To say this child isn't having another fecking headband

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Dd1's party yesterday. I put a sparkly headband in each party bag. Apparently one of dd's friends snapped hers and told dd to tell me to get her another one.

They are 8. Not that I would entertain that for a smaller child. C'est la vie, no?

What sort of cheeky behaviour is this hmm? AIBU to have told dd no, I won't be buying her friend a new headband?

Yanbu of course, just say no.

Gosh, how rude.

You should've put something gender neutral in ;)

Ew, party bag hell. I hated this nonsense. I remember one little shit peering into the bag and pronouncing it "not very good", because none of the pointless tat met with his approval. I grabbed it off him and said "well, you won't be wanting to take it home then", his mumpy little face crumpled in shock.

YANBU, don't provide another headband.

One year I decided to spend what I would have spent on party bags on a little craft kit for each child instead. I explained that these were instead of party bags, when I gave them out, and one girl told me she'd rather have a party bag.

I told her there were no party bags, so it was the kit or nothing - she grudgingly took the kit.

After that, I started doing party bags with just sweets in them. They were reasonably popular, and I didn't end up spending money on plastic tat that broke as soon as the children looked at it.

at leaving. Look, last year I put in a pack of colouring pencils which dh told me was being a "killjoy" and I "might as well have put in a weekly spelling list"

She broke the head band after she left the party?

Definitely not.

There should be alternative party bags for little shits like this.

I suggest:

Nit comb
Packet of Fishermens Friends
Nose hair clippers
Flavourless lip salve
Toothbrush
Calpol sachet

I don't do party bags. It's great - I give a large piece of cake to take home in a bag with whatever they've got from the piñata / lolly scramble, but nothing else. Most of it gets binned within days (hours?) anyway, there's enough plastic polluting the planet without me adding to it.

Give everyone else an extra but not her

laffy proper Calpol would be too good here: generic paracetamol paediatric suspension all the way.

And Anna I believe the headband snapping occurred this morning.

Its worse when a mums asks if her DC can swop party bags because they didn't like the contents

Hic I hate plastic tat too so thought I'd get something they could use, hence the headbands, and some pens. Just a little treat.

I would imagine friend's mum knows nothing about this. Do you know her well enough to call her and say you're really sorry but you don't have the extra hairband that little Violet asked your DD for?

Asking someone else's mum for double party bags must at least be a dessert skipping offence?

I try to think the best of children so I think she may have hoped you might have a spare so decided to ask?

on the other hand she may just be a brat

Hold on, they are 8, and the friend asked your DD. Its not like her mother rapped on your door and demanded a replacement.

Of course you should not provide one, but seriously, its a conversation between two 8 year olds...and that makes it a bit weird (to me anyway) that you should start a thread on it. I was rather hoping for a brass necked tiger mum thread

When I ran Brownies, I worked hard before the Christmas party to find lovely gifts of equal value for the children, you wouldn't believe the comments I'd get. Parents even phoned me up to complain.
The day I have up Brownies, an enormous weight was lifted off my shoulders.

Now I have a baby I'm dreading the parties..

You can either a) not do parties or b) not to party bags if you do

I wrap up a bit of left over cake and hand over a balloon. If they or their parent has been particularly annoying, I might include a toy whistle for the journey home:)

Don't buy another headband. does your dd realise how rude her friend is?
Next year, at 9, perhaps cinema and pizza for 2 of her nicest friends. No party bags:)

Tatty I apologise.

How about the mum who actually complained to school about sport day because the throwing/balancing events meant her daughter didn't win everything? That more your style?

Lavender I like a bit of sparkle for my choir's Christmas concert so I was saving the spare for myself. Noone is having it!

I grabbed it off him and said "well, you won't be wanting to take it home then", his mumpy little face crumpled in shock.

hahaha

Of course you don't get her another one. I'm amazed you even considered it.

I bet her parents would be mortified if they knew she had even asked. She may not have even asked in a grabby way but in a "if your mum has any left over can I have it?" way.

This little girl is hard work; it would have been a grabby demand.

Don't I sound charming .

I wouldn't give it another thought.
Of course don't supply another.

Well I just laughed at a small child having a party bag snatched away so I'm no better