot more.

Ask my Mum how she is
And because she can't explain,
She will tell a little lie
Because she can't describe the pain.

Ask my Mum how she is,
She'll say "I'm alright."
If that's the truth, then tell me,
why does she cry each night ?

Ask my Mum how she is,
She seems to cope so well.
She didn't have a choice you see,
Nor the strength to yell.

Ask my Mum how she is,
"I'm fine, I'm well, I'm coping."
For God's sake Mum, just tell the truth,
Just say your heart is broken.

She'll love me all her life,
I loved her all of mine.
But if you ask her how she is,
She'll lie and say she's fine.

I am Here in Heaven.
I cannot hug from here.
If she lies to you don't listen,
Hug her and hold her near.

On the day we meet again,
We'll smile and I'll be bold.
I'll say, "You're lucky to get in here, Mum,
With all the lies you told!"

3littlebadgers · 15/10/2015 19:28

Sometimes love is for a moment,
Sometimes love is for a lifetime,
Sometimes a moment is a lifetime,
Always loved and never forgotten

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