school drop off

[50shadesofmeh]

ok very trivial matter but not sure if I'm hacked off unnecessarily , at start of week my neighbour and i who have an arrangement for school drop offs, says to me she will take kids tuesday wednesday , ok i say i will take them thursday friday but on wednesday morning my whole family slept in, so we each did our own school run, i told her right away so she could take her own child in time and not wait on us. we took her child yesterday and today was a mexican stand off to see who would take the kids, which culminated in us having to go 2 days in a row , who's turn was it do you think?

It was your turn today. You all slept in on Wednesday, the day she had agreed to do, meaning you couldn't make use of her offer to take the children to school but the offer was still there had you been up in time to be ready. You had already agreed to do Thursday and Friday so why wouldn't she expect that to still stand.

I don't get why people make these arrangements with their neighbours. Just get your own children to school and let them do the same, to avoid any "commitments" and fall outs!

i would have just taken my own child naught to but didn't have the heart to not pick up her child.

Then what are you complaining about, YOU CHOSE to pick her child up had you not she'd have found her own way of getting the kid to school!

Ok she probaly would never have taken your kid to school again but as that seems fine to you!

schools were off on monday, i did 3 day week last week naught.

I rtft.

Part of my brain is numb.

Leave this poor woman alone, OP. I can't imagine that having any regular arrangements with you is doing her blood pressure any good if this is your normal.

i dont fucking know private pike, regretting writing it now.

OP: AIBU?
MN: Yes
OP: No i am not
MN: Yes YABU
OP: No no no
MN:

It was your turn. I would never get into this sort of arrangement, it always ends badly.

so should i have left her to take her own child ? i picked kids up with a smile , i did what was required and stuck to my end of the bargain, i merely made the faux pas of asking on here if i was missing something. the whole arrangement with other people clearly doesn't work, hence my post , i didn't expect the downright nastiness of this forum.

Fucks sake! So she was supposed to take your children on Wednesday, didn't because you slept in. So you now expect her to do an extra day because you had to take your own children to school because of your own error?

Fucking ridiculous. If you honestly believe you are in the right then you have bigger problems than the school run.

I'm picturing everyone involved wearing sombreros and ponchos, twirling their long moustaches.

(Mexicans, I am so sorry for this horrible stereotyping. I will go and educate myself now.)

OP, just post 'I finally get it, I ABU and thanks for helping me see that'

Job done and everyone's friends again.

No, you were asking for everyone to agree with you and when they didn't you got annoyed?!

Unfortunately the op doesn't think she is bu, despite the unanimous verdict on here. Some people are just too pigheaded stubborn to accept they are wrong.

because we take turns about inimitable its not a set in stone agreement.

But you'd agreed at the beginning of the week that you would do two days in succession. I really struggle to understand why you would assume that that agreement had disappeared just because you made it impossible for her to take your kids on Wednesday.

point takemn everyone, I'm clearly a terrible human being with no social skills, in future i will take my own children to school instead of taking part in an arrangement that stresses me out rather than helps me in any way. case closed.

And now she flounces in ridiculous fashion instead of actually realising she was wrong. Honestly. Why bother even posting op?

OP I think you are overreacting; to MN and to the situation. Laugh it off and carry on.

unless I am reading it wrong, you aren't doing every other day though are yuo? She did Tuesday and Wednesday as agreed (you didn't have your children ready for her to take) and you were doing Thursday and Friday (so yes it was your turn) - yes you've done 3 days in a row but that's your fault, not hers. Make sure you are up on time or make your own arrangements in future - that way you'll be doing 5 days instead of 2 or 3 but you will be neither letting people down or relying on others.

What would you have expected if it had been the other way round?

its my fault for volunteering to do friday as it spoiled the arrangement that normally works on a day about basis.

But she'd already done Tuesday and would have done Wednesday but for you not taking her up on it due to sleeping in. You'd agreed to do Thursday and Friday. It wasn't a 'one day on, one day off' arrangement this week. It was two consecutive days for each of you. You can't unilaterally decide to change the rules and then be pissed off that she hasn't read your mind.

Things only went wrong - for you - because you slept in and couldn't take advantage of her doing the Wednesday school run. Things didn't go wrong for her - she did everything that had been agreed.