To expect discretion in Gym changing rooms.

[Drew64]

What is it with men who parade around the changing rooms naked, without a care in the world?
After 9 hours at work and an hours commute the other day, I was crouching over my bag sorting out my gym gear when I became distinctly aware of a cock, balls and arse inches from my face as he admires himself in the mirror next to me. I lie NOT! it was swinging away less that a foot away!

Now I have to say that in no way do I have a problem with nudity, even in the company of the same sex. When I change at the gym I don't do so under a towel, I'm just discrete about it and don't parade myself around in front of strangers.

It seems to be middle aged men too, not that I have anything against middle aged men, I'm one myself but come on fellas, be a bit more discrete. I don't want your tackle swinging in my face and if you want to admire yourself in the mirror then please wrap a towel around yourself of put some underwear on!

Lol!

I can't imagine why they would think everyone else would want a look. Its common courtesy really.

It's not just men who do this, the same can be seen in the women's changing rooms.

It doesn't bother me though.

Not quite the same worra

It's exactly the same

A naked person is a naked person

Oh. Sorry. Yanbu OP. Don't want to be smacked in the face be a swinging willy.

God, I wish I could just get nude and change. I live in the Middle East so even the same gender aren't supposed to be nude with each other. I hate trying to change while holding up my towel.

I meant that you don't get swinging willies and balls in the ladies' changing rooms. 'twas just a little jokelet. The emphasis of the 'quite' didn't come through because I can't use this flaming' keyboard properly. Sorry.

Oh I see

I'm wondering how the OP got cock, balls and arse in his face.

Unless the guy had his dick on back to front...

Were his genitals really right in your face? Why didn't you say something? But beyond that, yes YABU. There is a difference bw walking around naked and 'parading' and it is a changing room of a gym. You don't get to set the standards about how much flesh can/can't be on show.

Lots of women walk around undressed in the womens. That's their choice, just as it is mine to use a towel. I don't feel the need to shame them into covering up.

I'm wondering how the OP got cock, balls and arse in his face.

I believe that position is called teabagging, and certainly NOT appropriate in a gym locker room!

worra, he was possibly doing the 'I can look through my legs' manoeuvre that an 18th old does so well. Giraffes do that quite well too. Was he in fact a giraffe OP?

How old was he OP?

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Ahh a teabagging giraffe

Of course!

In our club changing room it's entirely up to you. Some people strip off completely matter-of-factly, iyswim, others cover up to some degree or other. It's generally no biggie at all but we were absolutely gobsmacked when one mother complained that there were naked women in the women's changing room and that her poor DCs were traumatised by it. WTF?

YANBU. And boys over 7 have to use the male changing room and witness it. Ds3 (9) described it as "disturbing" last week.

Your son is disturbed by the site of naked men? How odd.

I don't like it either OP and I'm no prude. I just don't want to see some other woman's minge, ta very much. As a result, I change and shower at home. Not always practical, I realise, depending on where your home and gym are and what your routine is, but YANBU - its very off-putting.

Change under a towel if you want, but you can't expect everyone else to do the same.

I hate this language of 'parading' and 'strutting' etc that always comes up in discussions about people being naked in changing rooms. I certainly do neither and, IME, nor do most people.

It's just bodies.

I really don't care how people change and whether they parade. It's just a body. We all have one.

Yabu, it's just a human body. I don't see the problem.

Prude: a person who is easily shocked or offended by things that do not shock or offend other people.

juneau

Yanbu. There is a difference between just getting on with it and dangling your bit near someones face.

I was changing with dd in our gym after swimming and a women came in, whipped her swim suit off, leaned over dd to open her locker. Her boob briefly rested on dds shoulder who turned round and just said 'really? You could have just said excuse me?' She was 10 at the time and yes found it disturbing that someone would invade her space to the point their boob was on her shoulder. It's just wrong.

I really don't care for the 'it's only nudity' . Nudity has a time and place and boundries. Being in someone's face of touching them is not ok.

I'm not shocked or offended. I just find it a bit - well - exhibitionist and gross tbh. Oh well, maybe I am a prude. Prude and proud

Not another changing rooms at the gym thread.

There's nothing to be ashamed of, but equally, there is nothing to show off about. Why the need to admire oneself in the mirror in a public place. If you really must, do it at home.