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school drop off

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50shadesofmeh · 02/10/2015 09:07

ok very trivial matter but not sure if I'm hacked off unnecessarily , at start of week my neighbour and i who have an arrangement for school drop offs, says to me she will take kids tuesday wednesday , ok i say i will take them thursday friday but on wednesday morning my whole family slept in, so we each did our own school run, i told her right away so she could take her own child in time and not wait on us. we took her child yesterday and today was a mexican stand off to see who would take the kids, which culminated in us having to go 2 days in a row , who's turn was it do you think?

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JustCallMeDory · 02/10/2015 09:36

Are you always this petty when you've let someone down, OP?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 02/10/2015 09:37

Of course it's not a crime, it happens to all of us. Surely you can understand that she shouldn't have to do an extra day because of your mistake though?

JustCallMeDory · 02/10/2015 09:37

Xed post - apologies OP

kungfupannda · 02/10/2015 09:38

Well one of you had to do three days out of four - why should it be her when you made the mistake?

JustCallMeDory · 02/10/2015 09:39

this doesn't work for us

So, just to get this straight, you ran late for one day and because of that you're throwing the whole arrangement out of the window - meaning you'll both be doing the school run 5 days a week? Or did I get the wrong end of the stick again .

DamnBamboo · 02/10/2015 09:39

It was your turn.
You said you would take them on Friday!
How old are you OP?

PatriciaHolm · 02/10/2015 09:47

Grown women with school aged kids don't have "Mexican standoffs" about the school run. They have adult conversations about who's turn it is and solve it very quickly like that. And they don't throw their toys out of the pram and cancel the while arrangement because it didn't go their way the first week!

tiggytape · 02/10/2015 09:48

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3littlebadgers · 02/10/2015 09:48

You changed the plans on Wednesday which meant she couldn't take the children in. She still ended up taking in her own so there was no benefit to her. Had you kept to the arrangements, and woken up when you should have done, you wouldn't have done the school run that day. WEDNESDAY only didn't work because of you.
You had originally agreed to Friday, she has done everything in her power to stick to the plan why wouldn't you? You should have done the school run and I think if there was a Mexican stand off this morning you really need to be apologising to her for being out of order. Chances are you have really got her day off to a bad start for no reason. Poor neighbour.

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50shadesofmeh · 02/10/2015 09:49

there wasn't i took them this morning, how did i get her day off to a bad start?

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UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 02/10/2015 09:51

It was your turn - I don't think anyone would say anything else. So you slept in on Wed, not a crime, no - but not her fault either. It wasn't down to her that she didn't drop your dc off on Wed, and doesn't negate your agreement for Friday.

LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 02/10/2015 09:52

It was your turn today! You mucked her about on Wednesday, otherwise you wouldn't have had to do the school run yourself.

Mexican standoff?

PansyGiraffe · 02/10/2015 09:53

If it was a Mexican standoff, that suggests she knew that it was happening. If you just didn't turn up, hoping that she would give up and call for yours, then presumably everyone was running late by that point. And judging by your post on here, you had a reet stroppy cah face on when you did take her children.

If I were her I'd be the one cancelling the whole arrangement if this is how it's gone. It's not particularly convenient for her if she never knows whether you'll really be taking her children as agreed.

auntyclot · 02/10/2015 09:53

You sound pathetic. It was your turn today.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 02/10/2015 09:53

It wasn't a Mexican stand off though was it? It was you not fulfilling your side of the agreement to do Thursday and Friday.

Why you not being able to get your act together on Wednesday has the least bearing on you renaging on the agreement today I don't know.

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50shadesofmeh · 02/10/2015 09:53

we work on a taking turns basis normally , i.e. if someone does it one day then the other does it next, as due to our shifts its not something we do every week, its my fault for volunteering to do friday as it spoiled the arrangement that normally works on a day about basis.

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UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 02/10/2015 09:54

OP, you are sooooo totally in the wrong here. You really are.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 02/10/2015 09:55

Op, can I ask why you think she should have taken them? You made the mistake on Wednesday, so why do you think she should be penalised?

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50shadesofmeh · 02/10/2015 09:56

we weren't late but there was a period of time where neither of us knew what was happening, i decided it had better be me as i didn't want the kids to be late. when i referred to a mexican stand off i meant she hadn't asked me if i was taking the kids. i took them , they got there in time, I'm pissed off on mumsnet that it was assumed that i was taking them, not to her face.

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NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 02/10/2015 09:56

You took them after a Mexican standoff that's how you got her day off to a bad start. Rather than just doing what you'd already agreed to do the Friday school run, because no matter what happened on Wednesday it was your turn. You decided to make a fuss and make it difficult!

You over slept Wednesday doesn't come in to the agreement, you didn't take her children on Wednesday, so either way one of you would have had to do an extra days run why should it be her when she was up in time your punishing her for being the one that stuck to the agreement she would have taken your children on Wednesday. It wasn't her fault you had to do extra it was yours!

InimitableJeeves · 02/10/2015 09:57

Do you think that maybe starting a day with a stand-off for something you thought she had agreed to might have been a bad start for your friend?

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 02/10/2015 09:58

It was assumed you were taking them because you agreed to take them on Friday. She presumably assumes every Friday your taking them just like you assume she's taking them every Tuesday abd Wednesday or do you phone her every week and ask if it's ok, in which case there's no agreement!

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50shadesofmeh · 02/10/2015 10:00

it was only agreed i would take them today if she took mine wednesday , in the end that wasn't required with plenty of notice, surely it would occur to someone that the situation had changed?

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MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 02/10/2015 10:01

You agreed to do Friday so stop being pissed off you had to do Friday you wally.

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50shadesofmeh · 02/10/2015 10:02

we decide on a weekly basis normally dependent on who took them the day before, we don't do it every week as my partner and i work and sometimes have childcare instead, so yes it normally goes that we work it day about.

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