To think that having adult bridesmaids is a bit silly?

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I don't understand why someone getting married would want a selection of her friends to dress up all the same and follow her around all day. Why does a bride need 'maids'? And from the bridesmaid's point of view, wouldn't it be much nicer to attend the wedding as a guest with your partner? It seems a bit silly and 'little girly' to me.

At my wedding I had a close friend who did a reading and who got ready with me, but I didn't feel any need to truss her up in a bridesmaids dress and have her walk behind me.

I understand letting little girls be bridesmaids if they're going to be at the wedding anyway.

I'm interested to hear why people do this and am perfectly prepared to be told that IABU.

It's a bit like being the pale one in Gaviscon pink which doesn't look anywhere near as foul if you're not practically transparent.

I don't know why people think they have to 'understand' everything. OP doesn't understand it- therefore don't do it. Those who do understand why they do get on and do it.
We are all different- how boring if we were the same.

YABU. Wee bridesmaids can't go frock shopping on their own, so I would have had to go with them. My sisters were my bridesmaids. They went out and got their own dresses and I sent them the money.

Job done.

Yeah, I'm in the 'I don't give a damn what you think' camp really. For me it was completely natural to have my two sisters and my best friend as bridesmaids. Two were single anyway; I also had my small niece. You need adults - tiny kids can't organise the hen, or hold the bouquet reliably. They can also get stage fright and need comforting - fuck that.

I think it is sillier to have the small child who can't be relied , but people do. There is no need for me to 'understand' it.