Help me make this choice" (cat related) (title amended by MNHQ)

[LeftMyRidingCropInTheMortuary]

Hi all,

I had a previous thread in AIBU about getting a cat - perhaps someone clever could post the link? The vast consensus was that i should re-home an older cat due to my circumstances:
I'm out 12hrs 5 days a week for work but at home evenings and weekends. I live alone in a spacious, quiet flat in a cul-de-sac with a large shared garden. I don't really go on holidays. There are some other cats in the area.

OK fine. So I went to the local rescue today and am now torn between 2 cats and need to decide: Both are 9yr old females with no health problems.

Cat A: Not used to other cats. Affectionate - rubbed head on my hand and licked & purred but doesn't like to be picked up. Was a tiny bit scratchy and hissy at one point.

Cat B: Nice & small. Clung to me for dear life - incredibly affectionate. Was like having a baby in a wrap-thing. Used to other cats.

The cat sanctuary people said either would be fine for me but I was surprised Cat B could be left alone for long periods. They have no particular concerns about Cat A with other cats - it just hasn't been tested yet!

I love them both already and am completely torn.
Any advice would be really appreciate, thank you.

Ugh... I was referring to the OP's 'Friends' reference, which is where she heard it. I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone. Actually, am I allowed to reference that film, or is someone going to find a way to have an embolism over it?

Phoebe - Ross what about you, which would you give up, sex or food.
Ross - sex
Phoebe - ok what about sex or dinosaurs
Ross - oh my god it's like Sophie's choice.

Funny.
And still funny even though I know what Sophie's choice is.
Lighten up people.
Inappropriate comedy is a part of life.

Do people really do this? Adults, I mean?

Just walk around saying things they don't understand?

"Someone just said something on Friends. I don't get the reference but I'll gormlessly ape it and adopt it into my vocabulary. That sounds a good idea. At no point will I look it up. Absolutely not."

Rinse and repeat for 1000 different films, songs and TV programmes.

Really?

*food. He chooses to give up food. I must have sex on the brain. Ha ha

And over the same 10/15/20 year period the same person has successfully managed to avoid accidentally finding out what Sophie's Choice was about?

Okay then.

That's pretty determined stupidity.

Yes, people do.
Every single person everywhere uses expressions without knowing the background
And if you say you don't you're full of shit.

I just checked for some common phrases. There are backgrounds with them. list25.com/25-common-sayings-and-where-they-came-from/

I have chosen "cat got your tongue" (because I'm hilarious :p)

Meaning: Something said when a person is at a loss for words
History: There are two possible sources for this common saying. The first refers to the cat-o’-nine-tails – a whip used by the English Navy for flogging. The whip caused so much pain that the victims were left speechless. The second refers to the practice of cutting out the tongues of liars and blasphemers and feeding them to cats.

Even something as simple as that has a horrible background.

We all use expressions like that without knowing where they came from.

Bear in mind that Friends' writers got away with the joke because Ross was Jewish

Every single person everywhere uses expressions without knowing the background
And if you say you don't you're full of shit.

That's pretty aggressive and certain considering you don't know who I am.

But, yes, in general, a century or 3 both obscures things a bit and ensures you are less likely to inadvertently going to cause offence to (for e.g.) the daughter of a holocaust survivor by dumbly parroting something 'Ross from Friends' said.

It is undeniable that referencing past plagues, wars, instruments of torture is slightly safer.

But all your bluster definite isn't really disguising the dumbassery.

Well done with your new Mistress & OverLord, OP! We want piccies soon.

storm in a teacup the rest of the thread

Well done OP, you've made the right choice with the tortie, I think, and I like Kenzo as a name, even if you didn't get to choose it. Lily will find a new slave soon enough who is at home more often, but you're so sweet to stay interested in her. Why don't you post in litter tray next time, everyone's really lovely there and you can find lots of advice about your new boss/owner (but posting pics is pretty well compulsory)

Thanks everyone! I'm v surprised how comfortable she is already! Purring and alternating between my 2 sofas and my bed! :-)

Excited about reading her a Bedtime story and snuggling up for our first night together!

Definiteissues - you are the cat's whiskers!

I got a Cat A type. He bit my arse on first viewing!! He turned into a lovely, if psychotic moggy. Sadly, he's now very aged and very muddled but he's been a fun companion. I also have a B type but for 2/3 of her life I was working part time of full time at home. I now work full time and she's ok but needs contact when I get home.

Enjoy your moggy!

I have a name suggestion. As you're in Scotland why don't you tweak it slightly and call her Kenzie (short for Mackenzie) which imo is a cool cat name. She'll still answer to it, there's barely any difference in the sound.

yay she's lovely

Thanks, Northern! I will probably just call her "babe" or "precious" like I called all my previous pets. And boyfriends!

You entirely missed my point. I was not making a point about whether people should or shouldn't know. I was making the point that they don't. If you care to read my post again I chose that specific link with that specific reference so that I could copy and paste the amusing in relation to the thread "cat got your tongue"
For the purpose of this thread and the point I was making, I do not need a link with citations. But thanks anyway, appreciate the effort you made much more than the 2 second google and click on the first link I found job I did I'm sure

The main point is you are being bloody ridiculous. SHE DIDN'T KNOW WHAT IT MEANT. As soon as she realised, she apologised and got the thread title changed.

OP I fear you're going to have to donate a kidney or something now, nothing else will make up for the mistake you made without you know, knowing what you were saying.

(I eagerly await a post telling me kidney transplants are not a joke and that I am out of order. I can join your club OP)

I'm too scared to ever say anything again!
I'm a scaredy-CAT! ;-)
Funnily enough, no-one in real life is as touchy as folk on MN!

Feed your new cat your tongue and you shall never have to speak again ;)

For example, I just said there "I'm starving"...so that's out, presumably. Then I nearly said "I'm knackered" - making fun of horses being ground up for glue?!!

There are genuinely enough things to get offended about, I reckon! I try to only get outraged if it's really required! It takes up too much energy!

Exactly! And I didn't realise that's where "sleeping with the fishes" and a horse's head in the bed came from. I only saw the film a couple of years ago!

And I'm not stooopid, honest!!

I've never seen the godfather. Seems I have a lot to learn!
What is an offer he can't refuse? (CBA to google)

For example, I just said there "I'm starving"...so that's out, presumably. Then I nearly said "I'm knackered" - making fun of horses being ground up for glue?!!

There are genuinely enough things to get offended about, I reckon! I try to only get outraged if it's really required! It takes up too much energy!

And I'm not stooopid, honest!!

Just stop saying things, FGS.

Just stop getting outraged for no reason, FGS.