AIBU about dds nursery staff having lovebites?

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I need to know if im being a twat or not in thinking like this as im really tempted to email the nursery.

Dd goes to a nursery who pride themselves on being professional, outstanding and providing the best care possible.

Dd loves it there, the staff are very on the ball etc etc.

Last week when picking dd up i noticed a staff member in her room has a love bite on her neck. I was alittle taken aback, but very quickly forgot about it.

Now i ve just picked dd up and another member of staff in her room is displaying two small love bites on her neck!

I feel its really unprofessional and i want to send an email off to the manager that they should be covered during working hours.

AIBU?

I think they look tacky and wouldn't think the nursery was very professional tbh.

I find it strange so many people think love bites are ok on anyone

Not on anyone over the age 18 l should have added.

Does it affect their ability to do a good job? If not yab massively u.

When I went paintballing with Y10, I was hit by a pellet on an exposed part of my neck, which left me with a mark that looked just like a love bite. (My Y10s ribbed me about it until it faded).

As pp have said, there are no guarantees that it is a love bite!

Any chance they play the violin? They can leave marks on the neck like a love bite...

OP, you can't say anything about not liking love bites on Mnet, I was well told off last week.

Oh dear!
OP I have eczema and sometime it leave marks on my neck that a judgy pants person might think was a love bite. I can assure you that they aren't, to be honest I haven't ever had a love bite, but perhaps you would think otherwise. How would you view me?

Oh for crying out loud, YABsooooU.

Are you sure they are love bites, i burnt my neck with straighteners while engrossed in Real Housewives of Beverly Hills (the shame ..)and it looked like a huge love bite for well over a week. If they are tho, the children wont notice and does it really matter? Are the staff quite young? There is a brief time/age where love bites are something to be giggled over, then teens grow up a bit and get more discreet. (to date i have lived close by to 4 diff nurseries in diff towns and all staff were very, very young).

Yabu. It's none of your business.

I don't even know many primary age children who know what a love bite is. your child will not be scarred for life.

YANBU to find it awkward/unprofessional to have visible love bites in the work place. YABU to clutch your pearls so much. "looking after my children like that" like what? all it is is a bruise, it's not like they're drunk or high... people have sex. even without love bites, they have sex and then go on to do a days work, it's hardly repulsive.

YABU. They are not slaves - what they do in their personal lives is their business as long as it doesn't affect their ability to give care (of course if they were committing criminal offences, getting into fights at weekends etc that would be a different story!)

How the hell does their love life affect their ability to care for your child, YABVVU! Are you their mother??

I got one from a toddler once... And I got one from DP, and didn't notice it until a couple of days later, he hadn't realised he'd done it though I bruise quite easily.

Luckily my boss isn't as ridiculous as you op.

Love bites are not fashionable or usual any more unless you're 14.

Therefore id assume they got it from injuring themselves in the myriad of ways people have described above.

I have a giant 'lovebite' on my neck because I trapped my scarf in the car door when I got out and walked away. So I now have a burn mark which looks like a love bite.

Children in nursery wouldnt have a clue about them

Get off your high horse OP.

The vampires are obviously out and about early this year.

20's is young.

Another one who's had 'lovebites' from her toddler - it's pretty common, OP. My SiL had a very clingy, very oral baby who used to clamp his mouth onto the side of her jaw, just below her ear when she carried him - she looked like she had a massive new lovebite there on a daily basis.

I had a few lovebites during my 20's due to a bit of passion Good for them. Mind your own business, it detracts nothing from their ability to care for your children well.

I'm 34 and would recognise a love bite if I saw one so quite how a preschooler ie going to have her innocence taken away by seeing a bruise I don't know.

My toddler pinched my double chin neck today, I'd say that's a far more likely reason, especially as 2 staff members both have one.

I'm a 38 year old GP and I have my first ever love bite this week
And I have stubble rash on my chin. I feel mortified but shall I not turn up to work until it's gone?
Urgh, it didn't even feel like there was any pressure on my neck just a gentle kissing feeling.
I think I'll survive and YABU. You can just feel proud and smug that it'll never happen to you OP. Maybe

Ask yourself this OP - Does a love bite at all impact on the nursery staff in terms of their ability to do their job? That's all you need be concerned with.

Well my mother must have been lying that I have her a love bite as a small baby. My dad didn't believe her till she handed me over and as I snuggled I started to suckle on neck skin. Both of them had love bites from me as a small baby..,,but as you say babies can't do that they must be lying or dreamt it. Does it matter? A few times DP had got a tiny bit carried away and left me marked I think it's more grown up to know why it's there and to ignore it.

I have seborrheic dermatitis which sometimes look like love bites.

I hope people don't think bad of me

Good for you DrFoxtrot! Im very envious. Not had a bit of passions for a while now