AIBU about dds nursery staff having lovebites?

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I need to know if im being a twat or not in thinking like this as im really tempted to email the nursery.

Dd goes to a nursery who pride themselves on being professional, outstanding and providing the best care possible.

Dd loves it there, the staff are very on the ball etc etc.

Last week when picking dd up i noticed a staff member in her room has a love bite on her neck. I was alittle taken aback, but very quickly forgot about it.

Now i ve just picked dd up and another member of staff in her room is displaying two small love bites on her neck!

I feel its really unprofessional and i want to send an email off to the manager that they should be covered during working hours.

AIBU?

I had no idea it was allowed to refuse to employ a smoker
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Is it even legal? How would you police/confirm it?

I would think you were shockingly rude to comment on anyone's appearance actually.

I hope the nursery manager puts you in your place to be honest.

If you want to control people looking after your child that much advertise for a nanny and set your own rules.

I am a cm and haven't had a love bite since 1982 but would be livid if a parent commented on my personal appearance as I wouldn't dream of commenting on theirs.

"It's unprofessional."

Nursery staff are not treated or paid as 'professionals' in the UK. They are rarely expected to have qualifications beyond Level 3 (if that). The majority would be delighted to receive even the 'living wage'. They are vastly underpaid, under-appreciated and have poor career prospects. It's viewed (with very few exceptions) as a job - not a career - for young women who aren't academic enough to go into Higher Education.

They are doing the job because they love children. If you want a 'professional' to care for your child in this country, then employ a Norland Nanny.

Oh dear OP. Yes, YABU, but you don't like admitting it do you?

It's not that the vast majority of posters think it's "normal" - it's that we wouldn't care if we saw it, and we think it would be unreasonable to report it. It's a subtle difference, but an important one, because your reply (paraphrased above) has been sniffily worded to convey that you think we are all lacking in judgement.

Still, you're wrong. :)

YABU, I think. The children will not know what those marks are. Nursery staff get paid little enough as it is - it is hardly reasonable to expect them to face restrictions on what they can do in areas of their personal lives that have absolutely no impact on the care they give to the children they work with.

Of course YABU - but thank you for making me smile this Sunday morning

you have said you don't believe they are caused by children. So people are saying, ok, let's assume they ARE caused by sex

You can have a lovebite from a boyfriend or girlfriend without having actual sex with them. In fact I'd assume (from who I have and haven't seen with one) that you're more likely to have one before you start having sex. It's something young couples can do together without going all the way.

Unprofessional. I don't think evidence of a steamy late night neck sucking session is appropriate in a workplace.

Yanbu. It's very unprofessional.