Pregnant woman buying cigarettes

[RevsDeCub]

I need to settle this debate. I am nearly 38 weeks pregnant & was nipping to the shop on my way home so phoned DP to ask did he want anything. Meaning a drink or a snack...
He asks me to buy him some cigarettes to which I point blank refuse and he goes into a bit of a strop that I won't get him some - I did smoke before pregnancy & we used to buy each other cigarettes if we were at the shop but obviously I don't smoke now! He says he 'doesn't know what the big deal is as they're not for me'.
I couldn't believe he would even ask me to buy some!! My argument is as I am heavily pregnant in my early 20s and there might even be a risk of me getting asked for ID (challenge 25 everywhere) which is embarrassing enough, but whilst pregnant I look like a terrible person for buying them. I will buy beer even though I'm not drinking it, but I see that as being slightly different.
I don't mind buying cigarettes if I'm not pregnant, so it's not that side of things it's the fact I don't want people to think I'm a heavily pregnant woman who smokes especially when I've done so well to give up cold turkey!

FYI, he is giving up smoking once baby comes as I've told him I am not letting our child be exposed to third hand smoke... But... AIBU?

[RufusTheReindeer]

I don't think you are being unreasonable

[Peaceloveandjammydodgers]

My sister recently asked me to buy her a lighter when I took my baby DS to the shop, and I even got a bit anxious about that, so I think YANBU. I used to smoke but quit almost five years ago. It's generally acceptable to drink small amounts in pregnancy, so I didn't feel the same embarrassment in buying alcohol, but I wouldn't have felt comfortable buying cigarettes.
But then I have crippling anxiety and overthink everything, so...

[HaydeeofMonteCristo]

I don't think you were being U!

[noddingoff]

Well done for giving up OP. I'd be getting on his case, you have to do the difficult bit- being heavily pregnant, giving birth and probably breastfeeding, so he can jolly well toughen up and do his bit by quitting. Now.

[Bulbasaur]

YANBU

You're doing him a favor by not contributing to his habit. He can't possibly think that once the baby comes he's just going to magically drop it (he might, but I think he's over estimating himself a bit). Not to mention, it's going to tempt you if he keeps it up while you're still trying to stay clean.

But... if your only reason is because you're worried what other people will think, you may be a tad unreasonable. People are going to judge you for every arbitrary thing once you have the baby, I'd get used to ignoring people. Though, considering you're about ready to burst and your hormones are all over the place, I think you're entitled to being a little precious.

[00100001]

I refuse to buy anyone cigarettes

[Bambambini]

Once my chain smoking mum had a stroke in her 40's - i refused to buy her cigarettes too or bring them in Duty Free.

I agree that he is being selfish not stopping now when you have had to and are the one dealing with pregancy and birth.

[Bunbaker]

YANBU. I wouldn't buy cigarettes for anyone, pregnant or not.

[selsigfach]

I'd judge you for buying cigarettes with a bump. And ditto everyone else, he's a lying sod and no way will he give up when baby arrives if he hasn't done so already.

[Solopower1]

YANBU imo. Really hope your husband gives up smoking asap.

[Singsongsung]

I think YANBU at all. Buying him cigarettes is not the act of a loving partner anyway- you are effectively buying him the means to kill himself and I would never do that. Add in the fact that you are not only heavily pregnant but have also managed to kick the habit yourself and you are most definitely in the right.
I'm still smirking at the pp who said "what's the harm, it's not like you're buying drugs". Er....

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