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3littlerabbits · 03/10/2015 18:48

Probably am unreasonable but basically we have a group of friends, children all at school together, playdates and all the rest. Found out the rest of the are having a party tomorrow evening at one families house with all the children. No invite for us. Feeling quite rubbish about this. Got a real heart sinking feeling about this now. Tell me to get a grip?

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Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 03/10/2015 18:51

Twice now i have inadvertently text a friend to go out/meet up and a group are having a jolly ... its crap .. sorry no help

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 03/10/2015 18:52

No that's tough, not to be included.

Are you sure there aren't other families haven't been invited too? Perhaps there isn't enough space for any more.

DoreenLethal · 03/10/2015 18:52

How did you find out?

Enkopkaffetak · 03/10/2015 18:52

I am sorry op that's horrid to find out.. No I dont think you need to "get a grip" if you have as the only one of your circle there not been invited.

brummiesue · 03/10/2015 18:53

No its shit sorry, have you/your child fallen out with any of them??

cuntycowfacemonkey · 03/10/2015 18:56

Ouch that sucks Sad

AimlesslyPurposeful · 03/10/2015 18:56

It is tough when this happens but it may be that there just isn't room to invite the whole group and their children.

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3littlerabbits · 03/10/2015 18:57

No falling out, we've had 2 of the dc at ours all day today. One of the dads came to pick up and when there was the usual not wanting to go home he said words to the effect of oh don't worry you've another fun thing tomorrow and x,y,z will be there remember. I just stuck on the fixed grin at that point.

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3littlerabbits · 03/10/2015 18:58

Thanks for the replies by the wayWine

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catfordbetty · 03/10/2015 19:00

Do something nice yourselves - this calls for an outing.

Witchend · 03/10/2015 19:02

Sounds like you were meant to be invited. Maybe wires got crossed or something.

bessarabiantiger · 03/10/2015 19:03

That's just balls.

Sorry dude, I'm never sure what's worse, not being invited at all, or getting the calls/text that says 'oh we'd LOVE to have you too but there's not enough room etc etc.

Do you want to come to my house for a jolly with the kids? We have boats and a lake and archery equipment. We can totally stamp on their barbeque or whatever the crap it is.

TheDailyWail · 03/10/2015 19:03

I've had that happen to me. Oh, it hurt my feelings so much! I hope you're not as bad as me though because I was MISERABLE for a couple of months. Honestly (I can say it now) it's not worth wasting any time being sad.

QOD · 03/10/2015 19:03

Ah I'm so sorry. Flowers

Itsmine · 03/10/2015 19:03

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3littlerabbits · 03/10/2015 19:04

No, he was saying it to his kids, not mine unfortunately. Catford you're so right!

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3littlerabbits · 03/10/2015 19:06

Argh crossposts and bold fail! Fab.

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Bambambini · 03/10/2015 19:08

Maybe, it really is a misunderstanding. Depends if this is a one off. It does suck though if you think you are being left out. I had a biggish group of friends and we all used to get together as families. Then kids not getting on made it difficult and we all branched off a little to make it more manageable but maintained the adult friendships if the kids weren't there.

Sometimes kids cause problems, not saying it would be yours but they can make things difficult sometime.

Aeroflotgirl · 03/10/2015 19:08

If you have been excluded, I would seriously distance myself, they obviously not as good friends as you thought. That is crap Sad

DoreenLethal · 03/10/2015 19:10

Perhaps send them an invoice for childminding.

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3littlerabbits · 03/10/2015 19:11

Haha tempting Doreen
Had a lovely day today, fucking gutted now.

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Aeroflotgirl · 03/10/2015 19:14

Does not look like amisunderstanding. His how did you find out?

MissMarpleCat · 03/10/2015 19:15

Just turn up anyway Grin

Cloppysow · 03/10/2015 19:15

Do they ever have your children for the day?

Aeroflotgirl · 03/10/2015 19:16

How do you know it's everyone out of your group? I woukd be tempted to text party host, heard there's a party for the gang, what time do we arrive? Watch them squirm Grin