To tell DD 's friend to stop begging me for things.

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They are 9. Friend will be staying over on Friday night. She is a sweet child but she begs constantly, for food, chocolates, fizzy drinks, for gifts from shops. She goes in cupboards hunting for snacks and leaves gooey wrappers everywhere l. Consequently, I have her round less than DD would like.
I normally tell child not to beg and explain that it would be polite to wait to be offered. Child's mum is not interested in stoppingvthis behaviour. In fact last time she begged me for things she'd seen in Claire Accessories, she told her mum I'd asked her not to beg and mum punished me by buying her DD the bag she'd begged fir and then pointedlymade a thing of bragging that she'd got it for her herself.
Sony help from mum. Any point in trying to stop the begging, or just lots if repeated 'no's?

can she not just enjoy the sleepover she's having? More than 1 night of someone else's child sounds like misery. It's your weekend off as well. We both work so did very few sleepovers. It was bad enough sorting out children/ stepchildren picking them up dropping them off sports things parties without adding extra kids in. We needed weekends to relax and recharge and enjoy being with our children. Maybe different if you don't work and just have 1.

My DD has a friend like this although not as extreme. If everyone gets a slice of cake she asks for two slices, before she has even eaten her slice. I keep telling her that greedy children get nothing and that I'll take the treat away if she isn't happy with what she has.

She sounds very anxious - asking to come for a longer sleepover next time when she's barely arrived at this one. Feels like there's something lacking elsewhere that she's trying to plug with these treats. Exhausting.

What on earth is a "longer" sleepover?? She sounds like a malcontented little nightmare, tbh.

It is annoying when they pester, isn't it?

Carabos: there's something lacking elsewhere that she's trying to plug with these treats.

I think you have nailed the problem. This child has been brought up to equate 'stuff' and having her whims acceded to with assurance of love or being welcome -- positive feelings of some sort.

I agree with Math and carabos. I wouldn't be surprised if the parents of this girl are as stingy with affection and attention as they are incontinent with junk food and tat from Claire's Accessories.