Aibu to stand my ground (child related)

[wibblypig1]

Just wondering if you can put this into perspective:

11 year nephew has just been taking the piss out of my skin (postnatal related acne). My brother was there - he told him to stop it, but he persisted, saying he thought my son had drawn on the spots whilst I was asleep. My brother sniggered a bit but told him to be quiet. He still carried on, then his younger brother joined in. It's something I'm sensitive about, as my brother knows.

It's the 11yr olds birthday soon - I told him every time he laughed he lost £2.00 off his present. I'm tempted to give him £2 in an envelope, signed by Your Spotty Aunt. My husband was horrified and is still smarting about it now. AIBU to stick to what I said to show him that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar?

TIA x

I wouldn't give the little shit any fucking money. Fuck "more flies with honey" - he's 11 YEARS OLD. How about a card that says "Next time, don't be so fucking rude"? Hope he gets acne when he hits 13.

Ha ha - thanks Ten!! Love it. If only I had the balls!!!

I don't think YABU. I suspect your brother will though!

He is 11, he really should know better than that. If that is how he speaks to an adult, how does he treat his fellow pupils at school?

May he be smited with adolescent acne! (only half-kidding...)

LOL tenforward - cross posts but we both wish him acne!

I would be tempted to give him nothing as well. 11 is plenty old enough to know when you are upsetting someone and I would tell your "D"B that he's a tool....

Well I wouldn't give him anything, and I would be having strong words with my brother. I wonder if I would be cruel enough to mock nephew when he gats acne or his voice breaks. No I wouldn't.

Just wait a year or two and the little fecker will be covered in spots!

I would definitely stand your ground. His behaviour was nasty and spiteful and he should learn the consequences of his actions. Because one day sow one might turn round and thump him!

Like your style!

How much would you usually give him? A fiver (if noticeably less than you'd usually give) and the usual card etc with no mention of the spots might subtly remind him you don't make empty threats.

When your nephew gets spots as he will when he hits his teens I would just be temped to say Karma to him.
And give him nothing, he needs to realise actions have consequences, he might get thumped for saying stuff like that when he is older to the weong person. better he learns now.

Littlef00t I expect that will elicit a whiny "Where's the rest of my money? Why did you only give me a bit?" The 'Spotty Aunt' bit may serve as a reminder.

However, I still wouldn't give him any money, certainly not without a heartfelt apology, but doubt I would give him money even then.

he wouldn't get tuppence ha'penny off me rude little shit and your brother is as bad as he was clearly encouraging him and not enforcing what he was saying.

I wouldn't even invite them round again

Yanbu.Don't give him anything then sit back and wait for his teen years.You'll have the last laugh.

He is old enough to know better... he was told to stop and he didn't. Oh and Birthday money isn't a 'right' so... YANBU.

My mum.. who loves my kids very much has always made it clear that birthday gifts are just that... given because the giver wanted to, and if my kids forgot to say thankyou etc, then they would miss out next time. She means it too, and actually I think it does them no harm (and no they haven't ever failed to thank her properly!!)

I would not tolerate that from my 7YO let alone an 11YO! Swine!

DSis 1 had a rough time. Periods early, put on a lot of weight, acne.

DSis 2&3 teased her mercilessly. I wasn't living at home by then and I was absolutely fuming when I overheard it one day.

Skip forward 10 years. Youngest DSis also got fat and have acne.

DSis1 is smug and silent whenever they complain.

Definitely follow through. I have a 12 year old who can overstep sense of humour sometimes. She doesn't hear threats and protestations. She understands consequences.

My DB and I are very close and a lot of teasing goes on but in similar circumstances we would close ranks on our offspring till they get the message.

A) You're being way oversensitive

B) Nevertheless, nephew was being a toerag.

You should carry though on threat.

You're being way oversensitive

Er, WHAT?

So if someone teases you about being fat, you wouldn't be offended, eh? Or wearing glasses, or having a big nose? That's all cool, is it?

Do not give him ANYTHING!!!

Yanbu, but you should have given the little twit a telling off. Old enough to know better.

I wouldn't give him anything at all.

I don't think I'd even have any contact until you've had an apology from him and his father.

I would've told the little shit off at the time. Text your DB now and tell him his little shit has really upset you and it better not happen again

I wouldn't really worry much about his birthday, you won't make much of a point to an 11YO. It's one of those things adults think matter but children couldn't care less about x

YANBU I think you should follow through and definitely sign it Your Spotty Aunt so it makes him think.

Your DB shouldn't have sniggered- he should have bollocked him.

Wow, I'd be more pissed off that your brother didn't read him the riot act. You don't owe your nephew gifts, they're a lovely optional extra. On his birthday hand him an empty card and simply say "happy birthday, fucker" and leave the house.

I'm joking. maybe

I've had a lot of acne. It's heartbreaking to be teased about it. There is NOtHINg you can do to get rid of it. Well I lie, Mine was hormonal and a few times antibiotics did work but then I just had a peely face instead