To wonder at this age gap

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I've been flirting outrageously with a just-turned 22 year old man. I'm 29. He would like things to get a bit more serious and see me regularly...as a girlfriend, I suppose.

Aibu?

Arf at fullduty accusing someone else of being goady

^ agree ^

I stated what my opinion was, still is and always will be. If someone else happened to "bold" me, I again stated my opinion and why. The person I called goady was.

Arf?

Best go before I really do say what I think of some posters

"Arf" means it's hilarious, considering you've not only been the goadiest poster on this thread, but also that you've actually repeatedly called one particular poster a "predator", a serious allegation with no basis whatsoever other than that you think he may have had a relationship with a consenting woman.

jorah got there before me. Completely agree.

Arf" means it's hilarious, considering you've not only been the goadiest poster on this thread, but also that you've actually repeatedly called one particular poster a "predator", a serious allegation with no basis whatsoever other than that you think he may have had a relationship with a consenting woman

I'd hardly call a 16 year old a woman Jorah, if you think a teen is a woman then there is something very amiss going on with you.

Again, stating my opinion is not being "goady" at all.

As for "Arf" is is supposed to be some sort of ridiculous "in word"?

that

There is something very wrong with both of you to try to defend this. Very wrong, very strange and very worrying.

Of course it's not goady, that's why MN deleted half of your posts

You don't even know that mrdaddy's partner was 16 FFS! You've created some kind of predator life for him based on one post

Fine then, a consenting teenager. A teenager who is legally able to consent. Legally able to consent to sex. I'll keep posting it until you get it. At sixteen, whether you like it or not, a sixteen year old can consent to sex. You're the only one who's decided anyone has been having sex with sixteen year olds here anyway!

If you did the quite simple math then you would have worked it out jorah.

A consenting teenager is something totally different to a teen with a very much older man and well you know it.

So stop trying to make some sort of ridiculous point that most people would believe very wrong indeed.

Yes, how worrying for us to not be concerned about a relationship between two consenting people

Yes, very worrying that you are sticking up for it.

If you did the quite simple math then you would have worked it out jorah.

Well, clearly I'm incapable of quite simple math. Go on, enlighten me.

So stop trying to make some sort of ridiculous point that most people would believe very wrong indeed.

Yes, because people have been falling over themselves to agree with you on this thread

I think 'arf' is just MN speak for lol.

full I don't disagree with you that if a 30/40 whatever year old was actively seeking out a sexual relationship with a 16 year old that I would wonder about it. What I see from here though is you using hysterical language and accusing a poster of being a predator, and telling a grown woman she was used by a predator. It's goady. And unnecessary. And by using a blanket term of paedophile/predator for any man who engages in a relationship with a younger woman you make yourself sound silly. (And the wrong term, a paedophile is someone who seeks out the pre-pubescent.) 16 is the age of consent, and whilst I don't doubt you'd have something to say if a grown man tried it on with your 16 year old, realistically, it would be her choice. Not yours.

My gosh, you are some piece of work aren't you jorah?

I'm not the one randomly accusing a man of being a predator full

Randomly? what on earth are you talking about. By my math the girl was 16. I do not and will never condone such a thing and yes, it is predatory in my view.

All mrdaddy said was "we have been together over 10 years im much older actually shes 28 im in my early 50.s"

What maths have you done to work out that she was exactly sixteen? By the way - sixteen year olds do have their own minds. It isn't just "ooh shiny an older man I must have sex with him".

Alright, well have fun with that view. I wonder what the world must be like for people like you, seeing predators around every corner.

Over 10 years is the clue here jorah. Do you have any teenage children by the way?

16 year olds, do of course, have their own minds, a child at birth has their own mind.

As for asking what the world must be like for people like me, it's a world full mostly of great stuff but, again, if my daughter brought home a much older man and we are talking "much older" here, at 16. I'd be besides myself with worry as most parents would. I would also think there was something very odd and unsavoury about him.

Is fulldutypaid new?

The longest relationship I've had (8 years) was with a man 15 years my senior. It began when I was 18. Nothing dodgy at all. My parents weren't thrilled at first but they grew to love him.

Since that ended, I've slept with a man almost ten years my junior. It was excellent. In no way would I rule out a relationship with the age gap you mention. I'm approximately the same age as you now.

Are any of you parents of teens? if not, then wait until you are, you're views may change considerably.

In fact, all the men I've seen since my last relationship ended have been younger with the exception of one. He was the worst (not a bad person just awfully incompatible). I would highly recommend the younger man.

No, I'm not a parent at all. My parents weren't best pleased, but as I said, when they actually MET him, they thought he was great. I can understand the initial gut feeling, but judging someone purely on age doesn't seem very reasonable, does it?