to wonder what if feels like to be a beauty?

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I don't think I am ugly and probably just missed being prettyish by a nose, literally. I am older now late 30's and I can't complain I have been in a loving relationship with my husband for 21 years and while my looks never opened any doors they didn't really hold me back except from the odd wobble induced my by own insecurities.

Having said all that I do still wonder at times what is it like to be so beautiful that people just want to be around you and see the best in you. I am not for a minute suggesting beautiful women have it easy, beauty carries with it its own set of problems to be sure.

What is it like to get on a bus or enter a room have everyone turn to look at you?

I've been quite fat and slim and I suppose there is a difference then at my thinest (a nightmare to maintain as I had to starve myself to keep under 9 stone 7lbs) was the only time men ever tried to pick me up, chat me up etc. I was young at the time and it was validating to my poor self esteem but in the end I prefered the food so I gained a stone and then the only men that were interested in me where the ones I knew well who actually wanted to be my boyfriend however I met my husbad very young so it is all moot.

As I'm definitely not beautiful I don't have to worry about this I presume!

It is sad about the jealousy from other women, I am lucky not to be a jealous person sure I have looked at another woman and though wow I wish I was as pretty as her but I haven't hated them for it. I used to work with a woman with an amazing body, she had a lovely bosom and like to show it off. She was in my department and I was quite friendly with her as she was really nice. At a works night out I got cornered by some older women from another department who wanted me to dish the dirt on how stuck up and in live with herself she was! They all thought she was full of herself because of her body when she wasn't, she was confident in her assets that was all. I was pretty shocked by that.

123 But the guys are really only interested in one thing.
That phrase is such a blast from the past! I remember it being said about the attention prettier friends got. Always hassle freely average with occasional bouta of scrubbing up well. Middle agedly invisible now!
To get an idea of what it must be like, just visit certain ahem, less enlightened, countries. It's horrendous, not just the practical hassle of trying to get things done, but the headspace taken and sheer disappointment at realising that you are literally a potential shag for every man who talks to you.

I am not beautiful in the slightest but I have always been slim and tall. that has caused some female jealousy over the years with many jibes about not needing to go on a diet or needing to put some weight on.

I have a friend I met in my teens who is beautiful, really good looking. I was a bit wary of her at first and didn't think she'd like me or be my friend because of her gorgeousness (which was my prejudice), she was/is a lovely person, friendly, bubbly, she's genuinely beautiful.
We had an aquaintance at the time who was also a very very good looking girl. But- it was all about her looks. Any conversation with her revolved around how girls hate her because she's so beautiful, how she got attacked in a nightclub for being so beautiful, how she was glamour modelling but didn't get a lot of jobs because the other girls were jealous of her and wouldn't work with her, her boyfriends were all insanely jealous and dumped her because they couldn't handle the attention she got, on and on it went. Her mum was just as bad telling us all the daughter had trouble with all her friends because they were so jealous etc etc. Like Samantha Brick but 10 years prior. They just couldn't see that people avoided her or dropped her quickly because she just wasn't a nice person! No-one wanted to hear her constant shit! (I forgot to add above that she was comparing herself to other girls we knew socially, saying the girls that attacked her were ugly bitches, often suggesting she didn't know why HE was with HER etc.)

Oh, I read that back and realised I went off track a bit. My point was, friend was beautiful and very very popular due to being a lovely person and nice to other people. Aquaintance was beautiful and not liked due to being obsessed with her looks and nasty to other people. She obviously didn't deserve to be attacked at all but it the friends who were with her had rather a different story as to the lead up to it which revolved around her saying the group were looking at her, how they must be jealous because they were ugly bitches and she was overheard.

I was a plain child but was very pretty in my 20's. I couldnt handle the attention off men because I still saw the ugly teenager i used to be when I looked in the mirror. I also hated being a trophy, none of my relationships lasted because i attracted men after eye candy who had nothing in common with a quiet, shy , bookish blonde.I think if you have always been pretty the 'Halo Effect' whereby people worship at the altar of beauty is getting out of hand these days. Its all about the external. I find it really depressing.

Fucking narcissists like Kim kardashian etc. hasn't helped

IT depends on the beautiful person op doesn't it.

What many young don't realise is the power that beauty has. You realise its a power but you don't know how to use it, best line ever - beauty wasted on the young.

Its great to be attractive but people have odd perception of you -always labeled and judged.

but its a small price to pay really, as life is so much easier socially and generally esp if your quite shy but it doesn't necessarily mean true love or happiness in that regard.

sazzle agree a friend said best time to meet man was when pucking over a loo and its true, if a man likes you in that state true love, rather than always being attractive.

