school drop off

[50shadesofmeh]

ok very trivial matter but not sure if I'm hacked off unnecessarily , at start of week my neighbour and i who have an arrangement for school drop offs, says to me she will take kids tuesday wednesday , ok i say i will take them thursday friday but on wednesday morning my whole family slept in, so we each did our own school run, i told her right away so she could take her own child in time and not wait on us. we took her child yesterday and today was a mexican stand off to see who would take the kids, which culminated in us having to go 2 days in a row , who's turn was it do you think?

Bingo

Nice to know i have anxiety and depression because of something thats inherently wrong in me . Great understanding of mental health problems mumsnet.

Look OP. Your first post described your agreement for this week.
It didn't in any way indicate that it was/should be conditional.
My guess is your neighbour didn't know that either.

If I were your neighbour and no other conversation was had since 1) we agreed to do the t/w and t/f share AND 2) you didn't say after your lateness on Wednesday, to her directly 'well as i am now taking mine today, you can take your own on Friday' I would be expecting you to take my children because we had mutually agreed that you would do Friday.

That sums THIS week up really.

This is why YABU.

And don't drip-feed. It's really...bloody...annoying!

Anxiety and depression does mash up your thinking so it is always a a good idea to take a step back and try really hard to see if you are being unreasonable. You took the kids anyway and haven't been off with your neighbour so you haven't in fact behaved unreasonably, you're just feeling unreasonable.

The thing to remember about this type of arrangement is that they won't always run smoothly occassionally you will do more than your fair share and at some point so will your neighbour. IF at some point in the future you feel that maybe it's ALWAYS you doing the extra then it's time to re think things but remember there is a good chance you'll need an extra favour on the school run over the next few years so it never hurts to be flexible with these things.

That said I agree with everyone it was definately your turn!
Hope you feel better soon

Also NEVER EVER use AIBU unless you are feeling very robust or actually don't care if others think you are.

Take your own kids, problem solved.

Still your turn Friday as pre arranged