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Original poster

To start a pro-Dad thread?

112 replies

SarfEasticatedMumma · 20/08/2015 17:10

I love the father of my daughter, because he is faithful, hardworking, loving and my best friend. He is also a fantastic loving father to our daughter.

I am not and never have been 'a viper'.

OP posts:
wickedlazy · 20/08/2015 20:04

No they will read it and get annoyed that we have not been put in our place and scared by the hack. That we are still leading happy lives and using the site to help make life better in various ways. That some men can have nice relationships with women. Why are you so against the thread? Confused

thehypocritesoaf · 20/08/2015 20:08

The op states that she started this thread to show (the critics) that's this place is not full of man haters.

I know it's not full of man haters. You know it's not full of man haters. The whole world knows it's not full of man haters except for a tiny minority of misogynistic Jeffreys. Why on earth is it important to show these twats anything?

SmillasSenseOfSnow · 20/08/2015 20:33

No they will read it and get annoyed that we have not been put in our place and scared by the hack.

LOL. I think they'll find it hilarious that some people felt the need to start a thread praising men just to fend off further attacks. I honestly don't see how this thread shows anyone isn't 'scared'. Quite the opposite.

dilbert19912 · 20/08/2015 20:42

I don't think the thread was started as a prevention of other attacks, unless I have missed something. These nobheads will do it either way, and it's sometimes nice just to hear positive things about the people we love.
If the thread is not your cup of tea, don't participate.

JeffhasAMicroPenis · 20/08/2015 20:52

As a father, I feel so good to read this thread

Honest question chris , why?

A thread about other women being good mothers wouldn't make me feel special. They aren't me. I don't need to be validated by other people's husband saying they like their wives?

To the OP I get why you made the thread, but I think it was ill-conceived.

InTheBox · 20/08/2015 21:05

Tbh this thread reads a lot like 'I'm not homophobic because my best friend is gay' or 'I'm not racist because my best friend is black.'

Totally pointless to celebrate fathers who are being fathers. What should they otherwise be doing?

I don't doubt that there are exceptional men in some people's lives but when it has come to celebrating them like this then that actually speaks a louder message than any sort of platitude being offered by this thread.

Backforthis · 20/08/2015 21:32

'Tbh this thread reads a lot like 'I'm not homophobic because my best friend is gay' or 'I'm not racist because my best friend is black.'

What crap.

InTheBox · 20/08/2015 21:33

Backforthis Thanks for the platitude. Proving my point whilst targeting it. Must be a first for you!

Original poster
SarfEasticatedMumma · 20/08/2015 21:54

Apologies if many of you felt this thread was a bit 'vom' I just thought it would be nice to prove to the haters that we weren't what people assume we are. I meant it in a lightheated small way, but also because I think that MN is unfairly smeared by the press etc for being a hate filled place. Obviously some of you felt this was ill judged, and that it didn't speak for you - fair enough - I don't claim to speak for all of you. I think Mumsnet is a brilliant, irreverent, funny and supportive place, and I was just trying to illustrate that. Maybe not successfully, but I thought it was worth a go.

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Backforthis · 20/08/2015 21:57

No, your comparison is crap. MN is not anti men.

HoneyDragon · 20/08/2015 21:57

I post therefore I Vipe

And a viper I will stay. Regardless of my opinion on the male parent.

Backforthis · 20/08/2015 21:59

I can see you meant it as a nice, positive thing but as you can see ^ the muppets will twist anything to bolster their prejudices.

HoneyDragon · 20/08/2015 22:04

No need to point it's rude, I was only pointing out viper is normally used with fondness on here. Sheesh.

Backforthis · 20/08/2015 22:07

Not you HoneyDragon Grin

More ^ than that.

EmpressKnowsWhereHerTowelIs · 20/08/2015 22:09

I'm proud to be a viper. Prouder yet to be an atrocious cunt.

If I wanted to show the best parts of MN I'd be pointing at Classics, towards the lifesaving ectopic pregnancy thread, the getting together to clean an MNer's kitchen thread, and obviously Woolly Hugs.

HoneyDragon · 20/08/2015 22:11

Phew. Grin

I know things were tense round here but I was a bit Hmm I deserved to be called a muppet for that?

InTheBox · 20/08/2015 22:14

HoneyDragon the comment was meant for me. The ones described as "muppets {that} will twist anything to bolster their prejudices" - as told by Backforthis

That poster obviously doesn't understand basic literacy. I never said MN is anti-men but that sort of poster is the type to fuel these sorts of problems. Smile

WoodliceCollection · 20/08/2015 22:15

Good for you. My dad was a twat and my younger daughter's father is an arsehole who doesn't deserve her. Happy for you that you haven't had to deal with anything like that, but suggest your social skills may appear better if slightly less smug.

G1veMeStrength · 20/08/2015 22:16

MN is a great place and OP I like your enthusiasm.

But haterz gonna hate hate hate hate... Anyway for the record I know some great parents and I hate dickheads regardless of their gender .(Or sex, I forgot which it is.) and I have drunk too much Wine

Shutthatdoor · 20/08/2015 22:21

And it turns nasty....

plantsitter · 20/08/2015 22:28

If we change OUR behaviour to appease the bullies do you think they'll do the same for us and stop behaving like a trolleyful of cock knobblers?

I for one plan to continue exercising my right to be a man hater - dadsec have proved all men are arses (just like they've demonstrated all mumsnetters hate dads).

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 20/08/2015 22:30

I'm proud to be a viper. Prouder yet to be an atrocious cunt.

Hear hear.

DH was effectively a single parent for a good stretch when the girls were younger as I was dealing with some health issues and we had separated. He did a better job of handling it all than I would have.

In all normal day to day stuff we are 100% equal and I wouldn't have it any other way.

My own DDad was never anything but supportive and loving, if a bit distant as was usual for his generation.

ArcheryAnnie · 20/08/2015 23:26

What the hell is a viper?

My dad was a violent drunk. My DS's dad is not a violent drunk. There, I said something positive about him.

daisychain01 · 21/08/2015 04:34

A thread doesn't have to have "a point" or some massive philosophical message, its called Tinternet, see.

I have checked under the bridge and the trolls are all asleep, snoring away, so the coast is clear. Oops sorry - the snoring is DPs.

While on the subject, DP walked over hot molten glass with added hydrochloric acid to gain 50/50 residency for DSS. And the value of having a fab, mad, and fun loving DDad in his life has helped DSS in ways he won't appreciate until he has DC of his own.

Sallystyle · 21/08/2015 05:45

Woodlice

Hmm

My dad is a sociopath and I have met my fair share of violent abusive men. I still don't think the OP was being smug.

I am a vaping viper though!