About a weekend away. Answer: yes, I'm totally being unreasonable but need people to give my head a wobble

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I'm going away with my DP this weekend. Without my DC. I feel this should fill me with joy. It doesn't.

It's a gathering organised by some of DPs friends. Loads of people. I know one couple very slightly. I know no-one else. This is the kind of social situation that sends me into meltdown.

Plus, they are all super-cool, super-alternative, super-hot and super-fancy.

I am dowdy, overweight, do a boring job in a boring industry, parent a child ineffectually and generally have nothing to recommend me to anyone outside of my chosen social circle.

I'm driving and we're only staying one night, so I can't even get utterly off my face and pass out as a coping mechanism.

Also, my DP is a lovely, lovely man and I don't want to be a massive killjoy and piss on his chips (he is excellent at and loves large gatherings of people) or be an albatross that he has to support/be nice to the whole time. He's always so positive about time spent with my friends/family (though to be fair, they're all fucking awesome), I feel I should be about time spent with his.

I just want (already) to crawl into a hole and die.

So, how can I cheer the fuck up about this, be positive and try to enjoy it, at least enough to fool my DP into thinking that it's all good.

NoIWont... Which thread? Anything we'd recognise? Brian from hull and yoni massage maybe?

Alpaca certainly not!!

You could be me. New bloke took me to friends party in old house for a weekend. I was petrified i wasnt smart enough or hip enough. Find an outfit you feel good in and chill. I hoiked out a black dress i had never worn and realised it looked pretty good/was perfect for this kinda thing: that helped me feel I would at least blendin. Then i got there, everyone wasnt that hip or stunning , i let him do the talking and enjoyed the food and the decor of the lovely old falling down country pile which took my mind off the other people and unhealthy comparisons. It really wasnt that bad. Tell your partner you are nervous. I did and he was lovely about it, never left my side and i was fine.

You posts reveal you to be down to earth, genuine and really funny. Thats way more important than being 'hip' and shallow.