My friend is beautiful, I am at best "interesting" looking. I remember meeting two lads who were friends of a friend years ago. They totally ignored everything I said, as they gazed at her with their tongues hanging out lapping up everything she said.
15 years on...we were all at a get together and one of these guys was there. He had aged really badly. We said hello's and fair enough when he was at the bar he waved to me to ask if I wanted a drink. One of my mates said "some grandad at the bar is shouting your name- how did he find it out?"

Well I have no idea what it's like to be a beauty but usually when I get on a bus or walk into a shop everyone stops to look at me.....usually because I look like I've been dragged through a hedge backwards reeking of horseshit or two stroke, wearing very unflattering workboots and overalls or jeans and a hoodie caked in mud and god knows what else people usually wrinkle their nose and sidestep away

I've often wondered this TBH. I'm not a total munter but I'm not attractive either - never pretty, even as a child - more androgynous. I don't have a nice body either! But I've never been short of male attention and I'll have been married 20 years in January. So I guess I must be doing ok despite my plainness.

But I do still feel envious when I see other women who are beautiful.

I think it depends a lot on your personality. If you're confident, outgoing and sociable then being beautiful would most likely be fantastic, if you're a socially anxious introvert then it would be one of the worst things that could happen to you, getting constant attention and eyes on you everywhere, even if you try to hide behind big hair and huge sunglasses.

I don't think being stunning does you any favours at all in the end.
A beautiful friend of mine has never had a ltr, no dc, because she's never sure if men like her for who she is or for what she looks like. A bit like if you're really rich I guess.

I do remember one sllightly deranged girl in my social circle in my 20's she was a few years younger than me and very sexy and pretty, half french and super cool. She was started dating one of my friends and all the guys in our group had a thing for her. She was wanting to variously become a singer, get into modelling, DJing, go to art school, act, make techno music, become a photographer when she was basically just on the dole getting drunk and high every night with the men who adored her, cheating on my friend. My friend tried to break up with her several times and she totally lost it claiming to be up the duff, attempting suicide, and finally stabbing my friend this is when he finally did dump her. She was always pretty flaky and finally went bat shit crazy from drugs and disapoinment in life. It was sad really I think she really got by on her looks too much, men would just say what she wanted to hear to try and bed her but not follow up on the offers of help and she had never really had to work hard towards a goal and so didn't have the focus to make things happen for herself. I don't know what she is doing now. My friend is with a pretty normal looking woman now with a baby and all and is really happy.

Was considered pretty when i was in my teens and twenties. People always commenting saying i should go into modelling. I was shy and lacked a lot of confidence. I never ever felt pretty, hated my body, hated men staring at me.
I am now much older. I still get comments now and again but am becoming more invisible as the years progress. I also feel its much harder to adjust to ageing and accepting that any looks you may have had are fading. You fall from a greater height!!!

It's not all it's cracked up to be, looks fade but your personality lives on. This is from someone who was considered beautiful when younger, still, apparently, brushes up well. If I had my time again I would have done things differently, but then again so would most of us.

I also notice that so many beauties struggle to maintain long term relationships well at least those I know and those in the public eye. Why is that, perhaps they just have more options so can cut out when the going gets rough or perhaps they are more demanding or maybe they attract the wrong kind of men? I did read that men like to date "hot" women but prefer to marry average women.

It can be very flattering and you might find yourself to be the 'lucky' one. But in my experience it completely overshadowed my work capabilities (highly intellectual job) & people attributed all my success to my looks rather than my good work. At times it was frustrating, even hurtful. While it boosts your confidence to know that you can have anyone's attention in a snap, It does overshadow your other aspects & can sometimes feel like a disadvantage.

My mum would tell me I was ugly when I was younger so I believed her, I had buck teeth , needed braces. I scrub up well now apparently as people tell me I am stunning but I don't see it myself, I think I am attractive at tops. My oldest daughter however is stunning and I worry for her with jealousy etc down the line

Dame. Sorry to say this but your mum sounds awful.

I have an absolutely gorgeous friend who still turns heads in her late 40s. In our clubbing days there was always a queue of men transfixed wherever she went.

It has never caused her any problems whatsoever as she is also the nicest most open and friendly person you could meet. You couldn't be jealous of her.

It is lovely to be in the presence of someone beautiful. I find myself staring at her in awe.

She is a very modest person and has led an ordinary life which she is perfectly happy with, husband, kids, 9-5 job. I don't know why she didn't trade on her looks more eg modelling as she is also tall and slim.

I think it's a major advantage in life to be attractive in appearance.