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Original poster

To start a pro-Dad thread?

112 replies

SarfEasticatedMumma · 20/08/2015 17:10

I love the father of my daughter, because he is faithful, hardworking, loving and my best friend. He is also a fantastic loving father to our daughter.

I am not and never have been 'a viper'.

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happymummyone · 20/08/2015 17:20

I don't love the father of my DD (we've not been together for 4 years) but he is a fantastic father, he takes her to the places I can't take her to, has a set of everything for her at his own house, so she feels at home whenever she stays there, has always paid above and beyond what is fair for maintenance for her. What a lovely thread!

BeautifulBatman · 20/08/2015 17:24

I love my husband. He has patience beyond belief, he's generous and affectionate and I can't wait to see what he makes of fatherhood in approx 8 weeks. He's not my best mate though. Her name is Julie and she's been my bestie for 30 years. Not changing that for no man!

WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 20/08/2015 17:24

DH is currently simultaneously supervising our toddler eating spaghetti while rocking our 6 week old in her bounced while I sit down for 10 mins and have a breather after a tough day with both of them. He's fab.

dilbert19912 · 20/08/2015 17:25

My dp is an excellent father to our DD's, he is actually a better parent than me.

flanjabelle · 20/08/2015 17:26

dp (dds dad) has had a lot of problems. He has been to hell and back because of awful things he has been through. last year he let her (and me) down horribly, it was possibly one of the worst times of my life. He has turned it around. he got help, got clean, and i took a chance and let him back into our lives. I haven't regretted it for a second. He is an incredible father now. he couldn't try any harder with our little girl and she loves him to absolute pieces. nothing is too much trouble for her or me and I can see us having a long happy future together now. He is a good man, who life has handed a crappy deal.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 20/08/2015 17:26

Same here dilbert. DH is much more patient than me and much more fun.

Zame · 20/08/2015 17:28

Can I simultaneously feel that lots of dads are excellent parents and also be a bit viperish?

YUDOTHIS · 20/08/2015 17:28

my kids fathers are assholes can you tell i became a single mum today brilliant thread. take no notice of me and mine- theres good and bad everywhere x

Original poster
SarfEasticatedMumma · 20/08/2015 17:30

Zame can you viperish in playful way?

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flanjabelle · 20/08/2015 17:30

Hope you are ok yudo. I saw your thread the other day, make sure you post if you need any support (if you haven't already). Flowers

Backforthis · 20/08/2015 17:30

I don't understand Confused

Is anyone anti dad?

OddBoots · 20/08/2015 17:31

I'm very fortunate, my dh is a very good man, I love him to bits and he is a great dad.

I've met some real dicks, some are dads, some not - but thankfully he isn't one of them.

notquitehuman · 20/08/2015 17:31

My DH has come home from work and is looking after our 3 year old cos I'm sick and can barely move. He's awesome and probably a much more patient and kind parent than I am!

EmpressKnowsWhereHerTowelIs · 20/08/2015 17:31
Confused

I'm single, childfree and lesbian but I love my dad to pieces. I'd have thought most MNers feel the same way about their dads and the fathers of their DCs. What does that have to do with being a viper?

WeirdCatLadySaysFuckOffJeffrey · 20/08/2015 17:33

My dh is amazing. I luffs him ver ver much.

The idea that everyone on MN is a man-hater is total crap made up by a few fucking weirdos to justify their stupid asshole actions.

ArendelleQueen · 20/08/2015 17:34

My DP is a fantastic man and a wonderful father. He's funny and kind, sensible but sometimes silly. Due to my health problems, he does 95% of the running of our home. He does all the cleaning and most of the cooking. I'd be up shit creek without a paddle without him, both as a partner and as a co-parent to our children.

Theycallmemellowjello · 20/08/2015 17:35

Well, I count myself extremely fortunate to have a kind and wonderful DH and father of my child - I celebrate him everyday. But clearly there are some posters on here who have legitimate concerns (large and small) with their partners/fathers/fathers of their children. And it's completely fine for them to share their views, and that does not make them 'vipers'. Don't get me wrong, I think celebrating the people in our lives, whoever they are, is lovely and important -- but in the wake of the recent MN hack and targeting of MNHQ people by 'dads' apparently pissed off at the site's every existence, I'm not sure that it's the right time to imply that the majority of posters, viperlike or otherwise, are 'anti-dad'. It seems unnecessarily divisive.

ApollO88 · 20/08/2015 17:36

soon2beDH (tho i prefer to call him the manshape), may not have been thrilled to be having DS so young and early into our relationship but he has been a fab father to date and i cant wait to marry him 5 years after meeting him and thinking "yep, this one will do"

ColdSancerre · 20/08/2015 17:36

I love my dad

Backforthis · 20/08/2015 17:36

Exactly WeirdCatLadySaysFuckOffJeffrey.

OddBoots · 20/08/2015 17:37

I thought 'viper' was just another term used because they realised people had cottoned on to how wrong it is to call women bitches just because they have their own opinions and dare to speak them without added fluff. It's just used to dismissively put us in our place.

ChristineDePisan · 20/08/2015 17:37

My dad is brilliant. My DH is a brilliant dad. I'd hate for my children to grow up without either of them in their lives.

InTheBox · 20/08/2015 17:38

What's the point of this thread? Am I missing something?

ollieplimsoles · 20/08/2015 17:39

My husband is amazing, has been my best friend for ten years and I know he will be a wonderful dad to our baby

ThreeFrazzledFandangos · 20/08/2015 17:39

I don't think anyone's anti-dad.

A lot of us are definitely anti-arsehole though.